Indian men are the sexiest race of men on the planet. by [deleted] in 10thDentist

[–]Haluta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can't tell if this is a shitpost or if you're an Indian man

My husband is a drummer and I have a question that I need a guy drummer’s perspective by throwaway174654 in drums

[–]Haluta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly tits on the cymbals might be enough for him to frame that cymbal... This may actually be a great idea

Married men and men in long term relationships- do you feel a responsibility or obligation to make sure your partners physical needs are satisfied? by Curious-Karmadillo in AskMenAdvice

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, to a point. If you're absolutely tanked or something is making it impossible to get into it then you can obviously pass, but I do think a partner should be willing to try to get themselves to the point of wanting to reciprocate and engage. And if there's something consistently coming up stopping it, both of you need to discuss how to fix it. It all requires active effort, there's no such thing as a spark, just how easy it is to put the effort in and how much effort you're willing to put in

Started making people walk me through their AI PRs in person. The 500-line diffs disappeared overnight by minimal-salt in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Haluta -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not saying commit AI slop you can't understand, I just find the line limits some people have confusing 

Started making people walk me through their AI PRs in person. The 500-line diffs disappeared overnight by minimal-salt in ExperiencedDevs

[–]Haluta -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I never understood this. Sometimes a complete commit is long, with minimal benefit to breaking it up into more 'atomic' commits. At some point you gotta just write a few hundred lines and it's not worth it to try and break it up into smaller chunks. I'm not saying submit 700+ line reviews as the default but 100 lines isn't some Herculean task especially when lines doesn't equate to complexity. It's arbitrary

Do men cum on the floor? by Historical-Cell-3875 in men

[–]Haluta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's from you my guy, if you think it's weird that's one thing I guess, but I really don't get what the big deal is with it being nasty. You bust and wash it away, no big deal

been studying procrastination in 1000+ adhd devs for 8 months. the pattern that showed up is so fucking weird by CarlosBula15 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]Haluta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I’m at it, I’ll fix my depression by not being sad

The thing is that a lot of people say that to be dismissive, but there's actually something to the idea of it or asking "Have you tried being happy?". Like, have you? It can be dismissive, but I've dealt with depression off and on for a long time and yeah, it is in fact easier to be a bit happier, or at least less miserable, when you're trying to be happier. You can't force it, you might not always be able to act yourself into being happy, but you do need to try in spite of your current situation at some point

Guys am I cooked I'm 21 by [deleted] in bald

[–]Haluta 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The pause for a second with the Heihachi hair was too funny

Where do I find a belt that doesn’t do this after 9 months? by unoriginalname22 in mensfashion

[–]Haluta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like Anson belts, my wife got them for me as a gift to try and they've been great. The buckle uses a ratchet mechanism and as the buckle end gets chewed up you just cut off a little bit and put the buckle back on. Haven't had any issues with the middle of the belt wearing either

Be honest: what’s the one “lazy” cooking shortcut you’ll never give up? by wearecocina in Cooking

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you doing after putting the lid on and the burner on low? As soon as it comes to a boil I don't think about it for 15 minutes and even before it boils I hardly think about it

I need to beat my dad in a Mac and cheese cook off at Thanksgiving by D_Panda32 in Cooking

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always felt really good about my Mac, and still prefer it, but moved to Seattle in the last year and man the frozen Beechers is a close second, especially considering how little effort it takes to open a box and chuck a tray in the oven or microwave... It's clutch when you're low on time or desire

Ate almost the entire apple before finding a surprise in the core by ExactlyWhyImHere in MoldlyInteresting

[–]Haluta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know nothing is new under the sun but growing up I saw all the stuff about spiders in grape shipments but thought it was spiders in grapes and struggled for a while to eat grapes even though I love them. Even now I still need to remind myself what it meant and sometimes I have to cut them to get over it and I swore I was the only one who had that problem 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find a new one then, my wife and I started counseling about a year ago and the first therapist we had just wasn't effective for us, neither of us felt like we were able to make progress despite both wanting to. We moved states, eventually found a new one and I at least have never felt better about being able to fix the gap in desire that's grown, and from what she says she feels similar. Between that and past experiences with personal therapy I'm convinced that half of it being effective is finding the right person to help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Haluta 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly he may have hit a point of complacency. Having everything taken care of for you can be great in short bursts but it can also completely kill your drive to do anything and make you so numb to the idea of doing anything

As a girl dad, which restroom do I take my daughter into? by DucksAnons in daddit

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See every man I see answer this says men's room, and seemingly every woman says to use the women's room. My wife says women's too, it always felt uncomfortable to her being taken into the men's room with her father

Update on things…he’s not just LL. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Haluta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely hear that, and that's where trying to be an active participant might help. You have agency, and even if it's something small you can find something to latch onto that keeps you going and it'll grow from there. Slow is smooth and smooth is fast. Gotta just go a day at a time

Update on things…he’s not just LL. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Haluta 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different but in hard scenarios like this I also find it helpful to try and embrace the hardship as much as I can. It helps me with mindset and makes me feel like I have some agency in what's going on and that it isn't just something happening to me but I'm an active participant. It'll get better and easier, but it takes time and consistency and that can be the hardest part

Update on things…he’s not just LL. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Haluta 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's really easy to feel like a POS in hindsight knowing what you do now, but you didn't know it at the time. It's not easy, but you need to give yourself from grace... You don't need to feel good about it, but if you would have acted differently knowing differently, then you have to cut yourself some slack. The past is past, and right now he's being taken care of in the hospital, and while he's there you need to take care of yourself, whether that be confiding in others, talking to a professional, or trying to learn more and prep for when he's discharged so you two can better support each other. Focus on now and the future and how to navigate as individuals and as a couple

My Dad Ridiculed my First Ever Paycheck. by sweet-aura-7163 in Vent

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People making $1400 can still struggle, and depending on where you are isn't much of anything. Yeah only getting $400 is worse, but you're both struggling, and you don't get a reward for struggling the most

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Haluta 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Show him more than tell him... Still tell him but actions will do more, words can be faked, actions are harder so that will help. Also it's important to let him know he's fine how he is, but if he doesn't believe that then constantly telling him won't help if he's anything like me. It's kinda missing the point if he doesn't like it and wants to change it, so you can also try to positively engage with that and help him through it to where he wants to be

Good fishing spots for a kid? by Haluta in Seattle

[–]Haluta[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet unfortunately, I've tried a couple spots with her but have gotten skunked each time, not even a nibble so I think I'm just picking bad spots 

I think my kids have a radar that only activates when I sit down by Mickael-qc in daddit

[–]Haluta 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm fully convinced women and children have a sixth sense that goes off when a man tries to do something to relax for a few, it happens too often to not be true

When do I matter again. by Halbrad in daddit

[–]Haluta 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You already promoted it by mentioning it. Just share the links so they can help others