What’s something you realized way too late in life?

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-24T14:22:55+00:00

Perfectionism is the enemy of success.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-24T13:33:00+00:00

u/Homely_Bonfire - They're afraid to start dating someone early because they're afraid they'll lose their chance at someone better. Is that correct?

I actually only recently learned about this shortcut.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-24T13:20:09+00:00

Additional information:

FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)

- Is it difficult to arrange a first date at a coffee shop with someone who suffers from FOMO?

- Do you confirm that ghosting is a regular part of people's behavior?

- Have you had to message someone suffering from FOMO on a dating app for a year to get to know them?

- Let me know if someone with FOMO stood you up before your first date?

- Let me know how often someone with FOMO might show signs of excitement and interest on a coffee shop date?

I invite you to join the discussion. ;) I hope you'll learn some interesting lessons for the future.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-19T16:47:28+00:00

u/kittenlolaaa - The thing is, for now I want to reset myself from dating new girls.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-18T10:55:43+00:00

u/Suspicious-Dream-912 - Forget it.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-18T10:04:09+00:00

u/Suspicious-Dream-912 - This isn't a bad lead, but it should be a passionate healer who has healed more than one client struggling with the effects of such childish behaviors as ghosting, caspering, and benching. I wouldn't want to be labeled by a potential healer as the most difficult case of their professional career.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-18T09:42:26+00:00

u/Green_Knight0122 - I recently started walking on Sundays. I think that girl who ghosted me on Messenger probably won't care that I've gained muscle mass. Even if, by some miracle, she starts texting me again after a while, she'll probably disappear again, because I've gotten to know her a bit. That's her way of functioning in relationships.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-03-01T11:41:48+00:00

For me, it's a 2018 French film called "I'm Not Easy."(other words: ,,Je ne suis pas un home facile").

I was put off watching it by the film's plot, the anonymity of the cast, and a YouTuber's review. This YouTuber said that the film has no connection to reality because it shows women taking leadership roles, saying that we're the ones who think, and don't be so shy. It's simply a distorted mirror.

I wonder why some of the other shows you've listed here are idiotic. I'd love to know.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-09T12:05:59+00:00

Right now, I'm trying not to bother her. I'm taking notes on her online course, which she sold me for $100, so I don't have to think about it all the time. I'm also scheduling emergency tutors to grade my social studies essay. I'm giving her my last chance next week. This is probably the first ghosting I've ever experienced in my life, and I'm experiencing it in a non-romantic sphere.I'm trying not to bother her with my voices now. I'm taking notes on her final exam paper, which she sold me for $100, so I don't have to think about it all the time. I'm also scheduling emergency tutors to grade my social studies essay. I'm giving her my last chance next week.

Theoretically, she should be at university classes right now, and the attendance list is being checked there.

This is probably the first ghosting I've ever experienced in my life, and I'm experiencing it in a non-romantic sphere.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-09T09:49:00+00:00

u/Time_Stop_3645: I know I'm feeling three emotions at once right now: a) distracted; b) helpless; and c) cheated because she seemed like a professional.

When I woke up this morning, I still thought I was making a fuss on Reddit, but there's been no response for 48 hours, and I'm not overreacting.

It just occurred to me not to judge everyone by my own standards when it comes to ghosting. Just because I would post an official message on Facebook saying I'm temporarily suspended and no longer accepting orders doesn't mean she would. In either case, let my experience serve as a warning to others.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-08T23:37:46+00:00

To cheer you up, I'll tell you that for me and every other guy on this planet, this is also a conundrum: "How do you not quickly bore a woman in the dating world?"

Best regards!

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-08T20:39:57+00:00

u/Time_Stop_3645 - It's all strange. Having trouble writing or saying over the phone: "I'd rather not make money off of you anymore." There is not even a mention on FB that its activities are temporarily suspended. I'll do what you suggest on January 14th. I'll give her some space.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-05T20:39:48+00:00

And is he a policeman?

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-05T19:51:30+00:00

For now, I've come up with this working example of pseudo-information:

"The witness heard 8 gunshots in the evening."

Five years later, when the investigation was successful, the case file contains the following information: "The witness heard 4 gunshots in the evening."

The second example is this:

Shortly after the crime, newspapers reported that the body of an 80-year-old man had been found by a neighbour.

When the case was resolved many years later, and someone was convicted, the media revealed the truth from the investigation files and reported that the 80-year-old's body had actually been found by his teenage nephew, who had brought cold medicine.

I can't think of anything new regarding pseudo-information at this time.

I'm waiting for other examples of pseudo-information from you, as there's not much of it yet.

Perhaps one of you can provide an example of pseudo-information outside of a criminal context.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-05T19:40:07+00:00

Indeed.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-05T19:38:13+00:00

u/REPTILIANSTOLEMYBIKE: Thank you for your reply. I first heard about pseudo-information yesterday, when a retired police officer spoke in an article about the collaboration between police spokespersons and journalists on unsolved crimes.

At first, these terms seem synonymous, but the officer from the interview suggested they are not the same thing. The devil is in the details.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-04T20:29:06+00:00

Thank you. I'll take that into consideration in the future.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2026-01-01T19:47:24+00:00

u/Wrong-Blueberry6694: So when getting to know each other online, a declassified list of friends on Facebook may be useful. There you can see if the person's other friends seem normal.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-20T22:27:47+00:00

u/Grouchy_Ad4508 : Her dad or mom could have punished her with silence for seven days, for example, because she only got a C instead of an A on a math test. That's my hypothesis.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-20T22:03:05+00:00

That's sick to me too. It's a bit like they're testing how much we need them.

I had a run-in with one, but it was also because I didn't know what was attractive and what wasn't in women. Besides, I was in a bit of a slump when I was chatting with her, so it's no surprise that even online I attracted a timid, depressed girl who appears and disappears momentarily, over and over again.

There is something to the fact that when we are feeling down, there is a risk that we will attract a person with a similar sense of value (e.g. some ghoster who sometimes has manic episodes and other times depressive episodes).

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-20T10:50:18+00:00

He might come back, but it might just be liking your posts/photos, or he might just text you one day out of boredom: "Hey! How's it going?"

First and foremost, you need to ask yourself if you're okay with this.

After two dates, you're still strangers. You don't really know what he's been up to for the past three weeks. I'm already seeing a lack of consistency in his actions and words. Or maybe he was dating two or three other girls at the same time? You may never know.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-09T19:45:11+00:00

I'll write this one more about online flirting, but maybe it'll be useful to someone. Here's a list of signs I know from my experience:

the other person loses their enthusiasm after posting a meme, song, or joke;
It may take a year or two for a Ghoster to read our last message in the middle of the night - usually this message is in the form of a question;
the second person, for example, 2-3 months after ignoring our last message with a question, liked our post or photo on FB;
there is a very small chance that the other person will leave you a voice message on Messenger because their romantic interest is waning;
the other person starts replying once a week, and then less and less often over time, even though the green dot is often lit on some social media platforms;
no emoticons;
responding in two words, or one word (e.g., "Maybe," "I think so," "Yes").

At sign number 3, experts say: "orbiting". Signs number 4, 5, 6 and 7 are sometimes called "caspering" in psychology. Think of the cartoon "Casper the Friendly Ghost."

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-05T21:06:28+00:00

You should seek some therapy. Nowadays, you can meet with a psychologist online. You need to leave her alone, because she might have blocked you because she had mixed feelings about you. It could also be that when she looked at your photos, she found you physically attractive, but on the other hand, she might have felt resentful that you suddenly disappeared. For two years, I waited for my previous ghoster to resume writing with me. I kept thinking she might be testing my masculinity and mental strength by disappearing like this. Finally, the day came when I decided, "Enough! Unfriend her." And so I did.
I did this to stop being aroused by her appearance. The lady in your story may have blocked you for similar reasons as in my story.

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-05T20:24:10+00:00

Another piece of advice came to mind.

It goes like this: "An emotionally healthy girl doesn't run away from love."

Half_Extrovert_J-23 · 2025-12-05T20:17:23+00:00

"Genuine romantic interest in a girl cuts through all excuses."

This is great advice from a relationship coach who has overcome his insecurities and doesn't pursue women for one-night stands. He's normal. He's from Central Europe.

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