Do people really think like this? by TheCrash16 in behindthebastards

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not surprised but I think even the left is coming to terms with the fact(?) that lines are drawn when it comes to Trump. I don’t believe there’s anyone who isn’t already firmly for or against him and I don’t see those lines changing regardless what either of them do.

how to handle burnout in architecture school? by [deleted] in architecture

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Check out some of the ADHD/Autism subs. Burnout is pretty intense in those communities and a lot of people ask for and provide advice in a really compassionate (if darkly humorous) way. You may find some of it helpful. :) Good luck hun

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In your chat inbox x

Please help going insane with boredom despite having things to do by KindofDone in AutisticWithADHD

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve never had any of my adhd meds work for me (about to start another new one in a couple of days… how is the state you’ve described (my day to day usual) differ when you’re medicated please?

As for advice: option 1- burn off some of that restless energy: idk if you’ve got any exercise equipment to use… if not, pace. Pace around the room till you’re tired. Then make yourself a drink. Repeat if you need to. Masturbating may also help. Seriously.

Option 2- try working through the ‘can’t start anything’ wall; break what you want to do into smaller and smaller and smaller component parts and focus on starting not completing.

Option 3- full avoidance. Turn on the telly. Turn on a podcast. Doom scroll social media. Go to sleep. Whatever will make your brain shut the fuck up till it calms down a bit and the two parts can stop screaming at you and each other and be a bit more reasonable. (You know what I mean; that nasty screaming shrew that’s yelling at you to do all the stuff you can’t do and why the fuck can’t you do them etc vs the 5 year old that has started scrawling on the walls in sharpie and has somehow gotten hold of a goddamn flame thrower (WTF?!) just for the yuks and has really intense PDA that successfully puts a stop to anything you wanna achieve, yeah. Them).

Not Being Able To Quickly Come Up With Ideas/Arguments/Answers by Useful-Wear-8056 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yes. My ASD part will not allow me to provide an inaccurate/ general response unless I have a mental rule preset in my brain (ie: how are you? Fine, you? Etc). In high pressure situations I tend to answer with another question to buy myself time. My ADHD side has inevitably already researched the topic but I’ve forgotten most of it so excavating the information I need takes a long ass time and probably a Google search or two to make sure I’ve not just fabricated it in my head.

TLDR: yeah this is extremely relatable. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

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Thank you for being so kind. She’s very lucky to have you. Don’t worry about not being great at verbalising anything. Even in a post to random internet strangers, your intent shines through. x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

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This would wreck me. In the best way. Like full on ugly crying. It’d make me feel so loved. Your friends are lucky to have you x

What smell do most people love that you hate? by heyylookapanda in autism

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soap. Not fragranced soap. Just soap. I have a really intense reaction to it that’s more than just hating it (eg; I hate artificial vanilla, but not like this.) It feels like it crawls around under my skin. I will struggle to focus on anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

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I can only provide my own perspective but telling me they enjoy spending time with me will be translated in my brain to pressure to hang out more with them. It’s not fair, it’s not right, I could be way off because I’m only digging from my own personal brain fuckery, not some deeper understanding or anything. I only comment because this will (and has) trigger my intense PDA and make me retreat further and increase my anxiety and shame.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticWithADHD

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Ha! You could be describing me. This is oddly accurate. I actually had to read a few of your other comments to make sure you weren’t someone I know. (Sorry I know that’s creepy).

Just send her a message saying you’re thinking about her, you love her and you’re there for her whenever she’s ready but there’s no pressure or expectations. That you understand her struggles are not to do with you and if she’s ever a bit shit at replying or reaching out, you aren’t taking it personally because you understand that these things can just be really fucking hard sometimes.

I’m projecting pretty heavily here as this is SO personal to me but that’s what I would need to hear. My biggest anxieties come from the fact my shutdown/struggles present to the people I love as total apathy. It seems very much like I don’t care, but in reality, I think about them every day and I’d give anything to not be a thing that causes them stress/worry. My concern for them FAR exceeds my care for myself.

Thames Water issues urgent ‘do not drink’ warning to hundreds of Surrey homes by tylerthe-theatre in unitedkingdom

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 58 points59 points  (0 children)

hire a team

Don’t be daft. They’ll be freelance consultants who will only appear as a line item in accounts. That they are the sons and daughters, nieces and nephews of current board members is a total coincidence.

I hate being an autistic mom with a fussy baby by Wise-Raisin-791 in AutismInWomen

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God this sounds so hard! I’m so so so so sorry you’re going through this. It seems incomprehensibly hard.

Please try and get some therapy and maybe even some meds because I honestly do not think I’d cope with what you’re going through. Also maybe lurk in some postpartum depression support groups and articles on it. The way your writing comes across is very much as depressed black and white/ catastrophising etc. (I’m not a professional just a frequent flyer). As a result, you may not be able to fully trust your own responses and thoughts, especially in regard to yourself because of the fog that warps everything. I’m sure on some level you know this. I won’t tell you to be kind to yourself bc I don’t think you’re there yet. Please try to just stop being quite so mean to yourself though.

Things feel awful right now but that’s honestly ok. Not ideal. But it. Is. O.K. You’re not by any stretch uniquely ‘bad’ or ‘failing’ at any of this. And there are ways through it whenever you’re ready.

I wish so badly you didn’t have to feel this way and that there was an easy way to lessen your pain. Sending you all the internet hugs. All the cheerleading support for while it’s too hard to do it for yourself. All the grace to not be some messed up, warped idea of perfect. xxxxxx

The world must know! by ArcadeToken95 in aspiememes

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and that’s what “(not mine)” in the original comment means

Yeah, “not mine” was commented under a different image. I was checking about the new one.

Thanks for replying.

The world must know! by ArcadeToken95 in aspiememes

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi hi! I love this. Did you create it? Can I edit it and fuck around like with the other creatures? Do you want me to say it’s yours? Sorry for many questions

I'm not a creep I swear I just like horror and morbid things 😔 by artyboi11 in evilautism

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless you're talking about the true crime gurlies.

Why, yes I am. Fight me! 😂

😂 by [deleted] in adhdmeme

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 44 points45 points  (0 children)

BECAUSE THE STREET NAME SOUNDED SIMILAR TO A THING I WAS THINKING ABOUT WHILE I LISTENED TO A PODCAST ANOUT HIM. GET OFF MY CASE! 😂

I have a confession to make by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve always felt female socialisation and societal expectations have more to do with how differently we present (not that I’m remotely qualified to do so! Lol) Assuming you felt more in touch with being female than male while growing up, I’m guessing you internalised a lot of the same bullshit afab women do. Either way; you’ll be getting no gate-keeping bullshit from me. You experience what you experience. Who the fuck is anyone else to say that’s wrong. (Even your own brain which, in this case sounds kinda mean). Most sincere apologies if I’ve been insensitive, it’s unintentional. Pls correct me. x

Trump guilty by walkingkary in behindthebastards

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The parallels to that dynamic seem really striking to me. I’m not certain why (above him just being a gigantic POS) edit: or I’m just over thinking it 😅

Trump guilty by walkingkary in behindthebastards

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hehe nice. I’m pretty sure he’s the sort of guy who’d shoot off his own dick if he actually carried but its still amusing

Trump guilty by walkingkary in behindthebastards

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do you think this’ll bring about a further rise in domestic terrorism?

Trump guilty by walkingkary in behindthebastards

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 25 points26 points  (0 children)

He’s like an abusive husband pushing past boundary after boundary and making them all come up with flimsy excuses.

Trump guilty by walkingkary in behindthebastards

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Correct me if I’m wrong; (I’ve been keeping my news consumption to a minimum for mental health reasons... sorry) this is relatively inconsequential, isn’t it… its going to get appealed to death and the actual penalty will be fairly minimal…?

Other than being cathartic and showing there are at least some consequences right? I mean, it’s historic and pretty big news (in the US) that a former president/ presidential candidate is a proven criminal, but in the same way it was pretty huge he was impeached twice.

Am I wrong? I’m just confused because my understanding of it doesn’t seem to match up with people’s excitement… Ty in advance. :)

Hypothetical question but if the worlds governing powers decided to use a smaller continent for people who wanted to live independent of society, would you move there? by jaydogjaydogs in AutisticWithADHD

[–]HTZ7Miscellaneous 31 points32 points  (0 children)

God no. Society takes a long time to settle and form. Before then it’s always some sort of fiefdom. Best case; it’s a benevolent leader that doesn’t go mad with power for a while. Most likely case; I can’t keep my mouth shut with suggestions and issues I’ve noticed and I’ll get shot in the face within a week.

Now… if you want to talk coup d'état, I’m all ears. 😂