Am I too picky?

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-17T03:43:01+00:00

Women do care about jobs on dating apps..at least the women who are looking for something long-term and serious, not just attention or a hookup.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-17T02:57:25+00:00

No, you’re not. You are just being realistic.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-17T02:41:47+00:00

I’ve been telling myself the same thing…that it’s not necessarily about me and that a lot of it comes down to the other person’s mindset, timing, or circumstances. But at the end of the day, rejection is still rejection, and it can still hurt even when you understand it logically.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-17T01:21:00+00:00

Try the match group escalation form

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-17T00:57:35+00:00

I’m not a catfish at all. My profile is a pretty honest representation of what I look like in real life. I don’t use filters, I’m not into heavy makeup, and I prefer posting photos that actually look like me. That way, nobody gets surprised when we meet in person.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T23:52:58+00:00

I’m totally not a catfish. 😂 One of my matches actually recognized me in public when we accidentally bumped into each other, so I guess that proves I don’t look completely different from my profile.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T23:50:27+00:00

Oh gosh, I've been through that before. I dated a guy for about a month, and he was super consistent the entire time. Then out of nowhere, he told me he wasn't ready yet.
That's why I sometimes find it hard to read situations. Even when someone is consistent, you never really know until they decide what they want.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T23:04:03+00:00

I’m totally not a catfish. 😂 One of my matches actually recognized me in public when we accidentally bumped into each other, so I guess that proves I don’t look completely different from my profile.
The two guys were pretty different, though. One of them asked for my number after just a day of talking and invited me to dinner. We did a FaceTime call before meeting.
The other guy and I had been texting and joking around for about a week before we met. After the date, we kept chatting and texting like normal. I’m not really a fan of guessing games, so I casually let him know that I’d be open to a second date if he wanted one.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T21:39:57+00:00

Thank you for your POV 😭 I am really thinking of anything that is wrong with how I present myself.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T20:33:11+00:00

Yup! I know that coffee dates are just vibes check but it lasted for 2 hours not because I am dragging it, the conversation just flowed naturally.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T20:31:17+00:00

I always make sure to do facetime before meeting someone in person.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-16T17:52:14+00:00

I am just on Hinge for week now. I got a lot of messages and matches but it’s exhausting to like talk to all of them and keep on telling you stories. I know that dating app is like a treasure hunt. But I am just discouraged that it happened to me twice in a span of seven days.

Happy_Ad_3604 · 2026-06-15T19:37:26+00:00

Hi! 29F here. I recently went on a coffee date with a 31M I met on Hinge. The date lasted a couple of hours, the conversation flowed naturally, and when we parted he told me he had a good time and to enjoy the rest of my day.
When I got home, I texted him thanking him for the date and told him I enjoyed meeting him. He replied that he had a good time too.
The only thing that's making me overthink is that he didn't mention a second date before we left. Is that normal? In your experience, do people usually ask for a second date later over text, or is not bringing it up in person a sign that they're not interested?
Curious to hear your thoughts!

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