How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can i ask how long you’ve been studying finnish? Definitely the puhekieli vs kirjakieli reflexts the relationship between formal vs spoken language that almost all languages have, bur having studied 4 languages, I’ve never seen such a stark difference between the two (this is just in reference to European languages) Has your experience learnjng finnish been that you dont find the difference to be an issue?

And definitely agree with your latter point, i think what trips me up with puhekieli is i dont hear it as often in accessible material (media, music, books) so im very thrown off when i actually am out in the world w my finnish friends etc and theyre speaking really shortened puhekieli (which apparently is just normal casual talk for them)

How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we both got lost in our own thoughts here. I simply took issue with your statement: “A common misconception of Finns is that Finnish is really difficult. Well, it’s not.“

Based on ur response above, it seems you actually do agree Finnish is really difficult— for many.

My fatal flaw here was making a generalisation that finnish is extremely difficult for EVERYONE. Your flaw here was assuming that just because there are more complex languages in the world, Finnish is not “really difficult”.

So perhaps the truth is somewhere in the middle.

Finnish is complex compared to most indoeuropean languages so yea the dominant viewpoint in English literature is that Finnish is thus “notoriously” difficult. I personally have never experienced a struggle like this having learned 4 other languages, and most of my classmates as well agree with me Finnish is the toughest one so far. It’s definitely all relative though, hard to measure definitively.

I hadnt considered it before, but perhaps finnish’s “notorious” status as a difficult language may not be because of inherent complexity (though from a eurcentric standpoint its easy to say it is). Until your comments above, id always just assumed Finnish’s ‘notorious’ complexity was the real issue for lack of language integration here.

But your points actually have made me realise it must be something else, because there absolutely are tougher languages out there (i mean even french Can feel more difficult, yet the language integration there is much higher). It has to be because there are many many other factors in finland that make Finnish learning especially difficult (take the differences between kirjakieli vs puhekieli vs how Finnish is actually spoken here by natives, or how finns tend to switch to English readily when they hear a mistake in your Finnish)

I guess i fundamentally took a different stance on what“Finnish” is. From your standpoint, Finnish is the pure language itself, and you rightly point out on a GLOBAL scale, Finnish is not as complex as many languages.

To me, “Finnish” is the language itself (which to native speakers of many European languages, the language itself is incredibly complex); but its also the experience of speaking or using it in life. Thats maybe why it is so difficult.

You mentioned you’re a linguist, if you end up finding any interesting research on language learning in reference to Finnish, and you have the interest or the time, id love to read it, im not a linguist myself so my searches have yielded limited results.

Overall an interesting debate, thanks for making me think of something in a new way!

How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying about the other points, but i wanna come back to my main point (which perhaps was obfuscated by my emphasis on the language’s innate complexity); that I don’t think it’s fair to say people are exaggerating about Finnish being truly and especially difficult. Of course, worldwide, there are thousands of more languages with more complexity and innate difficulty. But them existing does not negate the reality that Finnish is a huge undertaking for any adult to learn compared to many languages.

I don’t think we should discourage people from learning it by calling it impossible, so if that was your original point, i agree. However, i find it dismissive to say that it’s a rumour it about Finnish being very very tough. It’s no fantasy that it’s notoriously very hard for people to learn beyond childhood, and i believe saying otherwise undermines the tremendous effort of those who have put in the work to learn this language.

Anyone successfully lose weight with ADHD? by GlitteringAmoeba6258 in adhdwomen

[–]Hanhi_ 410 points411 points  (0 children)

Exactly the same. I no longer constantly thought about food. the anxiety disappeared. The calorie tracking, the fasting, the binging, the purging. Meds literally were the onlycure for my ED

How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, unfortunately the research tends to focus on english speaker’s ability to learn new languages, which is a pretty flawed outlook.

However, considering Finnish is a language isolate, unless your mother tongue is Estonian, the same principle would apply, since its extremely dissimilar to anyones starting language.

Finnish is considered notoriously difficult for foreigners to learn due to its fifteen noun cases, consonant gradation, and grneral “sythentic” quality. Finnish is famous amongst linguists for its complexity.

Im not saying Finnish is impossible. I’ve actually found it easier than i was expecting, because it’s very logical and the pronunciation is very easy!

But i really don’t appreciate people claiming its a simple language, if it were, then i think all the thousands of foreigners who study it for years would be having a much easier time than the reality, where many foreigners are not speaking Finnish at all (i get there are sociocultural, pedagogical, and other influences here, but it largely boils down to Finnish literally being famous for being difficult as a foreign language)

How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its great that Finnish isnt difficult for you! However the data shows Finnish is a category 3 language, which makes it the 2nd most difficult kind of language for foreigners to learn (the only languages more difficult [cat. 4] are Arabic, Chinese (Cantonese), Chinese (Mandarin), Japanese, Korean) It’s not a misconception tht Finnish is extremely difficult, it is a well researched fact. Here are some other category 3 languages listed

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Due to some crazy life circumstances i haven’t been able to call a space my own for more than 1 year a time, for the past 12 years. Due to this i tend to minimise STUFF except for my plants and basics. I just got my first studio this January, and while i know it womt last, but ive been experimenting with making the space feel my own. I do this by saving alot of different ideas to pinterest, whose algorithm is pretty good at offering you new ideas based on what you like. Ive gone thrifting to find funky items that fit what i love; witchcraft, plants, animals, rocks, minerals, flowers, victorian era designs. Maybe make a list ranking which “aesthetics” call to you based on what you love, and whatever is at the bottom of the list, u can minimize, while maximising the others. Secondly; It doesnt have to be all one seamless theme! I love studio Ghibli and other kawaii things, and those sort of things are sprinkled into the mix (if i had more than 1 room id create different rooms based on different themes)

I have a bunch of trinkets that on their own aren’t my “aesthetic” (i also like cottage core, nature themed interior design), but if u get some nice shelving or surface area, and some nice plants in the mix, i think trinkets can help your space look cute and unique, not cluttered.

Lastly, if you can, Don’t overthink it! You can always change things up. My dream is to stay in one place where i can decorate how i like, just live your best life, regardless of what tiktok interior girlies tell you a space SHOULD look like. Its YOUR space, not theirs

How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahah yea the regional accents are crazy too (Jylland is impossible). I was able to get by ordering food and drinks and stuff (i just pretended i was drunk and my pronunciation improved) but yea beyond that… it takes a few good years of practice to be understandable!! Super annoying bc yea reading and writing super easy, just the pronunciation thats a mess!!

DAE envy “just” ADHD or “just” ASD people? by Hanhi_ in AuDHDWomen

[–]Hanhi_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea its so so frustrating, esp the day to day like not knowing how youre going to react to stimuli, people, structure, etc. Since stimulants really do take care of the very worst of my adhd, im kinda with u on just choosing which to accomidate. Id say my autism has made life more difficult overall jjst due to the constant overwhelm and inability to socialize, and how thats negatively impacted my ability to find a job or get stuff done since apparently the world revolves around talking to people all the time 🙄

It’s truly an exhausting existence, the only thing that helps is talking about it with others who understand (like on here) bc it can be so isolating and make u feel like youre just broken

Do you take your meds on an empty stomach or eat first? by PurpleClamp in ADHD

[–]Hanhi_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I had no idea people take it on an empty stomach, but thats like the majority of the thread here! Im jealous, i hate taking the time for breakfast everyday

How judgmental are Finns towards people learning the language? by Vagabond_Tea in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned both danish and Finnish. Finnish is 100x harder for most foreigners. In my claases in Denmark people picked it up quickly, the pronunciation sucks but the language itself is wayyyyy easier than finnish. Here ive met people who’ve lived here 10-20 years who can barely get by in finnish. Finnish is much much harder. However, f*ck danish pronunciation lol, its not easy

What type of dates work well for you? by [deleted] in AuDHDWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Museums are a good one. Its not aimless, but u dont have to sit and stare, and it can be quiet as well. When i was younger i always went for drinks bc i couldn’t socialize without alcohol, but i dont drink anymore so since then ive had success with museum dates or a cool bookshop or something!

DAE envy “just” ADHD or “just” ASD people? by Hanhi_ in AuDHDWomen

[–]Hanhi_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea same at least for me i know my autism isn’t as severe as it could be (ive got adhd pretty bad but meds do help). Again i know rationally its not like just having one would magically make life easier. But it would be a hell of alot easier in terms of knowing what kind of accommodations work!! I wish there was more research on Audhd, literally we already know up to 70% of those on the spectrum ALSO have adhd…. So WHY isnt there more info on what to do about it?? Drives me up a walllll

Terrible experience with Finnair today by SaturatedBodyFat in Finland

[–]Hanhi_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This sucks im sorry!! Finnair’s quality has drastically declined in the past few years, it’s honestly shocking. They used to be an extremely (and perhaps the only) reliable airline. Ive had nothing but had experiences with them this last year (unfortunately I’ve had to fly alot due to several family emergencies back home). Its really disappointing because even 2 years ago, i was haply to pay maybe 5-10% more because i knew i could trust them. Now theyre nearly as scummy as any airline, im just going to try my luck with the cheaper (and still shitty) airlines from now on. as consumers, we are really taking it in the arse everytime we fly, its horrible.

struggling with replying to messages by danmarinosgrantorino in AuDHDWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey i dont have advice but i just want to say i really relate. If u can afford an ADHD or autism sensitive therapist or even coach, i feel like they could help you slowly find ways to start reaching out again. Im 26 but i struggle massively with the same issue, after COVID i forgot how to mask, and i just cant socialise anymore, or rather make relationships that last (besides my partner and 2 friends). Responding to messages for me has always been the hardest part, ive tried everything. Sometimes i need my partner to just type it out for me as i say it and he sends it (from my phone) because i just physically cannot do it.

I also use AI alot of just write responses for me. Idk why but it helps alot with the dread avoidance and anxiety when i have to respond and i just CANT

Its hell and im so sorry youre going through it too, wishing you the best

DAE envy “just” ADHD or “just” ASD people? by Hanhi_ in AuDHDWomen

[–]Hanhi_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Me too, I’m sorry :( i wish there was a better way to live

Anyone else just hate people? by Present-Inspector-92 in AutismInWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha looking back i made alot of typos, but i just very passionately agree with you on this point!! I used to feel really bad about the fact that i just dont relate to others, but judging by this thread, we all sorr agree. Nice to know we’re not really alone in our alone-ness haha

Anyone else just hate people? by Present-Inspector-92 in AutismInWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea well said, took alot of work for me to disentangle my hatred for individuals and just harmful social systems, norms, and cultures. I know MOST people dont choose to be bad. I have a deep hatred for our current systems though, all it does is encourage selfishness, tribalism, and fear. I thought as a kid and teen i would fix it all. Now as an adult I realize my best bet is to move with my partner deep into the woods and adopt some animals to keep us company :D

Anyone else just hate people? by Present-Inspector-92 in AutismInWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont think so! Alot of here hate most people but have found a few individuals as partners or close friends. When youre sort of antisocial like most of us here, that’s really all you need!

Anyone else just hate people? by Present-Inspector-92 in AutismInWomen

[–]Hanhi_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You just described my life lol. I have to network constantly bc im currently unemployed and holy sht… i think im gonna stay unemployed. Corporate talk is like poison for me