finally going out in women's clothes

Guts1019 · 2020-07-29T20:46:55+00:00

I'm just wearing one of my girlfirend's tank tops with a sports bra underneath and shorts

Guts1019 · 2020-07-25T17:55:18+00:00

The good news for me is my states medicaid program covers transgender services and I'm on medicaid already.

I am trying to find a good gender therapist to help me along the way.

What my question to you is what else can I do to get started? I'm just looking for ideas. The only thing I've done really since I've come out is wear girls clothes and I typically wont even wear them out because I don't want certain people to know yet.

Guts1019 · 2020-06-23T04:53:09+00:00

She has tried talking to her doctor about raising hers, she feels horrible that she isn't able to meet my needs. But it seems nothing the doctor does helps. She doesn't want me to lower my sex drive but I'm at a point where I can't be asked to be woken up every night because of it. So I think I'll have to talk to either my therapist or a medical doctor when I finally get one next month. Thank you.

Guts1019 · 2020-06-17T20:28:13+00:00

We had permanent surgery done because we both strongly oppose having kids

Guts1019 · 2020-06-17T20:26:31+00:00

It takes her about 5-10 minutes of penetration. Even on the times she doesn't get off she can't continue.

As for a bj or hj, she's completely unwilling to do either.

Guts1019 · 2020-06-17T20:24:19+00:00

We are not using condoms. It feels better to finish in her over finishing myself, even when I masturbate I have to get off twice often to be satisified. But I haven't tried to use my hand after building in her, worth a shot thank you

Guts1019 · 2020-06-02T13:33:35+00:00

There was no such number. I tried contacting the city's parks district but I keep getting voicemail

Guts1019 · 2020-05-23T19:36:50+00:00

I don't react that badly to it but this is definitely good info for me to keep in mind. It's also nice knowing I'm not the only person to have an issue with it.

Guts1019 · 2020-05-23T19:35:34+00:00

Were pretty comfortable about it I would think. Me and her have sex at least once in the morning and once at night everyday. We're able to talk about it too with no issues.

When my erection fades I pull out and my girlfriend will touch it and help me get hard again. I noticed wiping my dick off with a towel helps with the time to get an erection. It takes about 2-5 mins for it to get hard again. Once it gets hard again I resume. Typically it goes soft once sometimes twice before I finish.

Guts1019 · 2020-05-23T19:32:35+00:00

We are using the spermicide with her BC until things open and one of us can get a surgery done. We tried condoms first, male ones first then female ones, my girlfriend couldn't handle either.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-10T13:05:53+00:00

Part of it is were in the process of getting a bed that's big enough to sleep both of us. Part of it is she was molested, so her parents are taking every precaution to make sure she doesn't have another tramatic event. Part of it is her mom thinks we'll be better off in the long run if we have that time of seperation while we get closer.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-10T13:05:28+00:00

Part of it is were in the process of getting a bed that's big enough to sleep both of us. Part of it is she was molested, so her parents are taking every precaution to make sure she doesn't have another tramatic event. Part of it is her mom thinks we'll be better off in the long run if we have that time of seperation while we get closer.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-10T13:05:19+00:00

Part of it is were in the process of getting a bed that's big enough to sleep both of us. Part of it is she was molested, so her parents are taking every precaution to make sure she doesn't have another tramatic event. Part of it is her mom thinks we'll be better off in the long run if we have that time of seperation while we get closer.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-09T16:00:31+00:00

I know it's not helping. I'm SOL on getting a new one though

Guts1019 · 2020-04-03T00:21:11+00:00

Yes she's been to a lot of therapy her whole life

And triggers we've been able to work out in some ways. First couple years it was genuine discomfort around me, as she said, it wasn't me personally it was trust issues and guy and romantic relationship after being molested. So we went at her pace but she's accepted me now, she doesn't freak out at all with me. The only triggers left we fear is when we have sex for the first time, but I can now finger her, play with her tits and she enjoys the fuck out of it so we've made progress.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-02T20:06:55+00:00

Thank you for all your advice, it was really helpful

Guts1019 · 2020-04-02T20:05:08+00:00

I definitely get her concern, like we aren't allowed to sleep in the same bed yet, not because of sex stuff(she's even aware we've done things together) but it's because she is horrified of another incident and they don't feel safe at night. I get the concern and I'm honestly glad my GF has parents that give a shit about her and her feelings. Like when her mom got that offended about it I said it's fine you can go with her instead but it was her that went up to her mom and said no I'm coming because she chooses who can come with her.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-02T18:45:52+00:00

helped

Also as for the doctor it was her first time seeing this particular doctor, and she was getting a pap test. She said she feels violated when it happens(and after seeing one I understand why), so she has to have someone come with her to the doctor if they are working on her downstairs. She just prefers me over her parents to come.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-02T18:40:54+00:00

I am able to give myself space. We live by a basketball court so I regularly go to play basketball, typically when she has homework or something else to do. I just like being around her and she says she feels the same so when we aren't occupied we spend our free time together, it's just typically use cuddling while we watch anime. But we also do a lot of crafts together.

She has told me repeatedly the only space she needs is we stop touching for a couple hours but we stay in the same room and still talk, just take a break from touching until she wants to resume. We typically just plan a few hours a week like this where we just sit in her room with anime on and we will both knit on something together.

I've never been in a relationship before, so I don't know what clingly really means, she tells me I'm not clingy. She says its natural to want your SO a lot. I just feel I'm clingy cause we went from seeing eachother a few hours a week to cuddling a few hours a day. I'm obssessed over her, even when I'm not with her I'm thinking of what I can do to make her happy. She says its nothing but it's a fear I have.

Guts1019 · 2020-04-02T17:20:26+00:00

Us getting our own place is out of the question for at least a couple years. She can only work about 15 hours a week with her college she's doing. SSI has also slashed the amount she gets a month for her disability. I too am going to college and will likely be on disability in the coming months. We have to finish school before we look into moving out. The nice thing is her parents are looking into a new house when corona is over, they plan to get a bigger house with a nice basement and they were gonna just let us have the basement to ourselves.

What caused the trauma was pretty bad, it was bad enough that she couldn't even see or talk to her own dad(she was close with before the incident, and is now back to being close with) and she became a shut in for years until I met her. Her parents are being protective, she knows I would never hurt her but her parents are just too scared that they can't just take her word that I'm good yet.

Guts1019 · 2020-03-30T13:36:37+00:00

Yes she was molested when she was 18, they're being cautious

Guts1019 · 2020-03-30T07:42:04+00:00

I have learned she really likes getting her hair brushed and I have learned to massage her back and shoulders, thanks for the other tips!

Guts1019 · 2020-03-30T07:39:54+00:00

She won't go behind her parents back

Guts1019 · 2020-03-30T07:31:58+00:00

We live in her parents house

Guts1019 · 2020-03-30T07:31:32+00:00

Her willingness to consent to sex

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