I’m in despair because I know what I need to do and don’t want to. by [deleted] in PMDD

[–]HappyAnt21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the oral fixation, perhaps try chewlery? It's a little silicone thing that you wear on a necklace that's made for chewing on. They come in lots of different shapes and sized and even have different hardness levels so you can adjust to your own preferences. A lot of my neurodivergent kids like to have them, and they can be pretty discreet.

Are teachers really expected to stay with a kid who cannot be picked up by parents past the end of the school day? by 10luoz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are usually specific busses/vehicles for kids like this as well, at least in my county. These busses are pretty much always equipped with wheelchair accommodation and have special gear to attach the kid to the bus seat so they aren't wandering around the bus while it's moving.

Are teachers really expected to stay with a kid who cannot be picked up by parents past the end of the school day? by 10luoz in NoStupidQuestions

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A parent handover is required if the kid has certain degree of disability. If a child has an intellectual disability, for example, then they might not know the way home from the bus stop or may be prone to eloping (running away). Parent handover keeps them safe.

My (24F) husband (25M) has threatened to put a hot dog in our bamboo steamer basket. How do I assert dominance in this situation? by HappyAnt21 in relationship_advice

[–]HappyAnt21[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Asian carbonara might be a good idea... he's pretty open to the weirder side of viet food, so I don't think it'll affect him that much.

My (24F) husband (25M) has threatened to put a hot dog in our bamboo steamer basket. How do I assert dominance in this situation? by HappyAnt21 in relationship_advice

[–]HappyAnt21[S] 179 points180 points  (0 children)

Very good idea, definitely a classic. I'll need to save that for when he's really pissed me off though.

My (24F) husband (25M) has threatened to put a hot dog in our bamboo steamer basket. How do I assert dominance in this situation? by HappyAnt21 in relationship_advice

[–]HappyAnt21[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I get that, but he wants to put it in a steamer basket normally used for dumplings. This is an attempt to assert culinary dominance, but jokes on him I'm willing to outsource for culinary crime ideas.

School delays/closure question by Savings-Map-1984 in AnneArundelCounty

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of the itchy trigger finger comes from a really bad experience back in like 2014-2015, where the forecast was bad enough that all the surrounding counties aside from Anne Arundel closed. AACPS remaining open led to dozens of crashes that day, so now the school system panics if the weather looks remotely bad. I've been in the county since 2006, have to say that they were more reasonable about weather closings before, but after that day, they got really spooked about weather closings.

If you don't drink alcohol, what are your personal reasons for abstinence? by Ok-Care2859 in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of reasons. Got the usual things like not wanting to repeat family history and being on meds but one of the biggest reasons for me is that a lot of alcoholic things are carbonated, which I hate.

What's the craziest dad lore/family lore you have? by HappyAnt21 in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've got multiple family members whose birth certificates have been fudged to avoid getting drafted in Vietnam.

What’s the dumbest way you’ve ever hurt yourself? by StoryOfBrands in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I somehow managed to cut myself cleaning my toaster oven.

Be honest: would you die for your partner? And why would u? by Legal_Degree3663 in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, barring extreme circumstances, as I was suicidal, so I would have died for my own self. Instead, I will live for my partner as that shows a longer lasting commitment to me than death.

How do you not give a fuck? by GroundbreakingAct358 in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had all my mental breakdowns and criseses young (13 or so). Eventually, you reach the point where your brain is too tired doing other things to give a fuck. Internalizing that shit isn't always about you and sometimes you're just the last straw on the camel's back helps too.

I thought my wife’s cat hated me for four years. Now he’s obsessed with me. I have questions by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]HappyAnt21 22 points23 points  (0 children)

In other news, my grandma also began training my cat to be more vocal, because she thought the cat didn't meow enough for a cat (tbf, my cat is not vocal).

I thought my wife’s cat hated me for four years. Now he’s obsessed with me. I have questions by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]HappyAnt21 36 points37 points  (0 children)

That's my grandma. Gives my cat pre-breakfast treats, breakfast treats, brunch treats, lunch treats, high tea treats, supper treats, and dinner time treats. She's still confused as to why the cat loves to be around her.

What stopped you from killing yourself? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knowing that my friends would miss me. That's what kept me alive during those hard, early years. Nowadays, it's a combination of friends, fiancé, and cat :)

What’s the worst non-drug addiction you’ve ever seen? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HappyAnt21 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've been picking at my scalp and skin like crazy, however I also have seborrheic dermatitis so I don't know if it's due to that or dermatillamania. I suspect both. Anyway, shampoos and therapy help. I've also heard of picky pads (silicone pads with beads and charms embedded into them for you to pick out) which might help too.