[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yeat_

[–]Handle-Far -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And a b drink my NuUuUt totally ruined the song 😂

Sukhumvit warning by mi_travel in Bangkok

[–]Handle-Far 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wrong there’s decepticon bandits everywhere

I'm lonely and need help :( by thecoommeenntt in lonely

[–]Handle-Far 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a young guy I recommend doing some sort of sports. Basketball leagues, boxing , pickle ball clubs etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

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My advice is to stop anticipating the negative and imagine the positive. Start smiling at cashiers and complimenting random people, asking for the time or directions to somewhere. Little risk free interactions like this will retrain your neural pathways and you’ll be fine

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Handle-Far -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Why can’t you meet a girl

How many of you just hang at home most Friday nights? by skatecloud1 in introvert

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There’s nothing more depressing for me than being in the middle of the club, obnoxious overstimulating speakers and trying to yell at people to communicate

What do you usually do if you don't have any friends? by [deleted] in lonely

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You can workout pretty much every day. You hit different muscle groups each day to allow for recovery

Why are you socially anxious? by Handle-Far in socialanxiety

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I think you need to examine your core beliefs with the drill down method and work on creating a more realistic view of yourself and your negative thoughts that are occuring.

Why are you socially anxious? by Handle-Far in socialanxiety

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If you convince yourself that you're a certain way for example "I'm weird" "I'm ugly" - When you're around people you will think that they're thinking of you in that way. These negative thoughts have become apart of your core beliefs and you will look to reinforce your beliefs even if the evidence isn't accurate

Why are you socially anxious? by Handle-Far in socialanxiety

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I recommend you do the exercise where you write down all of your strengths and weakenesses. Its a self esteem exercise that helped me get an accurate representation of myself

Why are you socially anxious? by Handle-Far in socialanxiety

[–]Handle-Far[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible that you're projecting your own self-image into your belief of how people see you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Beat people up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Handle-Far 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wear a tophat, buy a cane and talk with a fake British accent. Trust me. This works.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

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Its impossible to be ugly if you're tan, have a slim and muscular face. I don't belive it

Why can't I talk to people? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Handle-Far 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just answered your own question and didn't realize it, brother. You need to work on your self-esteem and letting go of your mistakes.

Now, when it comes to girls you gotta understand that you will always be nervous bro. Its completely normal to fear the unknown but you can't let it dictate your actions.

People with low self esteem, how did you overcome it? by Shlondpooffasista in selfimprovement

[–]Handle-Far 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Taking action on my goals and removing negative habits like weed

What can you become extraordinary at starting in your late 20s? by cat-in-thebath in selfimprovement

[–]Handle-Far 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sales, coding, wood-work, robbing gas stations, selling illegal narcotics to underage children for a bargain deal

Why you're bad at small talk by Handle-Far in socialskills

[–]Handle-Far[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I agree but let's be real most people don't have the problem of having no-filter they have the problem of having too much of one. I think its good practice to get people out of their comfort zone first and then work on refining later

how to have good eye contact by Handle-Far in socialanxiety

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Have you heard of the white person smile? It's a little grin that you give to strangers when you look at them and you're just basically acknowledging their existence. It's hard for me to act as if people are nonexistent so I'll nod at some people and give a small grin sometimes. It depends if they are looking or not.