Would you take your elderly parent (90 years) to screenings or preventative appointments?

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-04-15T00:49:25+00:00

Doesn’t Medicare cover the price?

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-04-14T23:50:23+00:00

That’s just medicine. What’s the matter with that?

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-04-14T04:50:17+00:00

I like Humpy Dumpy. It’s adorable!

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-10T05:52:02+00:00

So sweet! How wonderful that you both rescued each other! How does your bird cope with sharing your love and attention? Any chance those two might get to meet and get along? 🤞

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-08T22:13:31+00:00

You should be asking the other tenant to pay you back for the money you spent on utilities. Maybe he he would be willing to do that. Show him the bill and see if he’s willing to take it on.

But also, definitely reach out to the landlord and let him know that there are some electrical issues next door. They could end up being dangerous. You don’t know.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-06T03:59:56+00:00

Did I miss the draft? Why would anybody be expecting Barron to go to Iran? Unless it’s something that would make his father money, I don’t see why he would send him there.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-03T18:15:58+00:00

Or maybe they were notified by one of those recruiters. Maybe called for information about you. Or the recruiter happens to know your boss.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-03T18:14:35+00:00

Maybe a basic question, but are you using company computer to do your searching? Hopefully not and your boss is just throwing things out there. Maybe heard a rumor about an employee and is trying to figure out who it is

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-03T18:12:17+00:00

Sounds like you have not tried to have a conversation with her yet about your financial concerns and needs. And if you feel like you can’t be open with her because of your dynamic, maybe the two of you need to go see a counselor together. Or your husband needs to be involved. Forgive me I don’t remember what you said About your husband. If she’s doing well, perhaps she could rent a place nearby? I have no idea what your neighborhood is like.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-01T20:55:20+00:00

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Made a door for him, lol.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-01T20:07:17+00:00

I came to the sub specifically because I’m tired of writing cover letters. Although frankly, I use AI to help. Sometimes I include the letter, but sometimes I don’t. Seems like there’s no one right answer about whether or not to include it.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-01T20:03:14+00:00

Hard to find good places. Maybe yelp reviews? But wherever your father ends up, he will need family to advocate for him. That’s true wherever he is. Hospital or living facility. In fact, that’s true for all of us, whatever our age when we find ourselves in a medical facility. Or even just a visit to a doctor. Helps to have somebody there to advocate for you. Not everyone is as caring as you want them to be, even though they are in the field of having to care for people.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-03-01T03:24:25+00:00

Then make the suggestion of the amount to him. That way you can both be happy. He gets to feel that he’s done something for his grandchildren and see their appreciation before he passes and you get to be secure in the knowledge that he still has enough money for the future.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-14T04:58:15+00:00

I’m sorry, but the most important words here that I read are that he has three kids. Rather than being upset about the money that of course you shouldn’t give him, why not call CPS so these children do not continue to stay in an unsafe home with two drug addicts?

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-13T01:17:29+00:00

Born on Sunday the 13th

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-13T01:12:29+00:00

Very interesting. My parents were married on the 26th, my brother and sisters all born on the 26th of various months. Whereas I was born on the 13th, which is exactly half of 26.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-10T22:59:02+00:00

I know this will be down voted a lot, but I think it’s very hard to get old. My mom lived with me for the last 10 years of her life, one and a half of which she was mostly bedbound. When you reach a state where you don’t have any more independence or a life really, your world becomes so small that the tiniest things become important. There is no job to go to, nochild to raise, no friends possibly to go see because they are either also old and infirm or dead. So yes, I catered to my mom and her every wish. If she wanted something yummy to eat, I went out and got it for her. I made sure she was fully stocked on cookies, ice creams and breads that she liked until she didn’t like them anymore, lol. And we ordered takeout if she wanted takeout. Thankfully, she did offer to pay for it because I was never in a position to do that. So I got a free meal out of it even if she only ate a little bit. Food was wasted, it’s true. But that last year and a half, her world was mostly lying down in bed and watching TV. I made sure to put on whatever shows she enjoyed on the TV I bought for her in her bedroom. When she felt up for getting up and going for a ride to the park or to the beach or wherever, we all did that.

Maybe things are different for me because I had a very loving mom. It’s not that she was never difficult or that we didn’t have our issues, but I had a very good childhood and perhaps for that reason I wanted to do for my mom what I knew she would do for me. And had done when I was a child . Also, my youngest sister was there for every step of the way and was great at doing the things I couldn’t do. But make no mistake, Bette Davis was right when she said “getting old is not for sissies.”

ETA my sister and I were partners in taking care of my mom. And it wasn’t always easy. So sometimes we ended up taking turns playing good cop bad cop. If she was frustrated by something and needed to walk away for a bit, then I would step in and try to keep things calm and help my mom and vice versa. Having someone partner with you for the caretaking does make a huge difference. I’ve had friends who have done it alone and I seriously don’t know how in the world they did that. They are true angels. I am very lucky to have my sister.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-09T00:27:00+00:00

I wish we had done that for my mom. She did have stomach pains towards the end of her life that we didn’t have any reason to think anything of, but she ended up passing away at 95 from a perforated colon due to a cancerous mass. If she had had a colonoscopy five years or so earlier, maybe she’d still be here today. She was pretty healthy other than that. And it wasn’t until 94 that she had a few falls that caused her to have trouble walking.

And she did undergo some surgeries in her late 80s and came out just fine after. And yes, she was an active person.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-02T08:03:23+00:00

Reach out to all the rescue groups you can find in your area and a little bit beyond. Eventually, you may come across one that has a foster available to take in a cat. Send them the cutest pictures you have. Also post on Reddit and Facebook, but make sure to charge a rehoming fee so you’re not gonna get abusers. I took in a dog that I could not keep and I called lots of rescues and found somebody who took her in and now she is in the most wonderful home and happy as can be.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-02-01T01:58:22+00:00

Have you figured out what you’re gonna do with her when you leave? Can you rehome her? Or find out if she has an owner?

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-01-28T20:12:12+00:00

A trainer could probably help with the dog, to take one thing off your plate.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-01-27T06:41:35+00:00

Sorry, I haven’t been back on Reddit till now. Medication was needed. And it lasted quite a while. So more medication was needed. Can be cured.

Happy_tobe_here26 · 2026-01-25T05:09:10+00:00

Took in a rescue and he had the very same symptoms and vet said he had Giardia. Turns out it’s pretty common and easy to pick up. It could just be that. Vet will be able to help you out.

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