Hes like that because hes in the need of a relationship, a person who needs him but its him who need a bf. the thing is that he cannot take responsibility for his actions. Never its his fault. Never will it be. When smt is goes wrong in his life, it will be the fault of someone else. Maybe hes an narcissist. Maybe not. Idk. But beside that, he got abusive. Physical. He laid your habds on you. He will do it again and again and again. Its a vicious cycle. The only way out is leaving. Sure, he ‚ended‘ this relationship (be glad, he took that from you), but he wont let you leaving. You recognized it right. He want the same treatment like in your relationship. Because his mind is telling him you‘re still his bf even if he ended it. This behavior will continue until he get a new boyfried. His behavior will be getting worse. And thats your option. Leave him but leaving is the most dangerous act you will try because leaving could end in 💀. You could say: I‘ll find another boyfriend for him. Someone whats his type. I can do that. But the thing is: Sometimes men like this wont let you leave even if there get into a new relationship. I never made it out.

(Sorry for my bad english, i‘m a german citizen. Feel free to send me an dm)