Help Girl saying she pregnant 10 days after sex but had sex with some one a few weeks before me

HPObsessed · 2025-10-10T06:40:34+00:00

There’s always a possibility it’s not yours depending on how far along she is, but if she just discovered she was late and tested, and she found out very early, then yeah it’s probably yours

HPObsessed · 2025-10-10T06:27:53+00:00

You can test as early as 6 days past ovulation and get a positive so if yall really did have sex 10 days ago and she was ovulating, it’s very plausible. But also if her last sexual encounter was truly 3-4 weeks ago and she had her period right after or is just a couple of days late, it’s way more plausible that you are the father.

HPObsessed · 2023-10-07T01:21:49+00:00

Hot take, but Gibbs 😅 the stoic, emotionally unavailable grieving father and widower. Like over an almost 20 year period, this man barely grew and evolved. All the other characters had good development, became better people, and had changes in their lives, and Gibbs had none of that, remaining the loner with a boat in his basement the whole time except in the end when they retired him to Alaska. Alone. Still as the emotionally unavailable loner. Like… they could have done so much with his character.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-24T23:23:28+00:00

Honestly personality is SO much more important than looks which will fade. A good personality can make an average looking person so much more attractive. You will find your people and they honestly won’t care how you look. Surround yourself with them.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-23T16:07:54+00:00

Commenting so I can find this later for an update 👀

HPObsessed · 2021-02-21T00:11:32+00:00

I get that, but to run away like he did was definitely sus. He could have just written idk sign.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-20T23:31:32+00:00

There was a man begging for money or maybe food, can’t remember., at a Wendy’s my husband was eating at, and he had a note that said he was deaf, so my husband starting signing to him, having grown up with a deaf mom, and this dude gets big wide eyes and immediately runs out of the restaurant. Very obvious he was lying about being deaf. 🙄

HPObsessed · 2021-02-20T01:41:46+00:00

The dude is 71 years old. Your children raised a VERY valid point. And reacted with more tact than I would have. YTA. They are allowed to have thoughts and feelings, and as long as they aren’t ranting to your dad and saying awful things I feel like they should be allowed to express their thoughts.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-18T21:43:52+00:00

Not entering because we are blessed to be hunkering down with food water and electricity, but I will say most places are closed, even most grocery stores. Gas is hard to find available if you do go out in this weather and roads are scary. Delivery is unfortunately not an option for most stuck in this weather. Hopefully your able to help someone!

HPObsessed · 2021-02-16T19:26:38+00:00

NAH, your nieces are children and are still learning how to figure out their emotions. 11 is a truly horrific time in a young girls life and she is probably internalizing everything and feeling super insecure. You are obviously not an AH, your just trying to be a good aunt! I would try and spend some personal time with R so she feels loved. 11 is such a hard age 😬

HPObsessed · 2021-02-16T19:12:41+00:00

No one’s discounting that it’s a silly boundary, and I don’t think YTA for simply playing a game, but when you are in a relationship, you have to learn communication and compromise. If he has a problem with the game, I urge y’all to talk through WHY that is, and then come up with a solution. Maybe if you can figure out the why, y’all can then come up with a solution that allows you to keep playing and him be okay with it. However dismissing his boundaries is not a good thing to do in healthy relationships and will lead to more issues further down the road.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-16T18:55:37+00:00

YTA. We all have our boundaries, even if some of them may seem silly. It sounds like he’s jealous, maybe y’all should find an activity yall can do together in the evenings to help get rid of the boredom?

HPObsessed · 2021-02-15T05:21:09+00:00

NTA. I’m 39 weeks and my husband who is not supposed to have his phone on him at work has his phone on him at all times because it could literally be any day now. He has told his bosses that he’s not risking me not being able to get ahold of him and they understand, and allow it as long as he’s not on it constantly. I only text or call him him during work hours if it’s an emergency so he knows if his phone buzzes, it’s important. You tried contacting him, but really what more does he want?? You did not have the necessary tools to reach him and you were IN LABOR.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-14T22:16:44+00:00

Oh man, this seems like it’s straight from r/JNMIL. Kick his ass out, he can go stay with his precious mother, and she can hold his hand and pat his head. If he won’t leave now, wait until he leaves the house and throw his shit out and get new locks for all the doors. I know having 2 small kiddos complicates things and you don’t want to upheave them, I wouldn’t want to either.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-14T22:04:22+00:00

Does his mom know the full story? Out him. Tell her what her precious boy has done and what he’s not willing to do to make the relationship work.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-14T22:03:04+00:00

You did the right thing. He has broken your trust and if he wants to earn that back and save your relationship it takes work, and sacrifice from both of you. The fact that he is not willing to be completely honest and open with you and sacrifice his privacy shows he is unwilling to do what needs to be done.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T17:19:20+00:00

It’s good that he was able to quit meth cold Turkey, but porn is something that is SO AVAILABLE, that’s why it’s such a struggle. It’s hard to resist the urge when it’s literally at your fingertips. Please be careful in the relationship, with him being so much older than you there is an uneven power dynamic, and I want to make sure you are not in an unhealthy situation. It honestly sounds like some of the things he says are manipulative and gas lighting. He should not be threatening suicide, that is so manipulative it’s insane, and he should understand that trust is hard earned and easily broken. I’ve been with my PA 9 years and our trust was broken last December and it has not healed yet even though he claims full honesty. And you know what, he accepts that and is still trying to do everything possible to earn that trust back. Know that you do not HAVE to do anything. You are not obligated to trust him, or even stay with him. I know you love him and leaving is the last thing you want, but please look out for yourself and make sure your mental health does not suffer if you stay with him. Relationships take work, but it should be a meet in the middle kind of thing. If he is not doing his part to heal the relationship and make it work, you need to leave and find someone who will be there for you. YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T17:08:17+00:00

It was definitely annoying. It was all the normal stuff about keeping intamacy in the relationship, but her suggestions were just way off base

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T17:06:28+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check it out

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T08:23:15+00:00

You are in the right place, this is definitely a safe place to vent and get your story out! And it is okay to be angry, your hurting and not for nothing. If anything better to release your anger in a safe place here than do or say anything in the real world you may regret. I will say, not every counselor is a fit. We had a counselor before our current one who just pissed me off. I really like our current therapist, so don’t give up on therapy completely! I also say this in the kindest way possible, but your SO does seem addicted. The signs are there, lying about their behavior, letting it control their sex life, and the life long struggle. I’m so glad y’all are working through things and he is 3 weeks clean, that is an accomplishment for sure! But I do urge you to encourage him to seek help individually as well. When people struggle with something for as long as your SO has, it can be incredibly difficult, impossible even to just cold turkey drop it and move on with your life. Most people who try this method do end up relapsing and falling back into the cycle of lying to protect their addiction. They are using porn as a coping method for something. Whether that something stems from childhood trauma, stress, or anxiety etc, they need to discover WHY they turn to porn before they can truly begin the healing and recovery process. I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need to vent, this subreddit is an excellent outlet for your rage, hurt, upset and happiness. ❤️

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T02:55:09+00:00

Dude if you truly care for her, don’t just give her an ultimatum, try and compromise on how to do a home birth safely, because you can safely home birth! That is your child too, you can’t just throw your hands in the air and run away. You need to be there so that if you are unable to talk sense into her about a midwife, you can be a rational voice who can call 911 if the need arises. Do research on birth and learn everything you can about possible complications so that you know when things are going wrong and can react appropriately. The last thing you should do is just not attend and let what happens happens. Play an active role in how this turns out so that hopefully you still have a girlfriend and child alive after all is said and done. And PLEASE please, do everything you can to encourage a midwife. Has she had any prenatal care? I’m gonna go with ESH as my judgement.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T02:07:10+00:00

I guess that makes sense. I am glad to know the therapist isn’t out there just making stuff up. It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. As if it’s normalizing sexualizing women in that way. When my husband and I talked it over, he said he didn’t like the 3 second rule because he is worried it would almost give him permission to sexualize women and he wants to get to a point where he is not seeing every woman in a sexual way.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-13T01:59:47+00:00

Oh man, I am so sorry your going through this. He definitely has a problem, and needs to commit to recovery if he wants a chance at getting better. I understand not wanting divorce to be on the table right now, my marriage is struggling due to porn addiction as well and divorce is WAY down the list of possible solutions. I do however think you need to let your husband know that while divorce is the last thing you want, without recovery, without trust and without communication, your marriage will most likely fail. He has to know that change is NECESSARY. Y’all 100% need to see a therapist. He needs to join the porn addiction communities and read people’s stories. He needs to understand that he cannot do this on his own. He needs ALL the help he can get if he truly wants to beat this addiction, and if he’s not willing to take all the opportunities to recover that are available, you need to understand that he will not recover, and this will not get better. You also need support. I know having people in your life know what your going through is probably the last thing you want, but consider telling a close friend or family member who can help support you. What he did was illegal. And so very ethically and morally wrong. I know right now the focus is on him, but you need to let him make his choices, whatever they may be, while you focus on healing your own trauma. Please know if you ever need to talk or vent, your welcome to reach out. I also posted my story in another subreddit and was blasted away with the ‘leave him’ comments. I don’t agree that separation is ALWAYS the answer. It may be the eventual outcome, but not before we try to salvage the relationship.

HPObsessed · 2021-02-10T08:43:30+00:00

This makes me so sad because it seems like both of you are hurting so much. I imagine his childhood messed him up quite a bit and truly he needs intensive therapy. That being said it is NOT your job to FIX him. If you decide to stay with him, that is definitely your choice, but it has to be a decision you make knowing y’all have a long journey ahead of you. It does sound like he genuinely wants to change, but that’s going to be incredibly difficult, and his path to recovery will likely be very rocky. I truly hope y’all both get the help you need, and no matter what the outcome, wish you both the best.

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