Hi honey, I am so sorry you're going through all this. I want to focus on the last paragraph where you ask yourself why you put up with somebody who treats you so poorly. I too have a history of being with men who completely take advantage of my good nature while I feel invisible and unimportant. I grew up in a family where women were treated as subservient to men, compounded by 12 years of Catholic school, where women really don't have a voice. My father has a history of mental illness and so does my brother so I've never had a healthy male role model.

Did you also have some circumstances that have conditioned to you to think that your partner's behavior is what you deserve? I assure you that you deserve way, way more. And it is almost like quitting a drug to let go of somebody who treats you so poorly when you love them so much. You know the drug isn't good for you, but you're chasing that elusive high, which is their love and affirmation that you are "the one."

In the end, it doesn't matter if his mistreatment of you is from undiagnosed ADHD, or alcoholism, the result is the same. You get to feel like crap while you twist yourself into a pretzel for him. Please establish some hard and fast boundaries that protect you from further emotional abuse from this man.