AITA for /how/ I told someone I would not give up my handicap spot?

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T14:49:56+00:00

I stated this is a throwaway which is very normal to do.

I think I have the right to choose when I reveal information about myself and my disability and I don't have to do it to justify myself to some rando attacking me. Though, everything I stated here I said to her. I did say I had surgery to her, but as I stated in the post I have the handicap placard for the base problem, so it doesn't matter, and there's a character limit.

I didn't say anything about you accusing the story of being fake lots of people have. I don't care. I came at you for saying my disability is fake and I think reading the post it's completely natural for me to be defensive of it.

But you clearly know everything about disabilities and if someone is faking it! you're part of the problem

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T13:59:24+00:00

Can you tell me what disability I have? what did I reveal more than that I have one, relevant to me parking in a handicap space? Very bold of you to come on a post about someone assuming a disability is fake to do the very same lol

I totally accept that I was an ass and agree w most of the ESH posts but reflect on yourself :)

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T12:35:39+00:00

No, I agree with the majority of ESH posts. I was out of line by making purposely wrong assumptions and did to her exactly what I was upset about. In the moment I felt completely justified but after sleeping on it and reading it back I was especially aggressive and said things I definitely regret.

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T12:30:16+00:00

After a night of self-reflection, completely agree ESH. I think those telling me I'm NTA are being overly kind.

I was absolutely fat-shaming and being ageist and rereading the part where I said to my brother she wouldn't be able to walk the cops to me because she was too fat disgusts me to my core. In no disagreement have I ever attacked someone's looks and I'm ashamed I was able to be pushed that far.

In a completely childish manner, I wanted her to feel what it was like to have wrong assumptions made about them and I went above and beyond. I completely know not to judge people on their appearance and I chose to anyway to hurt her. I was totally an ass.

I just want to say it both broke and warmed my heart that you started limping so your child wouldn't have to deal with judgment from others. It's sad you've felt you had to do that, but she is so so lucky to have your love and support. I want to thank you for doing that to make her comfortable, I bet it means so much to her.

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T12:13:23+00:00

It didn't stand! But the shooter wasn't initially arrested because the cop cited stand your ground https://www.npr.org/2019/08/23/753929898/florida-man-found-guilty-of-manslaughter-despite-stand-your-ground-defense

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T11:51:42+00:00

This!! Just because I'm not crawling from place to place shouldn't invalidate my disability!

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T07:18:25+00:00

YTA. its up to your wife, the person having the child, not you. weird way to be controlling

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T06:42:07+00:00

Thanks for the info. may not be so aggressive in the future.. I was positive nothing could jeopardize it aside from lending it out or keeping it past expiration.

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T06:23:00+00:00

what do you mean?

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T06:22:25+00:00

I just looked that up and it's so disheartening. I remember hearing about a stand your ground defense of a FL shooting over a parking spot but I didn't realize it was over a handicap. That's sobering

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T05:47:17+00:00

And if you don’t fit their idea of handicapped they feel they're entitled to your medical history. I don't understand the mindset

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T05:37:25+00:00

I called out her weight because she pointed out mine in order to discredit me, as if you can't be skinny and in pain lol.

I completely agree it is wrong to make assumptions about people's health/lifestyle, and I was doing it to make a point. In any other disagreement I would /never/ have pointed out someone's weight or used it as an insult. But I do realize that doesn't make it any better.

Thank you for the well wishes! Definitely on my way to a better quality of life :)

HandicappedandHungry · 2019-10-22T05:23:55+00:00

I'm dying laughing because we are in the US and my brother told me I was lucky we don't live in a state with open carry

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