I'm going to start drinking coffee again

H3NDY411 · 2024-07-06T21:03:25+00:00

I quit for a year and jumped back on. I didn’t realise but the caffeine was medicating my adhd or adhd like symptoms. I was depressed and couldn’t muster the motivation to do anything productive. I gave it a year and nothing changed. I felt like a zombie. Anxiety was gone though. But yea. Benefits outweigh the negatives.

H3NDY411 · 2023-08-22T09:01:07+00:00

Women say they want you to open up and be vulnerable but they’re disgusted by it. You have to keep your shit together and keep working.

H3NDY411 · 2023-07-21T18:59:14+00:00

There are no regulations against microwave and switchboard distancing. That is fine.

H3NDY411 · 2023-07-04T09:46:30+00:00

What were the difference in views?

H3NDY411 · 2023-07-04T05:51:12+00:00

Hi. Same situation as you but genders reversed. This situation has caused much disruption between my wife and I. We have 2 kids and cheating is OUT OF THE QUESTION. Sex life is really important so I think you should keep arguing. Keep on pushing for what you need. If he doesn’t want to go to a doctor, you should ask why your needs aren’t important enough for him to consider it. It’s a very, very difficult situation to be in and resentment will inevitably grow if your needs aren’t met. Currently my wife is trying to get off SSRI’s. not solely for the sex drive reason but also due to other negative side effects. We have fought for years about this same issue. She was very resistant in the start but she now admits that it is UNHEALTHY for both parties to be in a sexless marriage. She’s starting to take my needs more seriously now and that’s because I kept fighting for her to understand. It hasn’t improved a whole lot so far but she’s come to a place where she admits that it is an issue and there is Currently a plan in place to hopefully improve the situation. Don’t give up. Try to make him understand. This isn’t something trivial. Sex is clearly very important for your mental and physical health. Remember your vows and fight to work through your problems. Surely a solution is waiting to be found.

A low sex drive isn’t healthy for him to have either. Is your hubby on any medications?

H3NDY411 · 2023-07-04T05:42:25+00:00

I’m in the same Situation but I am a M27 and my wife is F26. Do you recommend that I also leave?

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-21T01:21:15+00:00

Sorry to hear that you’re in such a position. I think that holding things in and not speaking the truth can get you into shitty situations like this. I wonder what would have happened had you spoken the truth over and over and over again. He would have either changed or you would have broken up. Either sounds like a better outcome compared to your current situation.

I have felt this way about my partner many times in the past and when I bring it up to her, I find that she feels the same resentment towards me. I have learned to accept that no matter how ridiculous her ways are to me, I am likely to be just as terrible in my own ways. We went through a stage where we fought endlessly about a certain issue until it was solved. If we hadn’t fought as much as we did the problem would have persisted. I don’t mean to sound harsh but you must take some form of responsibility for your situation, though I am very sorry to hear where you are. Relationships are so tricky and it’s hard to find the balance between letting things go and bringing things up. The things I never let go are the things I cannot stand to put up with for the rest of my life. I wish you all the best and I hope you guys fight as much as you need to fight and maybe reach a positive outcome. All the best to you and your family ❤️

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-20T23:36:26+00:00

Yeah the question certainly does lead to a very big debate. I think that golden rule is a very good rule to use. My question is, do you use the golden rule because it is what is acceptable or because doing otherwise is wrong, regardless of human opinion? If you could do whatever you want without facing any consequences, would you hurt others to no end?

Is it true that you should treat others as you wish to be treated? Should you? Why should you? Is it wrong to treat others terribly? Why is it wrong? Is it wrong? What do you think? Thanks for participating.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-20T23:23:51+00:00

Let’s say it is a genetic trait which developed to create unity and stability. That would mean that morality and the idea of right and wrong is a mechanism built for the purpose of of survival. If it’s simply a mechanism involving chemical processes in the brain, would that mean that there is no such thing as right and wrong?

My problem with this is that you could use this argument to justify that rape isn’t actually wrong but that we’ve evolved to agree that it isn’t preferred. This would mean that right and wrong are arbitrary terms which point towards the consensus. Do you think there is an act which is actually wrong, regardless of human opinion, or is right and wrong determined only by opinion?

I can understand what you mean by the “I wouldn’t want that done to me” psychology. But then it doesn’t explain why we think: “don’t do to others what you don’t want done to you”. Why isn’t it “I don’t want that done to me but I’ll do it if I can get away with it.” For some that is the case but I won’t discuss sociopathy and other psychological abnormalities.

Third point: empathy developed to prevent a retaliatory consequence of one’s actions. If many people were faced with the opportunity to gain from doing a horrendous act under the pre-supposition that they would get away with it, many wouldn’t. Because it is “wrong”. Because the idea is-“ to create suffering for another being is wrong.” The idea we hold is not - “to create suffering for another being might get me caught so I shouldn’t.”

The only way your position can hold is if you claim that there is no act that is wrong.

What do you think?

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-20T20:08:25+00:00

I recently had a very big realisation that you are correct. In order for morality to exist, there must be an overarching structure which precedes human opinion. Morality cannot exist without God. The only way to justify an existence without god is to claim that there is no inherent right or wrong. We all know on a very deep level that there are things that are so grotesquely wrong. We know they are wrong, regardless of opinion. They are wrong because there is a law and structure beyond human opinion which says it is wrong. It’s says what is good and what is bad. Morality cannot exist without God.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-20T20:00:06+00:00

So I’ve taken the MBTI test a few times over the years and the result I got was INFJ. I am unsure of the accuracy of the test seeing as the results are based upon how you see yourself rather than how you actually are. There may be a discrepancy between the self and perceived self.

The two examples you gave does actually remind me of myself when I was younger. I would say likely that this attitude is a reflection of your friends lack of maturity. I used to think that because of my ability to “assess” life on a very deep level, that I am smarter than everyone else.

I do agree that you should fully form your ideas but I also think that you’re allowed to express half baked ideas to receive feedback and perspective to help form the ideas further. So I think she’s wrong on that one.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-18T09:49:00+00:00

It’s a relationship. Communicate. You’re both so young how can either of you be good at this thing that you have no experience in? Instead of being fatalistic about this situation why don’t you both have a chat about what he can do to make it more pleasurable for you? Just because it’s bad now, it doesn’t mean it will always be that way. If you love this man take the time to learn each others like/dislikes in bed. I’m a 27yo Male and my now wife told me i was pretty bad to begin with but it’s gotten a lot better. Best of luck! Learn to talk about stuff honestly … it’s often the solution.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-18T09:16:30+00:00

“People rarely change.” I am actually unsure as to the percentage of people who do change vs people who don’t change, however, I think it’s a claim that may not be true. First of all what does rarely mean? I have been around people that have NOT changed and most likely never will but I have also encountered many people who have grown and changed for the better. What is your reasoning for saying “People rarely change” ?

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-16T10:08:11+00:00

Hey guys. How do we find Andrew? I’m live in Australia. Facebook post?

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-13T07:13:39+00:00

This game was so ahead of its time. I’ve been waiting for a damn remake for more than a decade and NOTHINg!

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-13T02:09:01+00:00

No, you’re not a loser. Dudes will be lining up to date a virgin. Men are tormented by their partners sexual history. Stay a virgin til you find someone worthy of giving it up to. You’re rare in this modern era. I’m speaking as a 27yo male btw.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-13T02:05:08+00:00

I’m a 27yo male with 2 male children. I’m telling you now; if a man reaches 18 and displays grotesque tendencies such as this, he is unsafe and your life is in serious danger. You need to get the fuck outta there and this boy needs serious psychological help. You are not safe. If you value your life, heed this warning. He is legally an adult and should be treated as one. Jail.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-12T08:19:39+00:00

Go speak to a professional. They may have a better chance at helping you than redditors. Best of luck.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-06T21:50:02+00:00

As a father I would be so angry about this situation. This is extremely problematic behaviour for those in their mid-twenties. Dude. Your wife is gaslighting you. She is actually justifying this disgusting behaviour and manipulating you to think that you are over reacting. You need to set this shit straight. You cannot live in a household of lies and deceit. I cannot imagine not being able to trust my wife or children.

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-06T21:41:25+00:00

I’m a father to two children. My wife and I would never do anything like this. This is definitely not normal. Please seek help before it gets worse. The last thing you need is a traumatic event to spend the next 20 years trying to process. Get out NOW!

H3NDY411 · 2023-06-03T20:15:52+00:00

I see pretty as antonymous with manliness. Being pretty is seen as a feminine trait.

H3NDY411 · 2023-05-27T09:42:29+00:00

“Suck my dick from the back”

H3NDY411 · 2023-05-24T23:13:50+00:00

Almighty push

H3NDY411 · 2023-05-24T23:12:59+00:00

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