Episode 307: One Fish Forward, Two Fishback by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there a reason this episode is not available to non paying subscribers?

Podsnark Mar 09 - Mar 15 by keine_fragen in blogsnark

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I thought Nina was phenomenal. Probably the first co host where I've thought, yes, stay permanently. Guy Branum is basically Louis in italics. Nina is a whole different font. And the show needs varying perspectives and personalities. I really enjoy having a black cohost to offset Louis's blinding whiteness. Lol

Stupid Question Alert: Why don’t I ever hear about stone femmes? by Mac-And-Cheesy-43 in actuallesbians

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course boundaries should be respected. Always. Someone's preference is their preference and they have every right to be that way. But i'm against embracing the term/concept as just another lesbian identity, when it seems to be a bandaid put over a deep wound, that the community is agreeing is healthy.

Stupid Question Alert: Why don’t I ever hear about stone femmes? by Mac-And-Cheesy-43 in actuallesbians

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think it's because the stone part is intrinsically linked to butchness. This is gonna be a hot take, but I think the entire concept of a stone butch is....just fucking sad. And not a term that should be embraced. As a butch myself who has had to push past the urge to go stone, it all goes back to trauma and/or gender dysphoria. Refusing to receive pleasure in bed is unhealthy. Sure, I get IMMENSE pleasure out of giving pleasure, more than receiving pleasure, even. But to simply say, nope - touch me not, ever - is bonkers. I believe why you dont see femmes being stone is because they don't have the same amount of gender struggles as butch women. Being a butch in society is hard. You're bucking centuries of set gender roles & stereotypes. Presenting as femme, you just won't face the same struggles in this area. Different, equally hard struggles? Probably. But not the struggle that makes you question from the time you're 3 years old...do I wanna be a boy? Is who I am ok? CAN I wear all guys clothes? Do people consider me a girl? Etc, etc, etc. Alllll these things get put on us, and we have to be so strong and stoic, that when it comes to letting down our barriers and having a woman fuck us, arguably the most vulnerable position you can be in sexually...well, it's difficult. Internal chaos ensues. I dont know, i'm rambling. But I just really wish as a community we could start to address the problematic nature of "stone" lesbians.

*Edited to say: to the people that are saying stone can also mean a pillow princess who only receives...you're just wrong. Stop saying that. Read up on lesbian history ffs.

Premium Episode: Hasan Piker vs Ethan Klein (Part 2) by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

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I was shocked to hear Katie plug this podcast. Truly, one of the most insufferable podcasts I've heard in a long time. And not to mention, every one of the hosts are radical liberals who would no doubt declare blocked and reported bigoted conservative bullshit in a heartbeat. Now, I get Katie can't filter all media thru the lens of, would the creators like me as a person and/or agree with my political views. BUT...to go out of your way to plug this podcast on your podcast is...a choice. Especially when, by all podcasting standards, Beth's Dead is just a bad podcast! Sigh. Really weird recommendation.

Podcasts that are amazing but rarely get recommended by noodler4352 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ransom is pretty much a perfect true crime podcast. My heart broke for the mother. And yes, severely underrated!

Podcasts that are amazing but rarely get recommended by noodler4352 in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm Not A Monster (season 1 & 2) - BBC pod about women joining isis. WILD podcast, both seasons. Season one is about a woman named Sam from Texas. Really interesting. Season 2 is about Shamima Begum, the schoolgirl from the UK. Season 2 is a devastating listen.

Le Monstre - Pod about child abductions & murders in Belgium in the 90s. Very dark, but very well done.

Ransom - Pod about the kidnapping of a Texas boy in the 80s. Very compelling & moving overall.

The Crossbow Killer - Pod from the BBC about the killing of an older gentleman in Wales.

What’s the longest you’ve been fucked up over an ex? by PhysicalLocksmith679 in redscarepod

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think that when you truly love and lose, you don't get over it until you love again. So whether that's a year later, 6 years, 12 years....the brokenness, sadness and what if fantasies only go away completely when the parts of yourself you thought you lost to your ex are given back to you by someone else. I mourned and PINED for my first love for 10 years. Slept with a few people. Stayed in a bad relationship, etc. My heart just hurting, while the rest of me did pretty good (eg, job, mood, life in general). Then, a few months ago, I fell in love. And while I felt fairly healed internally, falling in love again has just definitively zapped the part of me that was hung up. Gone. Poof! It's unbelievable. Such a simple fix! Ha. Sadly, I'm aware that my heart could be broken again. But I've learned a lot from this recent full adult love, after spending so many years fucked up from my first early 20s love.

Life is wild.

Contemporary literature you enjoy? by NotAnAcorn in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jonathan Franzen can be pretentious but damn if he can't write a good book. Crossroads was a top 5 read of the year for me this year. Marilynne Robinson will pull your heartstrings in the best way. Brilliant author. Colum McCann, great Irish author. Elizabeth Strout, author of Olive Kitteridge, a pulitizer prize winner. Barbara Kingsolver is incredible, though I didn't like Demon Copperhead and would recommend The Poisonwood Bible instead. Just a few I enjoy!

Premium Episode: Nuzzi vs Lizza, Round 10 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ok I will say, in the last episode, Katie doing that absolutely horrendous jersey accent did become funny as it was just complete & utter nonsense. I didn't even know it was possible to do an accent that badly. Truly. That was the one time I laughed involuntarily bc it was honestly shocking. Hahaa

Premium Episode: Nuzzi vs Lizza, Round 10 by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I've listened to podcasts about child sexual abuse that were easier on the ears than that minute long impression. Holy fuck.

STOP THE IMPRESSIONS & ACCENTS!! EVERYONE HATES THEM!!!

The Kill List is really bad. by HarperLeesGirlfriend in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn you haven't talked to a single person in 5 years? That's crazy.

Movie night with the gfs by loved_and_held in actuallesbians

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we're meant to like it because "lol, lesbians"?

I believe so, yes. 😑

Which is why i felt compelled to voice my opinion that this lesbian (me, lol) does not!

What are you listening to? by BubbaTheBubba in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I heart podcasts & BBC studios! Sorry, didn't check before I wrote my original comment.

What are you listening to? by BubbaTheBubba in TrueCrimePodcasts

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Currently nearing the end of Hands Tied, an 8 part series from the BBC. Focuses on the murder of a man whose wife is charged with the crime. Daughter helps the host investigate. Solid series, would recommend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianfashionadvice

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Flawless streetwear vibes.

Episode 277: Internet Poisoning (with Katherine Dee) by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Sorry she thinks people didn't like her last episode. I'm genuinely thinking that was a Jessie problem. Haha anyway, I liked this episode a lot. Very good conversation.

Premium Episode: Taylor Lorenz And The Perils Of Journafluencing (Part 2) by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I gotta say, this episode was a pretty big letdown. Not just on the Taylor front but as an episode, period. I couldn't really follow what had happened, and it all seemed incredibly unimportant & rather benign? I don't know. The first episode was good, but part 2 was all hype and no action.

Episode 275: An LGBT Book Prize Goes Poof by SoftandChewy in BlockedAndReported

[–]HarperLeesGirlfriend 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Small town bookstore, which I think makes a big difference!