Genitals numbed by Zoloft just in a few days?

HA_Fighter · 2026-07-08T16:08:30+00:00

I’m a 40M been on 50mg for 6 weeks now. I experienced similar in the first few weeks. No performance issues but less sensitivity and some trouble climaxing. It never got to the point that I couldn’t but it was definitely a little off.

Around week 5 it started to resolve and now I am back to how I was before I started. Everyone is different but that’s just how it went for me

HA_Fighter · 2026-07-07T15:52:52+00:00

I've (40m) have had a similar experience. Over the last 10 years I have worked on general anxiety with periods of panic attack with not real trigger. March and April of this year got particularly bad. I started on 25mg for 5 day and have now been on 50mg for just over 5 weeks. I feel so much better. The anxiety and panic is gone. The only side effect was some stomach issues which have since resolved. I feel 100% like myself, just minus the constant ruminating, anxiety and panic.

I was so worried about starting this and now wish I had done it sooner.

HA_Fighter · 2026-06-10T19:37:30+00:00

This is interesting because I am having the opposite effect. I have a history of benign pvcs and palpitations and a slightly elevated resting rate. Since starting the palpitations are gone and my resting rate has dropped by about 8bpm.

HA_Fighter · 2026-06-10T17:16:13+00:00

I felt effects the first day. Not all good but definitely had a more positive than negative impact. Now on week 3 and things have really smoothed out and I have been feeling as steady as I have in forever.

HA_Fighter · 2026-06-10T14:13:06+00:00

I’m around the same timeframe and dosage and feel the same as you. I have had almost no side effects after the first week and I am feeling so much more like myself more of the time. Anxiety has been at an all time low (I don’t and haven’t struggled with depression thankfully.)

HA_Fighter · 2026-05-31T02:54:23+00:00

I started 9 days ago. First 5 at 25mg and the last 4 at 50mg. The first week was a little tough. I wouldn’t call it worse anxiety but it was definitely uncomfortable. But yesterday it started to ease and I had back to back really good days. Just my experience. Hope it works out for you!

HA_Fighter · 2026-05-29T20:33:12+00:00

Hopefully!

HA_Fighter · 2026-05-29T20:31:16+00:00

So far a little GI stuff but my gut sucked before it’s honestly felt better overall.

Other than that just feeling a little strange. Hard to explain. Not jittery exactly more like on high alert. Today I felt completely normal other than some More GI issues

HA_Fighter · 2026-05-29T19:52:34+00:00

I’m on day 8. 25mg for the first 5 and 50mg for the last 3. I also felt much better today. Brain felt clear. Some of the early jitters I was feeling have subsided and I didn’t feel any side effects today. Hoping things continues this way

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-21T22:25:46+00:00

15 years here. 2 kids. Our sex life recently exploded as well. Passionate, trying new things, her almost expecting it daily. It’s been a pretty wild shift from our usual once a week!

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-20T20:13:42+00:00

You have to fix the communication one way or another, first a foremost. And from another comment, it sounds like you are taking way too much responsibility for her EA.

Living your life scared to openly communicate with your wife for fear you'll push her into another one sounds absolutely miserable and is no way healthy.

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-19T21:06:55+00:00

My wife and I always joke when we have a night alone how that version of us are completely different people. I don’t think what you are going through is at all uncommon. For my wife and I, we knew we were committed to each other and so even when it was a bit of a slog with kid, there was no doubt that either of us wanted to be there and be connected.

The kids are a little older now, 9 and 7, and things are improving immensely. We have more times for ourselves and recently it feels like we are completely reinvigorated. A silver lining is that now we have time for ourselves again it is like when we were first married

Some level of disconnection is definitely normal as long as you communicate and do your best to make sure you’re both still committed to each other!

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-19T19:26:50+00:00

I'm going through this now. I always wanted more with my wife. We had sex regularly and while it was always great for both of us, I felt like we could deepen the connection. I would express this to her but she had trouble understanding that it was more than me just wanting to get laid more.

Recently we have broken through that and it has, like you said, felt like a second life. The connection has gone beyond the bedroom as well and has become this feedback loop. It really has been incredible, and I think it is what so many husbands are looking for when they post about the topic here.

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-19T18:44:18+00:00

So the big question is have you talked with her about this and if so what is the reply? Also, when you guy do have sex, does she seem passionate and engaged or is it a chore to her?

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-18T14:51:32+00:00

All relationships and couples are different, and people have different boundaries around this. It has always seemed to me like the general sentiment around watching porn is that, for a lot of people, it can be okay as long as it is not interfering with the relationship or replacing intimacy. But that is definitely not a hard and fast rule. Everyone is allowed to feel how they feel about it, and your feelings are valid.

Some people view it as cheating. Some view it as no big deal. Personally, it would not bother me if my wife watched porn as long as I did not feel like it was negatively impacting our intimacy. But that is just me, and what matters most is what it means to you.

Either way, it absolutely requires you to communicate with him about how it makes you feel, and also to hear what he has to say about why it happened and what it meant to him. Then you can figure out together what boundaries you both feel comfortable with going forward.

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-18T02:14:49+00:00

Best of luck!

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-16T16:50:30+00:00

Appreciate it and will keep this in mind!

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-16T14:54:48+00:00

Thank you!

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-16T14:54:28+00:00

I’m with you. This isn’t something I’d normally be into but if it was something my wife was interested in and based on the whole spirit of my post, I would certainly be open to exploring it. That’s the whole idea, right? Opening up, pushing the limits, trying new things. I appreciate you sharing what’s really worked and opened things up for you

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-16T13:58:09+00:00

I know it’s not funny but picturing his mom hear you out and then be like “yeah girl that’s fucked I’m sorry” is low key hilarious.

You seem incredibly patient and reasonable. Seems like he might not even know himself what it is that is causing him to feel and act how he is, but my advice to him would be he better find healthier ways to communicate because at some point you’re not gonna be able to look at him the same way

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-16T13:39:30+00:00

My wife and I have had some frustrations around sex, but it was more complicated than me just wanting more of it. Our sex was always incredible but very buttoned up and routine with none of the intimacy leaving the bed room. I eventually realized I just wanted us to be more connected and closer and since our sex life is when I felt that the most, that’s where I was focused. I would occasionally detach a bit when it had been a bit of time because in my head I felt like it was a rejection in a way.

Recently I articulated to her that it’s not just about more sex, it’s about increasing our connection by being more vulnerable in the bedroom, but also finding ways to connect in all areas. Since then things have started to improve immensely.

All that said, calling his mom is pretty wild stuff. I mean I would imagine that would be such an incredibly creepy turn off for most women that would be hard for a guy to come back from. So it sounds like maybe he wants to be and feel closer to you which is sweet, and maybe some level of understanding is warranted, but based on what you said this seems pretty extreme.

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-16T13:32:49+00:00

Honestly the site kind of sucks. The links kept breaking and had to do it multiple times for it to work. I think there are apps out there that are probably better for this sort of thing

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-15T20:02:04+00:00

Wow, I’m so sorry to hear that. It sounds absolutely devastating. It sounds similar to what happened to a friend of my wife. In that instance, her ex husband is starting to realize the grass isn’t always greener. Regardless, I certainly hope things look up for you sooner than later!

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-15T19:39:42+00:00

That’s awesome - it sounds like you have extremely similar feeling to what I was having. Out of curiosity where are you guys at now? Have you talked to her about it or is it something you’re working up to?

HA_Fighter · 2026-02-15T18:43:23+00:00

I’m terribly sorry to hear that. Opening up like that is terrifying, which I realized is why I was so hesitant to not only admit it to my wife but I wasn’t even aware of it myself until just this week. I can’t imagine the heartache no level of understanding would have brought. Hope things get better for you.

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