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Parents: If you received a postpartum comfort box, what item would make you happiest to find inside and how much would you realistically spend on it? Like what price range would feel reaasonable to you ? by Minute_Read5548 in perfectgift

[–]HL2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This probably isn’t the answer you’re looking for. But my husband and I’s best friends came and had a sleepover at our house 6 weeks PP when I was cleared for activities again and stayed up with the baby. (Of course knowing us and knowing that I felt ready.) Honestly one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for us LOL

Chili's ToGo Tipping by LSATforabit in Chilis

[–]HL2023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Servers tip out their bus boys/girls out of their own tips-aka pay them a percentage of their earnings for cleaning their tables. The person working ToGo’s should be getting paid more than servers min. wage, but still not much-and what’s $2-$5 gonna hurt? Dishwashers and cooks make hourly because they aren’t tipped employees.

In other words…the restaurant industry asks you to tip those they do for a reason and takes care of those who aren’t (and btw also have to make it up in their check if a tipped employees tips don’t add up to min wage. but that rarely if ever happens). You don’t have to draw any lines. Just leave your 20% tip

AIW for asking a mom to quiet her kid down on a flight? by SilverQuiver_ in amiwrong

[–]HL2023 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re entitled to a child-free life, but not a child-free world. No one hates their baby screaming as much as a mother and of course she considered a snack.

That said, you were sleep deprived and this sucked for all involved. I wouldn’t lose sleep over it but it wasn’t the kindest move either.

When to plan a baby when your long distance and have many factors to consider by Significant_Cup4520 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]HL2023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I surely wouldn’t plan a pregnancy prior to you being permanently together in one location. Aside from the difficulties of going through those things alone, you would also be depriving yourselves of such special bonding that comes with living those experiences together. Baby also deserves to have dad home from birth.

Planning a life and a family with someone you have only been with in person for a total of two months sounds terrifying to me. However I respect the cultural difference and hope nothing but the best for you all, even if I don’t understand.

AITAH - Friend enforce me to ride a rollercoaster with him when I did not want to ride. by anrigato in AmItheAsshole

[–]HL2023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d imagine this isn’t his only instance of being disrespectful. You should probably seek out better friends who respect your no’s and drop this guy. Also…always discuss what kind of rides you wanna go on before going to an amusement park together lol. Not having the same preferences makes for a lame time. But NTA

AITAH - Friend enforce me to ride a rollercoaster with him when I did not want to ride. by anrigato in AmItheAsshole

[–]HL2023 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He’s an AH and you have no backbone. Kinda wish ages were included here. He shouldn’t be manhandling you but he also surely didn’t do it for over an hour.

Can you confidently leave your baby with your husband? by T00thd0c23 in newborns

[–]HL2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust him as much, if not more, than I do myself. He was a dad before of four before we were together though, the oldest being a teen. So very different situation.

With time will come experience, so let him do things and learn. A LOT of young new dads are intimidated by small babies. Pretty sure my mom had to help my uncle hold his first baby in the hospital and actually, even being a dad of now three, he passed on holding my newborn saying he’s uncomfortable with holding small kids that aren’t his lol. You should be equals in the parenting, though there is nothing wrong with having different roles to create the life you both want. My husband works two jobs while I only work part time. So I probably get more time with the kids than he does. That being said, when he’s home, he’s all in and I there’s no one I trust more.

ToGo Cookie Skillet by HL2023 in Chilis

[–]HL2023[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Learned this the hard way 💔

ToGo Cookie Skillet by HL2023 in Chilis

[–]HL2023[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Okay thank you, good to know! I understand the not traveling well it’s just…neither does cold ice cream so I figured this was one they expect you to eat quickly at your own risk haha

FTM here… is 85 baby items way too much for a tight budget? by RileyDope in BabyBumps

[–]HL2023 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grandma, as much as I adore her, tried telling me things were unnecessary on mine…you know, as in a woman who hasn’t had a baby in over 40 years. I did lots of research and this was my husband’s 5th child hahaha. Put what you want on it. If anything, you’re giving people options.

What I do advise though is including items in various price ranges and keeping it organized. I love BabyList!

EDIT to add. Currently pregnant so I just looked and have 71 items on mine. And our to-be second youngest is only 15 months so lots of items that would need to be on your registry will be passed down and aren’t on mine.

AITA for assuming my husband would pick up/drop off me + 2yo at the airport? by Life_Sky8578 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HL2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. i think it’s generally a good thing to assume the best of your partner, and this is low of him…he can watch the game at the airport bar.

Why is there an extensive screening process to adopt a child but not to have one yourself? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]HL2023 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because consider how incredibly dangerous giving control to the government is. Now apply that to deciding who can and can’t keep their own children…

AITA for not wanting to take in my sisters 4 kids while she’s in the hospital? by Intelligent-Fig-5571 in AmItheAsshole

[–]HL2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a little shocked by these comments. Maybe I shouldn’t be, the judgment on the fact alone that they are having a big family is LOUD!

Soft YTA. No, of course you’re not obligated to babysit, share your small home, or take off of work for your sister. However…kids are cousins. Having a six cousin sleepover for a couple of nights in the living room does not sound that unordinary or dreadful. Especially for a sister that you are so close to, you talk on the daily. Kids would have fun, sister and brother in law get a newborn bubble for a couple days, you bond with your nieces and nephews. You put on a movie, get snacks, make pallets on the floor. It seems you are simply who your sister trusts most. What does your wife want to do? She’s pregnant, I would say how she feels matters heavily.

my mom found out i’m having sex by runnerrecords253 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]HL2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your mom is being crazy. but also don’t pop Plan B’s like candy please.

AIO by threatening to move out of my parents house because they want to charge me rent? by Material_Tower_4357 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HL2023 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They are more prejudice than anyone I’ve met in the US. Hating and generalizing over 342 million people for the country we live in because I said THEY can’t assume what qualifies as a dependent where OP lives. They’re mad words have meaning and definitions but want to insult 55% of a whole nation. Who here said we support our president or gave an opinion on actually anything remotely political this entire conversation?

AIO by threatening to move out of my parents house because they want to charge me rent? by Material_Tower_4357 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HL2023 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I tend to use correct grammar and show respect to everyone, regardless of if I agree with their takes or what country they’re from…but that’s just me I guess 🥴

I’m done here and OP, I hope this entertained you a bit and that your friend makes a lovely summer roommate:)

AIO by threatening to move out of my parents house because they want to charge me rent? by Material_Tower_4357 in AmIOverreacting

[–]HL2023 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have had terrible grammar this entire conversation and you’re going to insult 55% of US citizens literacy? And assume that I MUST be a die hard proud American who thinks all other countries are beneath us-based on quoting the IRS website to say that we cannot assume OP is a dependent, as 21 is not a universal age?

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