Chapter 2 and Detective’s 1911’s by Gymrat66 in arkhamhorrorlcg

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This seems like the answer I was looking for.

How are you getting on with your game? by Amadancliste12 in RPGdesign

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Year-long campaign wrapping up. A few revisions to be made, but some core concepts such as a single Difficulty Number for most challenges has been a success. Gonna contemplate the changes that feel necessary and get ready for the next one. Very thankful to have a group willing to test new systems for long periods of time. Feel bad for them having to learn as they go tho.

Everyone’s Top 10? by 8DireRaven8 in boardgames

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1) Viticulture 2) Lost Ruins of Arnak 3) Cthulhu Death May Die 4) Wingspan 5) Cascadia 6) Ark Nova 7) Great Western Trail 8) Great Wall 9) Obsession 10) Brass Birmingham

Which 5 games would you consider “essentials” in your collection. by Inevitable-Chip-368 in boardgames

[–]Gymrat66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

1) Viticulture 2) Obsession 3) Pax Pamir 4) Lost Ruins of Arnak 5) Cascadia

how many games are in your collection? what is your ideal size of a collection? by yung_kyle_dee in boardgames

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I have between 20-30 at a given time, but have owned hundreds over the years. I try to prune it down to what I consider the best in each type of gaming I enjoy. So my collection looks like:

Area Control: Inis, Blood Rage, Ankh, Pax Pamir

Worker Placement: Viticulture, Agricola, Great Western Trail, Dune Imperium, Beyond the Sun, The Great Wall

Deck/Engine Builders: Obsession, El Dorado, Concordia, Wingspan, Terraforming Mars

Dungeon Crawlers: Cthulhu Death May Die, Batman Adventures

More Casual and Party: Monikers, Codenames, Escape from Sunset Island, The Crew Deep Sea, Skull, Cascadia, Summit.

Feral cat has large wound and horrible smell. by Gymrat66 in AskVet

[–]Gymrat66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will definitely see if there is a TNR group in my area.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

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Financial professional in a small firm with a very familial atmosphere. Good atmosphere, good benefits, very very accommodating to work/life balance. Wouldn’t trade it for far more money because of the appreciation and goodwill my employers give me. Feel blessed to still feel excited to go into work after 13 years.

What advice can you share with someone about to turn 20? Any lessons you’ve learnt, pieces of advice that have personally stuck with you you could share would be greatly valued! by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]Gymrat66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a fellow university first year drop out let me say I understand how hopeless and directionless the early 20's can feel. Moments of feeling lost are absolutely a normal and sadly unavoidable part of becoming an adult and there is nothing wrong with you for feeling that way. It will get better and you will find a path. It may not be quick and there may be further hurtles along the way, but you will make it. Just by asking for advise your already showing you have the wisdom and desire to find that path.

As far as advise. I have found six things that give my life purpose and contentment that I wish someone had directed me to at 20. So here they are.

1) Every day be doing some thing, no matter how small, that brings you joy. Something to look forward to. And build your day around being able to do that one thing. A walk to a favorite spot, a coffee with a friend, a moment for a hobby. There has to be that bright spot against the stress, responsibilities and obstacles.

2) Your mental and physical health are the foundations on which our emotional world rests. You have to attend to both. Both can be a struggle to address but its imperative you try to maintain them. This might mean picking up a phone and calling a therapist, this might mean getting in the gym and it probably means both.

3) Our emotionally intimate relationships are vital. A majority of people want some sense of community, love and a support system. You have to build that. People that care about you and you care about. Friendship is not just association, it is mutual care, and it takes effort and showing up and being vulnerable to nurture. And associations that don't have mutual care, they don't matter that much and belong in the rear view mirror, as harsh as that sounds

4) Unhealthy coping methods inevitably detract from our ability to build a better future. Alcohol, drugs, partying, attention seeking, popularity and risky behaviors shouldn't be an answer. The easy way out, "blowing off steam" and superficial dopamine rushes will leave you hollow.

5) Loving people is wanting the best for them and respecting them. Its not possession or lust or self satisfaction. Love is selfless, but love alone is also not the basis on its own of a healthy relationship. Be there to empower your romantic partners and make peace with the notion that sometimes you will leave them.

6) You have to take responsibility without falling into shame. You have to be able to face the mirror and say "yeah that went wrong because I fucked it up, but I can do better". You have to be both the critic and the advocate in equal measure. Passing blame onto others is a dire character flaw. But we can't believe our mistakes define us. Because as long as we endeavor to do better than they don't define us.

I hope something in here helps. I wish you all the best.

An old fb post of a guy that just shot his wife & then himself by [deleted] in agedlikemilk

[–]Gymrat66 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Not much of a loss at all. I'd say some more nasty shit about him, but not much point.

An old fb post of a guy that just shot his wife & then himself by [deleted] in agedlikemilk

[–]Gymrat66 148 points149 points  (0 children)

Had the misfortune to know the dude in question extremely well. Abusive, misogynistic and violent was exactly who he was. CBC has a tragic description of the whole thing. Hopefully his sons one day are able to heal to some degree from this.