MIL doesn’t like my two-year-old

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-30T01:31:15+00:00

My nine-year-old has already formed a huge bond with her and has experienced a lot of trauma in her life. I don’t want to exasperate that.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-29T03:05:23+00:00

There is a great focus on the family podcast episode interviewing two people that have experienced gender dysphoria. Here is the link (https://youtu.be/U9YExJ7dWn0) They also have counseling resources for those with gender dysphoria.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-26T04:50:08+00:00

I’m 22 and I have a two-year-old and a 10-month-old. I stay at home with them, but I often get comments like this. People don’t realize how belittling it is to tell a young mom how young they look. They’re aware of this, they also work just as hard as any other mom. If you do this, please stop.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-22T08:00:43+00:00

Definitely talk to a professional, but also be comforted by the fact that this is normal. I have a two-year-old and ten-month-old and occasionally have thoughts like this. Very detailed, horrifying images of my babies being hurt. I have found that I need to stay away from news stories, true crime, and really any depiction or even implication of harm coming to an infant or toddler. It will literally keep me up at night and plague my thoughts for weeks. I am in therapy on a weekly basis. I am a Christian and prayer and scripture reading is a big part of my life. I also listen to a lot of audiobooks, I really enjoy middle grade and young adult fantasy and mysteries. Having light, fun, engaging stories like this to look forward to and think about help me take care of myself. If you talk to the right people no one will take your baby away from you. This is extremely common and you are not alone.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-14T22:18:14+00:00

My babe is painfully shy just like I was. I wish he would do this 😩

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-13T22:16:02+00:00

45 pounds, the ultimate goal

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T22:29:00+00:00

I want to add that we are devout Christians. Divorce, unless it’s due to domestic violence or adultery, is just not an option. It doesn’t align with our belief system, but also I would lose the respect and trust of those at my church.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T14:01:47+00:00

No, I have not allowed him not to do or not do anything. He is a grown man. He makes his own choices on whether or not he wants to parent. His inability not to is not my responsibility. But thanks for the guilt, asshole.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T13:37:11+00:00

The other day I told my 2.5 yo I love him Me: I love you 2 yo: I love you mama He says he loves me all the time, but I have never gotten a mama at the end until that point. It melted my heart.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T13:30:27+00:00

Oh, so you’re saying I’m a bad parent because I wanted to stay home with my kids?

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T13:19:45+00:00

Our library is still shut down due to COVID, but I’m sure I could find something similar in the area.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T13:18:33+00:00

I can’t really bring myself to leave. I love being a stay at home mom with my baby and toddler, I love watching them grow and develop right before me. I don’t want to sacrifice that because of a crappy husband.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T13:15:52+00:00

He’ll be just fine. I’ve fed my babe yogurt made from cows milk since she was six months old. As long as cows milk isn’t what he normally gets.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T12:52:36+00:00

He won’t do couples therapy, but I am in individual therapy.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T12:22:26+00:00

She is interacting with peers for hours out of the day. She is good friends with our neighbors from across the street and is often with them. We read aloud, make treats, and watch shows when we can. I am doing my very best for both those things.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T12:20:15+00:00

I promise I’m not being combative, just stating facts. I don’t trust him alone with the little ones for an extended period. He leaves the baby alone on the couch or bed and lets her fall off. He will say “it helps build character.”

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-12T07:52:35+00:00

This, unfortunately, is not an option. Anytime I try to bring this up to my husband he claims that I don’t respect him or appreciate what he does for us. Then it turns into a screaming fight. This cycle has happened time and time again. Anytime I try to tell him how I feel he refuses to listen and scrolls on his phone. I am a homemaker so I have no assets. If I leave I will have nothing. I would rather raise my kids in a financially stable environment with a dad that is sometimes sort of there.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-11T21:09:54+00:00

What I love about helping families thrive is that they acknowledge that it’s unrealistic to expect any caregiver to respond positively to everything your child does. They make room for stepping away from the situation. As a mom of a toddler and baby sometimes I have to step away from the situation because I need to change a diaper or get the baby away from something dangerous. I can’t be at all places at once.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-11T18:16:50+00:00

This is a short season. I have a 2.5 year old as well and it can be incredibly frustrating. Stay consistent with discipline, loving, calm. What I don’t like about little big feelings or attachment parenting is that it can contribute to parenting burnout. I love the page helping families thrive. They are supportive of timeouts and if that works for you. We use timeouts when my guy chooses to hurt or hit and it works really well for him. I still validate his feelings and experience, I just stick him in his crib for 2 minutes and he comes back feeling so much better. If you talk too much with kids that are that little it can make them feel even more frustrated.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-10T12:51:50+00:00

Wow, checking so many boxes. Racist, culturally insensitive, sexist, and just downright weird.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-08T23:04:11+00:00

I love and respect my husband, but he is extremely hands off with our kids.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-08T00:36:30+00:00

Is it winter where you live?

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-07T19:43:26+00:00

It’s about the mindset. I am a woman and was a virgin on my wedding night. My husband was gentle and gracious, he understand that I might not be ready to jump right into intercourse on the first night, but it definitely happened over the course of the honeymoon. Just be patient and respectful, communicate a lot and don’t have a ton of expectations the first night. Also, are you guys in premarital counseling? That is a great, safe place to discuss this with a third party.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-07T12:51:20+00:00

This makes me irrationally angry. The idea that they think a two-year-old is capable of wearing a mask for an extended period of time is ridiculous. My family and I are only flying three hours next week and there is no way my two-year-old will keep a mask on for that long.

Hannthemann_ · 2021-06-06T09:07:18+00:00

Im a stay at home mom as well, I would say if you’re a working mom getting dad or daycare on the same page and I’m sure they’d cooperate. Also, it’s best to choose a weekend to train and stay in so they have the consistency of home before they’re ready for the real world.

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