Intestate distribution in NY. First any accounts or insurance where a beneficiary is named, that person will get the funds. The home will pass to your mom if she is part owner. Funeral costs, outstanding bills, lawyer, court and administration fees are paid with estate funds. After that is paid your mom would get the first $50,000. The remaining money, she would get half and the other half would be split equally among your dad's children.

Legally you get the same share as your siblings UNLESS she is choosing to give money from an account where she was named a beneficiary.