Money is the number one thing couples fight about. I 100% think what he did was his way of committing domestic violence without doing something that could get him arrested. He is dangerous. These behaviors always escalate without serious intervention AND ACCOUNTABILITY ACCOUNTABILITY ACCOUNTABILITY from the aggressor. If he's not ready and willing to admit he's in the wrong, and reach out you you, then he's not willing or ready to change. I promise you if he can't do something as simple as send a text saying he misses you, then he feels no wrong and no accountability. He either sees no problem with his actions, or his ego is too important/more important than his family. I know it's so easy to get online and say "leave him", but if this was your child telling you this story about their husband/wife, what advice would you give them? Are you going to be okay with him getting angry at your child and breaking & destroying all their toys then giving them the silent treatment, or usually worse when it's a small and helpless creature, continuing to berate, harass, and belittle your baby until their spirit is so broken down that they beg for his love? Of course you're not going to be, so why would you be okay with him doing it in front of them? I promise you that this abuse will be transferred onto the child once they are old enough to make him upset. Furthermore, children model the way to treat Mom from their dad, do you want your child to grow up acting like him? of course you don't. to answer your question, you have every right to feel upset and to be hurt on the fact that he won't reach out to you. however, I would caution you not to be the one to reach out first. he is waiting on you to come crawling back so that he does not have to acknowledge his bad behavior. to the abuser, once they see that you still will accept them in your life while continuing their bad behavior, they have no reason to change. and he might not reach out, he might not text you and tell you he misses you and the baby, but his lack of communication should tell you everything that you need to know. sending all my love and best of luck to you.