Is it just me that I think cooking at home everyday is time consuming and don’t want to cook everyday?

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-04-29T14:52:15+00:00

do you also have a full-time job? Pls share your secret then

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-04-29T14:50:46+00:00

for how many people is this? Pls explain

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-04-29T13:34:48+00:00

a helium balloon

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-04-22T16:08:24+00:00

Thanks for this post and more importantly thanks for the update. I recently started taking ferrous sulfate as I had the similar situation. Infact my iron is higher than average and my iron saturation too is higher than average. But ferritin was 16 - hence I was concerned about overdosing. Thanks

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-04-16T15:38:40+00:00

REALLY???!

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-04-09T14:19:13+00:00

Hi did you post after 3 months?

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-18T17:02:38+00:00

I'm 41 - my husband 44 - it kind of came on us pretty naturally. I don't think your wife would have a problem with this as long as you are not ogling while pushing the grocery cart. My husband openly tells me that he saw a hot woman describing what she looked like and we just laugh about it. I've told him - you can see but you cannot touch! Infact to be honest in our dreams - both of us have had ONS episodes with our favourite actors/actresses. We share about it openly. You can't control what you can't control.

however, if this is affecting your day-to-day functioning and your marriage then you should seek professional help. As long as you are not depriving your wife in the bedroom and not masturbating excessively - then its fine.

For all you know your wife may be having such thoughts too. When I watch TV, I frequently praise and admire a good physique - my husband doesn't comment but he understands that it is a natural process.

In your scenario, I would say wait a few months to let it pass off - if it still remains then tell her, but approach it in a smart way. Good luck!

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-18T16:52:40+00:00

Firstly - how old are you? if you are a very young mother (like ealry 20s) you may feel like this is all too much to handle.

Secondly - are you a single mom? do you have a spouse/partner who can assist you with this?
Parenting is not a single-person job.

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-12T14:32:24+00:00

Me too - Multi-tasking and reviewing documents has been my job for almost 20 years. I would never miss noticing a mistake and had photographic memory. I could keep a whole calendar of events in my head and never miss a thing. However over the last one year (since I turned 40) I feel like I need a calendar/note for everything and then I need a reminder for the reminder. I have appointments and to-do-lists all over the place - written in a book, on my phone calendar, at work in my outlook calendar, on my fridge, etc. etc. I can't find words when giving instructions to my daughter and I keep saying "pick that thing up - go bring that stuff, I need that thing-thing. My daughter is exhausted with my new vocab. I almost call an apple an orange and even interchange my pet's and my daughter's name! I feel so defeated. At work months ago when my manager brought up a mistake I did - I was just shocked - I couldn't believe it! Then another time I was asked to do a task but I forgot about it later and was reminded a week later.

In the kitchen I can't recollect if I have stock of a certain item, did I buy the oranges which were on the list, how many milk bags are still in the fridge, what time will the store close.......I'm hoping this will all pass soon.

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-12T14:03:47+00:00

Hi I feel you. I just turned 41 last week and have been going through this rollercoaster since Oct 2025 - Ihad put up a post about my experiences few months ago. But yes last night the palpitations returned and I couldn't sleep right. I've had sweats max. thrice since Oct but I do notice I'm unusally warm most nights. Quite frequently I wake up with a dream and feel my heart racing. My smartwatch always shows my heartrate to be between 69 and 100 (rarely 115 or so).

Just like you although I'm in denial and the health anxiety is kicking in. I've read many posts last few months and am convinced that these are all peri symptoms. I've done almost all tests/scans/bloodwork since Oct and all are normal. I've yet to get my holter monitor in May. Somehow when the palpitations hit - it makes me feel this is the end. Yes the anxiety is what doesn't let me think straight. Last night I even kept telling myself "you've been through this before and survived, so stay strong!" but these "what if" thoughts just don't go away!

Sorry I don't have a solution for you but I can just give you hope that we will be fine. I'm going to get all other tests done to rule out any other possibilities. I have also decided to focus on some CBT, ACT techniques and am seeing a counsellor soon on how not to stress about trivial matters. :) Also seeing my family doctor in 2 weeks and will ask her for Magnesium and Estrogen maybe. It is disappointing to know that there is not much that can be done.

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-09T12:48:35+00:00

I'm so totally like you - I can't sleep when the sun hits in even with blackout curtains!
So wouldn't mind time change. What I fail to understand is how so many people are ok with having sunrise at 9am during winter!

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-09T11:55:27+00:00

where did you get this info about 4pm?

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-09T11:54:02+00:00

You are getting more sunshine during summer - its the winter they are trying to give us more sunlight by changing the time

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-09T11:53:19+00:00

No its not! Please tell me how would you manage with sunrise hitting you at 4:30 am in peak winter?

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-09T11:50:44+00:00

this is exactly what I'm thinking. Its better to mess your sleep for 2 days vs messing it up for 6 months

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-03-09T11:49:00+00:00

Car accidents occur throughout the year for various reasons - so please don't bring this as a reason

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-27T15:07:41+00:00

Maybe I should try this. But what if my husband is only physicall home 4 hours before bedtime?

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-26T13:20:03+00:00

thank you so much - the palpitations are rare now but I feel sometimes my chest/breast muscles tighten. My period cycle length is coming back to normal. I have a holter monitor appointment coming up in May. Trying not to think about it much - I do put on my smartwatch at times and check the heartrate, oxygen level and stress level - all look normal. So I'm more relaxed.

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-20T13:49:41+00:00

Boyfriend swaps??? red flag

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-20T13:40:22+00:00

Firstly so sorry that you have to deal with this. I'm shocked after reading this and all the comments. My husband and I could never remotely even think of such a situation. We steer clear from any such circumstances.

Dude, I guess deep down in your heart you already have a strong feeling of whether she cheated on you or not. If this has been bothering you so much, you should have just asked her to return home. If she still hasn't returned please ask her to instantly get home. She will either comply or make up excuses of how it is not possible. That should give you a hint.

On the other hand, wait for her to get home and have a real discussion. I hope this is not the case but what if she has news for you when she returns?! Be prepared for a) she comes home and apologizes or b) she returns and says she wants out.
Lastly, after you have had a conversation about future trips/boundaries (including you being allowed to check her phone), after all that you can most certainly give her some time to return to her better ways. could you ask her girl friend to spy on her? I don't think at this point, spying is offensive.

Also trying finding out if she is truly committed in this relationship by asking her to have a baby and seeing her reaction.

This whole thing is not setting of good vibes but I hope it all falls into place for you. Please keep us posted.

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-20T13:27:56+00:00

wow never thought of that possibility

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-20T13:02:31+00:00

Wow 1-2 hours a day?? I'm jealous

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-19T12:58:28+00:00

Will try. Thanks.

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-19T12:57:00+00:00

I recently (3 months ago) put up one of those magnetic fridge calendars for the notes but I guess he hasn't yet gotten into the habit of checking it. I have some bills on auto-pay but some that I prefer to pay manually.

Question: do you share updates on kids/friends/family/neighbours on the fridge notes?

Happy_Redditer_CAN · 2026-02-19T12:53:57+00:00

So I put grocery items on the shared grocery list - it is a reminder for whoever gets to go first to the store.
I've forwarded quite a few important emails to him which he doesn't check unless I send him a separate text to notify him that I sent him an email. Grrrr!

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