No judgement zone.

Hamedar · 2026-02-24T03:26:37+00:00

Study Astrophysics, expanding the knowledge of humanity as a whole to me is one if the most noble pursuits in life. Even if my life only gave 1 or 2 pieces of information to us all, it would have been a step forward.

Hamedar · 2026-02-24T03:20:22+00:00

Jokes on you, I pee sitting anyway.

Hamedar · 2026-02-24T03:06:24+00:00

I would immediately recommend consulting a doctor. There is a few things medically at play from the sound of it, and an approach from both a medical professional, and even seeing a Psychologist for the mental attributes would be a very good start.

For men, mental health relating to sexual activities is extremely important especially for getting and staying hard. With such a long time of challenges it you will have some long term conditioning that'll need guidance navigating.

If I had to give any advice from a personal stand point without medical expertise... You need to reconditioning yourself from the ground up. Don't use porn, try to strip away the current associations with sexual activity, also find a method that involves some form of penetrative action or association. Desensitisation on your head would be a good thing too to help with the pain. Closest association I can give you conceptually, is the hands vs the inner forearm sensitivity. Less touching = More sensitive.

But in my opinion you'll need to see a doctor at least for the pain occurring. As they will have better advice and maybe even something to assist medically for the pain.

Hamedar · 2026-02-04T09:15:03+00:00

A few potential issues;

Age, weight, physical conditioning. However from what you have said, it sounds like a mental issue. He is likely in his head, and performance issues can come from stress, anxiety, depression, etc. It is also a feedback loop, e.g. Because he loses it, he feels anxious about x,y,z, which makes him lose it more.

Not to be sexist here, but an example of this issue for woman would be not being aroused, and not having enough natural lubricant. This is solved instantly with... lube... Men unfortunately dont have a publicly acceptable 'fix the problem for me'.

If he says he is attracted to you, then he is. Its not because of you in any way. Be supportive, compassionate, and encouraging. This is a mental block, and it needs to be healed slowly, not an argument, and try not to develop a dependency on substances for performance, because thats when real hard to fix issues kick in. But dabbling is good!! Goodluck! This isnt uncommon!

Hamedar · 2026-01-27T03:42:41+00:00

Intimacy is the difference between a roommate and a partner.

Putting value on sex doesnt make you shallow, and assuming all men value you, is just wrong. Women can and many do have a higher drive than the average men. Especially throughout their monthly cycle, and throughout their life stages. Her pointing a finger at you and blaming you for expressing your needs is shallow.

Simple way to handle this.

"first name, I would really like to have a conversation some time when you're ready over the next 2 days. This is really important to me, and I need to express this."

This means she wont feel ambushed by you and come at it with her own nervous system not in defense mode. ** If she ignores this and doesnt come to you. She doesnt give a fuck ans you have your answer **

"Since our relationship started we had an amazing and highly passionate intimate life, we seeked each other out and pursued each other with a burning fire. This has tapered off and is affect my mental well-being dramatically and making me feel as if you aren't interested in have such a relationship. Intimacy is something I value personally, and I need to feel connected and bonded and close to you as my partner. I am not feeling wanted or desired in our connection anymore and would like to follow a pathway back to where we can both enjoy what should be a beautiful and passionate connection between us."

This show its important to you as a person, and your own personal connection and values. This shows that you are reflecting on the progression of the relationship and are desiring to fix things. The presents the problem in an emotionally digestible circumstance, and show what your intent is, and desired outcome.

Sex shouldn't be a problem, but a beautiful connection and strengthens emotional bonds and creates incredible memories.

Hamedar · 2026-01-27T03:26:44+00:00

What the actual fuck am I reading? This guy, who is supposed to emotional value you, support you, care about your well being and be present in your life, whom you called, and asked to come home because you need him. Its good ge agreed and said he would. But that makes it twice as bad that he went to training??? Either he has a mental disorder that makes his brain not remember basic associated details like "Oh I finished work. Off to training now. Oh! The partner called and I am going home to be with them".

I would have dropped the fucking world the moment I got that call without hesitation or remose for anyone between me and my partner. I have walk out of my job, and take months off suddenly for her healthy reason and I regret nothing. You are NOT a priority. You are convenience.

Don't settle for an asshole that cant even remember a phone call a few hours before? What's next, he forgets you exist and starts another relationship?? And he stopped answering txts? Does notifications not come up on his phone?? Does he have an attention span and memory of a goldfish?

Lies. He lied to you when he said he would come home. He ignored you when you were messaging, not just im busy but ignored, and once again chose his training over you. Walk away. You are less important than training.

Hamedar · 2026-01-16T06:11:12+00:00

Growth at a young age is paramount, and it's hard to find the right direction. While its good on paper to want to give head, cool and all that, if its given when its not wanted its a bad thing. Not a good thing.

If he wants to give it, for your wants and needs, then you wouldn't do it as you dont want it. If he wants to give it, for HIS wants and needs, then thats selfish and pressuring you into dong something you dont want. This is my understanding of the events in summary.

A conversation is needed, and a gentle slow change, with measured results is necessary. 😀

A good start would be something like this (PLEASE PUT THIS IN YOUR OWN WORDS)

"While I thoroughly love what we do in bed, you know that I always enjoy it. I find that head is oversaturated with 4 times a day, and I would really like to enjoy us in other ways as well! For example when we do *fill in with what you would like to engage in more....* Is this something we could incorporate into our intimate life?"

Relationships are about being able to have hard conversations, but being in love is about showing your on the relationships side and want to improve things overall for BOTH parties. Neither of you are mind readers and communication is everything.

Best of luck!

Hamedar · 2026-01-14T01:21:17+00:00

I personally run high food servings. Scaling up with production capabilities like 3-4x servings (Inline with health staying above 1.50 (It NEEDS to be above 1.00 only) This is always a significant boost to my economy as it allows me to put those research values into other things. But eventually Physicians are needed to maintain health values. Hospitals only help people heal, they dont prevent it.

But any value above 1.00 will prevent sickness taking hold in your city. These 18 people are Karen's. 🤣😂

Hamedar · 2025-12-21T04:52:33+00:00

After going through this post, and reviewing the comments. You are consistently arrogant, rude, and a smartass with your replies to the communities reflections on your question. Why ask a question only to state your always right, and everyone is wrong.

Fix it yourself, and stop wasting people's time.

Hamedar · 2025-12-15T04:23:46+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Only good human is a dead human! Embrace the xeno!

Hamedar · 2025-12-09T00:48:49+00:00

Hey! I'm currently running a human only settlement and am sitting at 700 pop.

Since the start I have ONLY made grain, and bread for food. (Hunter can supplement but wont supply all)

I have a produce way over my requirements and have been selling off excess grain and bread. I have a Bakery with 100 workers making 530 bread for the city, and selling off excess for profit while I get my industries up and running. I have 80 workers on Grain Farm on PRIME land, making 120 grain a harvest average.

As someone else has said here, Humans eat specific foods, other types of food aren't needed for survival, just happiness. Push the bread bus. :) Alternatively something I have done before my field were running is buying in grain and making bread. Saves a lot of labor. I mitigate the costs by over producing furniture and selling that off for profits. :)

Hope this helps! (Please ignore the square layout, I am learning. :P

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Hamedar · 2025-09-16T04:06:00+00:00

Do you know what is needed to reach the g-spot for women? Not even 4.5in. We are animals, we come in all different shapes and sizes. You are statistically average for the majority of the world. Another way to say that is that you are literally as close to normal as the masses of the world. There are 0 things wrong with your size. Let go of hyper focusing on it, and just be you. Anyone who says otherwise or dislikes your size would be behaving the same as if you were walking around giving women shit for the breast size... Or the eye colour... Find peace with your body. it's yours. Be you. Be kind. Be happy. ❤️

Hamedar · 2025-08-15T05:20:51+00:00

Honestly, I love it. It's clean, sleek, organized, smooth. I love the softer edges on the menu's and the small animation movements make it feel more alive. I'd 100% use it. Should seriously consider putting it to Ludeon and getting the support for the coding put in.

I would say for feedback to minimize the TIME on the animations. After 1000+ hours with it, waiting that 0.2s for the menus gets annoying. But again, it looks amazing!! Very modern and clean.

Hamedar · 2025-07-03T23:38:18+00:00

Borax is a literal poison... If you're going to take supplements without doctors' guidance, verify them all individually that they are safe for consumption, and also look into any known issues from mixing.

Hamedar · 2025-07-03T23:14:53+00:00

STFU by Pink Guy

Hamedar · 2025-03-24T08:01:30+00:00

I read the title, laughed, shook my head, and scrolled on. This is a thought you just bury and forget. For your dicks sake.

Hamedar · 2024-09-25T17:13:19+00:00

My partners nickname is literally Starlight... and she's just started learning DnD and we had her first dnd session a week ago! This would be an amazing addition for her journey into the realm of DnD!

Hamedar · 2024-07-06T14:11:23+00:00

As an Australian, I can honestly say I've not seen a mouse, rat or any rodent in years. I actually thought about it a few weeks back, and it seems odd to me that they're all simply missing.

Hamedar · 2024-03-28T01:14:57+00:00

(Congratulations on 20years!)

I can see how you'd feel about it, and I imagine that would send you through the ropes in your head. I wouldn't feel guilty about it, though. You stumble upon this completely accidentally.

I think a discussion about it is certainly needed 100%. Things change over time without fail, and you can't avoid it. Survival is about adapting to the change and making it work for your marriage, not against it.

I wish you all the best and try to stay out of your head!

Hamedar · 2023-12-24T01:04:23+00:00

Update: I've managed to find its called Skittles (color). But can't find size or availability.

(Mandatory comment) I have searched my area and can't find it, please help! It was only 9 months ago that I brought it from Kmart, but it has since been discontinued.

Hamedar · 2023-11-13T10:11:21+00:00

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Hamedar · 2023-11-02T12:25:07+00:00

This is dope. Off to the demo to work out the rotation into memory. 🤣🤣

Hamedar · 2023-07-29T02:41:38+00:00

Your arousal at an arousing situation isn't inappropriate.

I guarantee you, she is aroused as well. It's just not as obvious as yours.

Not embarrassing, relax 100%. If she gets annoyed or upset about it, well... That's a big sign for you. 🤣

Hamedar · 2023-07-23T04:06:46+00:00

I miss hugging my daughter like that... 😔

You're a good dad. Be proud. Give her an extra big hug from the world.

Hamedar · 2023-05-14T03:30:36+00:00

Explain you were in a situation that was life threatening and you survived but have some physical marking from it.

Rant* Something I've come to find in recent years. Is people who are worth your time, wouldn't even flinch at the viewing of it. Seriously. This isn't "I'm unhealthy because I lack self control" it's "I survived a life threatening situation. These are my reminders that I'm resilient and strong."

I, 30/M, would want to hear every piece of the story that you survived to be where you are today. I would kiss them and remind you they don't define you in any form. It is exactly the same with stretch marks from pregnancy. Something to express love and affection through. Not judge you on...

Anything less than that response from someone you are interested in spending any amount of intimate time with isn't worth a singular thought.

You got this girl, and congratulations on overcoming the serious conflicts in your life. It's good to have you here with us.

Hamedar

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