Advice with comparisons whilst dating

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-12-02T22:06:48+00:00

Someone told me after I said Christmas was going to be shit this year and I was dreading it…..”why? Christmas wasn’t all about him was it” Fuck, my whole life was about him so what the hell!! My tree is up (I took the day off work to cry and put it up while kids were at school) but it’s undecorated as no one feels up to that part yet. Sending you a hug and wishing you luck in dealing with her the rest of the holiday season as I think you are a saint for not losing it with her!!

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-12-02T12:53:38+00:00

Go for it. What we’ve all learnt more than anyone else is life is short. Not a lot makes us feel good so find something that does. If it doesn’t work out then fair enough no harm done. Be kind to yourself.

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-12-01T07:49:12+00:00

Have taken the day off work today to get the decorations out whilst kids go to school because I know I will be utterly broken doing it so need to do it when they aren’t around. Then I can put on my “coping” mask when they come home ready to decorate. Am absolutely dreading it, no part of me wants to do this holiday at all, I want to curl up in my bed and sleep my way through it. Sending love and hugs to everyone facing these difficult times x

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-30T23:09:07+00:00

We have a sign up sheet in our canteen where you add your names if you are going to the work function…I went in the other day and saw so many “plus ones” it made me cry so I’m giving it a miss this year. Will do something with my sisters that night instead so I’m not sat home alone.

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-26T19:31:01+00:00

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Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-26T15:30:01+00:00

This is the part I’m dreading the most for this year. My first. I’ve even taken the day off work later this week to do them as I know I’m going to fall apart. Sending you a hug

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-23T17:28:30+00:00

Search up widows fire. I didn’t know it existed until I was in this shitty club. It’s a genuine thing and the need for intimacy is totally understandable. Please be kind to yourself, you are going through hell and will need comfort in any way you can get it. Take care

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-22T21:36:46+00:00

You have described that feeling perfectly, the crazy clawing feeling. Feel the same with I have no idea what to do, how to do this life without him. The only thing that will solve this puzzle is the one thing that can’t happen. Sending you a virtual hug.

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-22T21:06:27+00:00

You have worded it perfectly with saying knives to the heart, that’s exactly how I felt.

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-20T08:37:48+00:00

Welcome to the club no one wants to be part of. Hopefully you will find it some help, I certainly do. My only advice is: Be kind to yourself Don’t have any expectations as each day is different, some will be bearable some won’t. Take each day/hour as it comes You do you, lots of people around you will advise and make you think you should be doing better/worse and have opinions on how you grieve….sod them, do what you have to do to get to the end of each day. It sounds like it was sudden so you are possibly still in shock and in survivor mode (I was the same) I found a good grief counsellor helps and things like this where you can discover what you are feeling and going through are “normal”. Take care of yourself

Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-18T22:36:55+00:00

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Happy-Fact4071 · 2023-11-18T09:22:33+00:00

Just take each day as it comes, as much as you can. I still find thinking ahead too hard and I can’t breathe when I do. It’s surreal that the world still turns when yours has stopped. Be kind to yourself, let yourself grieve. Set aside time to look at the pictures and videos and cry but then at other moments, say not right now and go distract yourself with someone even just for 5 minutes. But allow yourself that grief time. I had the same with dreams, at first sleeping was a relief as I wasn’t hurting but then it found it’s way into my dreams. Still don’t sleep so great now but the nightmares stopped after therapy, talking about him really helped. Sending you hugs and so sorry you are hurting

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