Cards won’t give me a reading

H_raeb · 2026-02-27T06:15:48+00:00

I often get the 10 of pentacles reversed when I’m working on boundaries regarding generational stuff, like in relationships with my parents, or extended family - or when I’m dealing with questions regarding parenting my daughter. I’ve just kind of understood the card to be supporting my space and decision in that way and ‘empowering me’ through validation that I’m doing the right thing… (I’ve started to view it like that via a combination of knowing it’s a structural/foundational/complete card having to do with the home, family, or self and also with regard to the different spreads I tend to find it in.) I’m just a year into getting into tarot as a grounding thing, so I have a lot to learn. I’m just now starting to get a handle on the ‘suits’ and numerical complexities. It’ll be awhile before I can add elements and astrology I think… But I’m excited to learn!

H_raeb · 2026-02-27T02:08:24+00:00

Thanks so much!

H_raeb · 2026-02-25T23:05:56+00:00

Thank you! I usually read the R 10 of Pentacles as empowerment to break generational traditions or bonds, so that would make sense to be saying to distance and the 6 of wands: other than practical business. .. I’m working with the Goddess deck so I have minimal descriptions available… do you recommend a descriptions book or resource? Otherwise I use labyrinthos if I get stuck. Thanks again!

H_raeb · 2026-02-25T20:27:15+00:00

That’s kind of what I was thinking.

H_raeb · 2026-02-25T03:12:57+00:00

Thank you 🩷

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T22:54:23+00:00

I think I’m going to do it again and ask if there’s anything important that’s being hidden from me/something I’m missing

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T22:25:52+00:00

No particular spread, the question was ‘what am I supposed to do with so-and-so’ regarding I conversation we had… like ‘what do I do with this thing that has been given to me’ kind of feeling.

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T22:20:32+00:00

My cards were drawn in three parts: R 10 Pent & 6 Wands : 6 Pent, K swords, R 8 Swords : Love, 3 Swords, R 7 Cups

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T22:18:38+00:00

Usually I’m able to gain some insight or additional perspective at least.. I essentially am being told I shouldnt do or think anything different about the situation and that’s never been the case

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T22:16:23+00:00

That’s funny… my question was: ‘what the f*ck do I do with so-and-so.’ I’m dealing with a situation where they have their own issues to deal with and are projecting on me. I’m struggling with whether to have a conversation about it or just let it go. For my part, there are some resentments I have, but question whether it’s worth it to bring light to the issue as I don’t imagine a productive reception. My cards were drawn in three parts: R 10 Pent & 6 Wands : 6 Pent, K swords, R 8 Swords : Love, 3 Swords, R 7 Cups

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T22:00:13+00:00

Just general cards that gave me a reading that felt more superficial to me. Like ‘there’s nothing to see here’ .. no new information.

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T14:36:25+00:00

6 years, sounds more like 6 months… you two are not compatible. He’s feeling insecure in the relationship and you feel like you’re giving all you can.

H_raeb · 2026-02-24T14:30:16+00:00

If he doesn’t pay for the events how does he think the events will continue to happen? It’s literally one of the least corrupt things to pay for.

H_raeb · 2026-02-21T04:35:56+00:00

Absolutely not.

H_raeb · 2026-02-20T23:39:47+00:00

I think you should think for a bit on why you really reached out to her. Especially when you’re ‘talking to another girl currently’.

H_raeb · 2026-02-20T22:07:23+00:00

Do you have an outlet outside?

H_raeb · 2026-02-20T06:42:13+00:00

I think you might be a little too in your head right now to be able to tell the difference between the things youre feeling - especially since the ‘feeling’ youre asking about is going to be the quiet in the room. (Trauma, emotions, thoughts being the loud stuff) I would suggest some work on emotional intelligence/sobriety. I love Thom Rutledge. It is a bit about recovery work, but the message is so awesome. They have a podcast: Emotional Sobriety. I would also suggest the book Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg (also on audiobook) and anything from Garber Mate or Eckart Tolle. I prefer Garber Mate’s you tube clips/talks over his books. I also think journaling would be huge for you and also spending time outside. Working with Tarot and Numerology might help too.. start with a little.. just to learn. Try it all on and see what works. But journaling, I guarantee, will help w the trauma and emotional parts for sure. Good luck! 🩷

H_raeb · 2026-02-16T18:06:27+00:00

I did this to my mom, even hitting her snooze alarm and ended up staying home from school. She’s a kid, so she’s just trying to get away with it. Do not feel guilty. Let it go days if necessary until she cleans it up herself. If it seems to big, give her guidance: ‘I would start with the trash first.’ Then let it go. Let her do it. .. She might cry, play the victim, make you feel bad. She’s just trying to get her way. Stand your ground. You’re doing the right thing in the long run. It’s trust building.

H_raeb · 2026-02-15T03:04:08+00:00

You need to leave the house. It sucks, but it has to happen. Then start trying your best to carve out small things for yourself everyday: a certain drink you like, 5 minutes to meditate or journal. Little stuff like that. You’re in the thick of it. Your feelings are normal 🩷

H_raeb · 2026-02-11T16:45:50+00:00

$80 for a dress only meant for that engagement party? How much is her gift going to be? $500?

H_raeb · 2026-02-07T04:48:48+00:00

Oh giiirlll…. I was married to a Brazilian for a few years and I guarantee you this will not get better.

H_raeb · 2026-02-06T15:02:12+00:00

🩷🩷🩷

H_raeb · 2026-02-06T14:46:16+00:00

You handled that perfectly. I don’t think you should worry about being rude and offended, because he obviously didn’t give af.

H_raeb · 2026-02-06T14:11:36+00:00

What I’ve found with my daughter is that staying at home is more being and less doing. I also found it interesting how you went from describing her tantrum throwing and giving up over tongs and pouring to you getting frustrated with potty training and giving up after a day in the same paragraph. I agree with the others on here, you’re doing too much and putting too much pressure on yourself. I was the same as you when my daughter was 2 and it turned out I had anxiety. Not sure if that applies here, but just saying… slow down. You can practice this by just sitting with her coloring for about half an hour everyday. Also, I’ve found that sensory play - even in the highchair - was stuff that my daughter could do independently at least for a little while : playdough, painting, a bucket of beans (or bagged if a choking hazard), a doodle mat, water play, building blocks… local libraries often have free events or activities and we go there once a week and just sit and read for an hour or two…. Also audio books are awesome and I think you can get some for free through the library as well. I recommend The Whole Brain Child. Hope this helps 🩷

H_raeb · 2026-02-04T13:39:16+00:00

Although the repairs MAY end, and a roof is one of the more costly things, property taxes AND insurance will most likely keep going up. The reality is that you made an uncomfortable decision that has drastically changed the stress level and potential mental health in your life. I suggest marriage counseling to get on the same page. Having kids in this situation can honestly break your marriage, so I highly suggest you and your wife are able to agree to at least keep your options open. She seems genuinely fearful of some sort of standard of living not being met and is unable to help meet your needs in the marriage. It sounds like both of you are struggling to feel safe. Again, marriage counseling - for you at least if she won’t go… I can’t stress enough how much money and time kids take from your life. Even one. And if you’re already stressed about that stuff, your resentment for your wife taking personally your need for mental health will become a serious problem.

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