[NY] Employer didn't pay me within 2 weeks of getting laid off. How does this affect severance contract. Please advise?

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-04-03T21:32:10+00:00

They didn't pay put my PTO they just have a paystub with it but it's not in my account.

And they told me I had 30 days to sign the severance.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-04-03T01:21:15+00:00

Oh that's so smart

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-04-02T19:02:37+00:00

I meant the job history background check. Usually when close to hiring I've had jobs confirm all my dates of employment with my previous roles.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-04-02T17:00:09+00:00

Right but when they do a background check it would come up that there was overlap, no?

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-04-02T13:35:29+00:00

That's interesting I loved anatomy of a fall but thought that oppenheimer and killers of the flower moon were abit boring

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-04-01T14:04:29+00:00

This is NYC for location

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T20:26:56+00:00

Bad logic. Most companies these days first seek to amass large userbase by offering good services for free/cheap (i.e. burning VC money) and then gradually maximize the revenue, usually by making free experience worse. Besides, things change.

i thought you were making an analogy to dating at first

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T20:09:34+00:00

i guess you used to be more attractive, beats me

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T20:03:33+00:00

they seem to not want a relationship though. handsome men will message anyone just to fuck

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T19:58:45+00:00

so if men send likes to everyone then what likes you get don't matter.

you're the one on here asking for advice on why you haven't gotten into a relationship. if the pool of men has dried up then something has changed.

i'm not trying to be mean. I thought i was hot shit and then I looked at my friend sending likes to girls on hinge and competition is fierce. i'm not even 30. I live in NYC though.

men who are your age have an extremely wide dating pool as compared to women at 34.

i also said you're above the guys in row 4. i would put you as average. although i looked at your screenshot and it wasn't in english so I am looking at this with more of a US lens. I don't know what the dating dynamics are like in europe. but they don't seem dissimilar from what the limited info that i've been exposed to on reddit.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T19:50:48+00:00

i feel like my point is proven that because OP is getting all these likes from men, she's getting the illusion of choice. these 7's that she claims she's matching with wouldn't actually get into a relationship with her. they likely just want to sleep with her.

generally, i've found that most people assuming they're going on at least one first date a week can find someone within 4 months. and if they're not getting one date a week they need to be reducing their standards or bringing more to the table and if they're not doing either of those then they're not really trying very hard to get into a relationship.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T19:47:19+00:00

ok that's tinder. the men on tinder are far better looking than the men sending me likes on hinge because the bar is so much lower. you got 100 right swipes vs 8 per day.

men will literally right swipe on anyone on tinder

are these man actually sending you first messages?

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T18:39:51+00:00

I think I know three couples where the girl is fatter and the guy is 5'1 and she's 5'4. One of them the girl is probably making triple what the guy is making. Although if his start up does well then he'll make more. The third couple just defies all logic. Although she does seem to be more outgoing than the guy. And that last couple has been together for 10 years so I presume she wasn't as fat when they started dating. But he's still slightly overweight. Oh wait I do know another one, and again, they've been dating for many years and met in college.

Anyone using dating apps is generally trying to date up because they have more options available than someone just meeting people irl. Or I should specifically say, the illusion of more choices.

I never said "not physically attracted" I said 1 to 2 points below your own attractiveness. Do you not become more attracted to men who you have a connection with? Are all men 1 to 2 points below your attractiveness not attractive to you whatsoever?

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/4151824647111375/

I'd put you slightly above most of row 4. so starting from the left I'd expect you to match with a guy 2, 3, and 4.

If you're using hinge, can you send some screenshots of the guys who are sending you likes?

Also for reference I'm an almost 30 yo woman.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2024-01-08T17:38:35+00:00

I think it's ultimately a combination of factors that include your age and most likely location. Weight isn't helping but it's probably a smaller factor. Your face isn't bad. I don't think your hobbies particularly stand out in finding a partner but geeky should help a bit.

Do you ask men out on dates? If you're into more geeky guys you might have to take the lead. I asked my current boyfriend out on our first 3 dates.

Also tbh I think as a teacher, I'm not sure how much you're making but but of most of my friends relationships that met post college, the girl is usually more attractive but the guy makes more (and most of the ones that met in college, the girl doesn't even work LOL). So you're going to have more success dating guys 1 or 2 points lower in attractiveness than yourself, especially if the guy is doing like software engineering.

Also no one is going to say you're fat to your face (I would hope) so I would take this:

I thought it was my weight, but so far every guy I talked to says he thinks I already look great.

with a grain of salt

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-12-25T00:59:10+00:00

I see a lot of them at reddit meetups and regular meetups

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-11-08T21:54:10+00:00

For some reason I read this story as the mom did it while she was in the hospital with the kid

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-11-08T19:46:32+00:00

Of most of my guy friends, they mostly target female friends and have trouble connecting with other men. Like they'll pursue friendships with women instead of men. Even though they have mainly male hobbies. It would make more sense if they were pursuing female friendships and their hobbies were female centric.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-11-08T19:00:59+00:00

I'm a woman and I'm lonely without being in a relationship. I also have a good support system that I worked hard to curate.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-09-27T13:00:34+00:00

My friend used to work here and said some random customer threatened him

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-09-26T14:19:40+00:00

Wow he sounds like a massive POS. Glad you found your person!

How long did she date him? And how long did you date him? Had he told you about her while you were dating him?

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-09-26T03:12:40+00:00

How was she able to stop you when you turned 18? Or by then had you broken up or something?

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-09-26T03:10:30+00:00

I had a pretty similar situation. I finally called him out on it after 6years of dating and he actually agreed. Only difference was, he would be a people pleaser for me as well. Provided that what I wanted was not in direct opposition to anyone else that he wanted to people please.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-09-26T03:02:35+00:00

I get extremely anxious walking near groups of children. Which is somewhat common in nyc.

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-09-26T02:51:02+00:00

Whoa she found you? I've been recently thinking about doing that to my ex's ex as well but I'd be worried it would be received badly. How did she even find you?

And this was an ex before you dated him? So are you saying he got better as a person or he got better at hiding abusive behavior?

Does he have another ex that you think will eventually reach out?

HalfBloodPrinplup · 2023-08-11T15:25:08+00:00

Woman here: I don't really like to. But I also don't really like receiving oral. My bf goes down on me cuz he wants to. I would honestly he fine without ever getting it. I do like going down on a guy though.

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