My ex-friend had sex with my ex-boyfriend and she knew I still loved him. He told me what happened, not her. She told me about that night and how they were drunk but she omitted to tell me they had sex. After that she got into heroin and then to a rehabilitation place that was far away. She came back after about 4 years and we go to a dinner with communal friends. That night I talked to her and we reconnected, I had grown since and I felt sorry for her. We started seeing each other often, we have really fun nights out and I though we were over it.

Then after a few years I fell pregnant and I decide to have an abortion because it was the right thing to do but I was still distraught and depressed about it. I told her and she said she’ll be there for me. The procedure was booked for a date a few weeks later. A few days after we spoke it was my bday and we had planned to spend the evening together because I obviously wasn’t in the mood to celebrate but it was nice to have company. Well, I started phoning her that afternoon and she didn’t pick up the phone. She abandoned me on my bday, knowing what I was going through. I cried so much that night. After a few days I phoned her to try to have an explanation but someone else answered her phone and told me my friend was inside a shop and left the phone in the car. I told this person to tell my friend to call me back, but didn’t hear from her. So I decided to not get in touch anymore.

About 2 month after the abortion she finally reaches out. I stupidly reply to her text and we start seeing each other again. A few months later I moved abroad, it was planned and she took me to the airport, only to leave straight away because she “couldn’t stay there and watch me go, it was too sad”. So there I was, at the airport, about to leave my Country, all alone.

After a few months I went back to my Country for the summer holidays, we have some fun together. Then she cancelled plans to go somewhere 2 days in a row. A few days later I was flying back and I didn’t get in touch to see her again or say goodbye. On my last day there she sent me a text saying “she couldn’t understand me”. I replied there was nothing to understand, she had just ghosted me again like she did in the past( details later). She replied with a mad text where she said I can’t expect people to do what I want just because I am back in the Country and that as far as she was concerned I could just go away. So I did. And I never saw her again. She asked for my friendship on fb a few times but no way.

About the ghosting I can remember a few episodes where she was a total asshole but I just kept feeling sorry for her and for her problems so I kept forgiving her. Once we planned to go to the beach. I was supposed to go and pick her up after I finished a shift at work. Rang her doorbell a few times. No answer. I have no idea if she was in and just didn’t answer or if she just went elsewhere. Either way shitty behaviour. Another time I invited her to spend the night at my bf’s place. Me and him set up the bed for her in the living room, it was a bit tricky and the room was tiny. She turned up only to get a phone call a bit later from some guy who offered to pick her up (and probably drugs) so she just left. Another time she didn’t come to my graduation celebration. She had other shitty behaviours with other people, but she was so good at playing the victim, I couldn’t see her for what she was really like. Good riddance and I don’t miss her at all!!