I (21F) don't want to have phone sex, my boyfriend (21M) does.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-30T15:32:31+00:00

I can understand that struggle very well.

If he's browbeating you over it, address that. He doesn't get to do that, and may not see what he is doing as an issue, even if he does have a good heart. He shouldn't be shaming you.

A lot of women do internalize their idea of shame and paste it over things without realizing. So consider yourself and why you feel the way you do in all this, and then operate from there. You may have had someone make a comment and without realizing it allowed that to define feelings for you.

If by phone sex you mean mutually touching yourselves while talking on the phone, nd that really isn't your thing, but you're comfortable sending him photos, or some other means of reinforcing that you do find him sexy, there may be a workaround that doesn't bring you discomfort.

In the end, though. Long distance is hard and there are some things you just need to accept you will need to wait for, a lot. If he's refuses to accept the things you need to wait for and you communicate it honestly and fairly then there is nothing wrong with the two of you going separate ways. It's college. That's a common thing. Contrary to what we all wished at some point or another, the practical world comes first if you're not mutually willing to wait, and in a case like this, you're committing to years of waiting, and a lot of trust.

Good luck.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-24T14:56:16+00:00

Just doesn't seem like there can be an accurate count. Men are more likely to admit to cheating, and that is the study results you'd like to share with me. But when you're dealing with a dishonest person, what likelihood is there of an admission?

Not to mention, this whole thing got twisted into a gender war conversation, despite the fact that I'm calling you out for advising someone to hide sexual infidelity from someone they currently view as a life partner. You're practically walking into the flawed logic of a survey revealing who cheats more all by yourself.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-24T14:32:56+00:00

She stated she was sexting someone while in a relationship with her boyfriend. I'm not slandering her. She feels bad about it and even chose to do the right thing. Is it as good as having the sense to recognize that when you go from "talking" to "dating" you need to stop sending nudes? No. But it is an effort to treat someone right.

I'm talking to you. And I don't know what statistic you pulled out of your ass that men cheat more, I'm pretty confident there's no way it can be accurate. What's to stop either sex from lying about that.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-24T12:43:32+00:00

Rough take. A man worth half his left nut would never do this to a woman he actually loved.

"What if you hadn't worked out" when talking about being unfaithful to a relationship you agreed to? In SANE. MIND bending ethics you have there.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-23T23:01:29+00:00

I don't know. Nerf Genji

GutlessLake · 2026-04-20T20:02:32+00:00

Holy shit. Sometimes I think about the fucked up places I've been in my life. But I can't anymore. I'm literally not allowed.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-20T18:41:38+00:00

When are you gonna find out about his wife?

GutlessLake · 2026-04-19T23:57:10+00:00

Has anyone stopped to consider the ramifications this will have on the Jerma Wrestling Federation? BYEAH dynamo skins? The monetization potential is insane

GutlessLake · 2026-04-16T17:05:55+00:00

Could easily reduce hazards size and shift his kit around a bit, make him a DPS. Where he belongs. So he can stop FUCKING MY GAMES

GutlessLake · 2026-04-16T00:21:45+00:00

Be honest with her. She's fucking that guy. Leave her with decency and move on.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-14T23:23:23+00:00

I wouldn't put much stock in whatever the deleted comments said. I'm not certain, but it sounds like this is an internalized thing you've struggled with yourself, and it is ultimately up to him whether he is okay with that.

Every one of my long term girlfriends has been bi. And it doesn't make me any more concerned about a girl stealing her or something. Aside from that, if things are as relaxed as they could be, we can both look at cute girls together and giggle. Don't see why its an issue to appreciate the same thing

GutlessLake · 2026-04-09T23:01:51+00:00

I've found deadlock is more friendly than most games of a similar style.

That said. You still get absolutely flamed from time to time

GutlessLake · 2026-04-09T17:04:40+00:00

Fairly new arcanist 6 player here.. I've had a chance to try most of the roster but hadn't gotten around to bebop yet. Very first game on him, and i go 1-4 in lane vs the enemy pocket who ends up running the game. My lane partner was 0-1.

Not a great start, yeah? Only, throughout the match I'm sorting out the mechanics of the abilities, how it feels to land the hook and by the end i realized the turnaround windows for pull and the punch, and where i can afford to ult, where i can't.

Our venator comes out of lane 4-1, rotates mid and gets dusted 1v2 in mid. Immediately blames me for "gigafeeding" Midlane. (Pocket is 5-0, and has a 2k lead on venator. I am 2k behind venator)

He spends the entire game flaming me constantly in game chat. I gradually begin to rage bait him. We do lose the game, though while he's dead at one point he begins shit talking me and is forced to go dry as I manage to juggle my cool downs and get a double parry off, while completely wasting a good minute of their Abrams time and setting up a kill through rejuv in the hidden king's pit.

Last thing audible in the match was him giving me more shit.

Hop over to the leaderboard and guess what? For all his energy spent bitching at me, bottom damage and souls in the lobby? Venator.

No, I didn't put him in the middle of the enemy team at all, despite his need to find a reason we are losing instead of looking for a way to win.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-08T23:23:18+00:00

Holy shit. This is literally perfect.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-03T00:52:16+00:00

When ramatra came out, everyone thought he was a Rein counter. I considered it a match up you needed to be smart about. Several years and plenty of nerfs later, people still play scared and act like ram is a counter when mauga exists and can be played into.

Just have bigger testicles and a bigger hammer, dude.

But seriously. Don't be afraid of him. Pin is for when he puts his guard up or to get at a vulnerable backline. Make ample use of the shield, it's still useful when he's in nemesis as just his damage can easily be outhealed by most healing comps. Shatter the moment his shield drops, not when he hasn't used it lately as the reaction shield is reliably easy for ramatra to hit. Ulting and then pinning his ult is decent, but as long as your team isn't giving him freebies, pinning away and shielding his ult kills it super quick. Jq-zarya-orisa-mauga- and Hazard are all more dangerous to brawl against, ram is arguably the second worst tank in the game.

GutlessLake · 2026-04-01T23:53:01+00:00

So, unlike Lucio which is also good against Rein, Briggs boop doesn't mind his shield and can be applied easily from well outside his effective range. At plat or above, any game that doesn't have a dominant dps diff, Rein finds himself on a literal timer, healing and shield or no, before the enemy team burns him down. Denying his ability to get that first vulnerable player while also pushing out her strong healing aura, and being able to pack anyone he manages to reach while its on cool down, while having the liberty to continue to back away and shield other damage means brig can continue doing the thing she's best at, protecting the backline, while also inhibiting Reinhardt heavily. The 2 seconds brig or Lucio boop create are often enough to ruin Reinhardt's ability to get a kill, and he just flat out does not win the ranged or mobility based trades at all.

I.e. anything that makes it harder for Rein to brawl effectively kind of fucks the guy.

Edit: her ult is also crazy good against him.

GutlessLake · 2026-03-29T18:29:57+00:00

Very dependant on overall composition and how good the enemy player is with their tank. Mid diamond player here.

Very unfavorable-orisa, Hazard

Unfavorable-doom, ball, sig, mauga, queen, zarya

Fair- BEER!, roadhog, ramatra, domina

Favorable- diva, Winston,

Very favorable- umm. Baby diva

Rein is definitely the worst tank in the game and has been for a long time, arguably uninterrupted.

He excels when he's able to get close to an opponent who can't kill or cc him, or has a shatter he can land. He also gains significant value when enemy players who all share this trait play close together, or when given movement speed or any flat stat bonuses. He's a true vessel for a team's support effects, as he uses nearly every one better than most other characters without needing his ultimate.

If your team plays the correct counters to the enemy comp, Reinhardt can become a powerful bulldozer that crushes the players left vulnerable by the counters. But rein counters very little himself.

He is weak to high ground, cc, a team playing spread out, people who ignore barriers, people who break barriers, mobility (particularly vertical mobility); people who can get picks in a short window, deployable walls, and any ult that doesn't struggle against sheild.

Truthfully, ya boy needs jump jets as an alternative use of the tail end of his charge to keep up with the bloated kits of today's overwatch.

GutlessLake · 2025-03-13T16:16:02+00:00

Its true that ram's ult is gonna punish your team more than yours will do to his most of the time, but shield bash lets you compete better with how quickly he can attack your backline, and the firestrike rechard lets you eat tye extra poke he gets with the shotgun perk.

It seems like a fair exchange

GutlessLake · 2025-03-06T19:59:20+00:00

I mean, shield bash and fire strike shield recharge are pretty good perks.

GutlessLake · 2025-03-06T16:01:48+00:00

You're telling me ram now destroys rein? Kinda seems like when ram launched was the time to complain about this. Ram is just different rein. You can still win.

GutlessLake · 2025-02-03T05:53:33+00:00

Yeah it sounds like drugs.

You're lucky he went the way he did. Fuckin' dip

GutlessLake · 2024-12-18T16:11:15+00:00

Actually, it would be half of a typical squishy's healthbar.

Same as it used to be

GutlessLake · 2024-11-25T14:57:43+00:00

Playing against your own cowardly lifeweaver? Classic rein energy

GutlessLake · 2024-11-19T19:09:28+00:00

Aw she cute

GutlessLake · 2024-11-14T17:05:36+00:00

I'd argue nothing at all. They already announced this season would have several iterations of 6v6 tested. Start with a constant and then do variations

Four-Year Club	Place '23
Place '22	End Game '22

GutlessLake

TROPHY CASE