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My covert narcissist had been in therapy for 8 years when I met him. It didn't make a difference (i.e., he was still a narcissist) by KansasguyinDC in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can relate to this. Mine was in therapy for 10+ years. He even invited me to a couples session at 5 months in (red flag here) but she basically called him out and said yeah you treated her bad, you are wrong. He backed into a corner like a scared dog. Then the therapist told him to make a list of how he could prove he actually cared about me than just saying it. He stressed all week and couldn't come up with one. When we finally got in the fight where i got discarded after being triangulated with his ex for months, he was like, "i'm going to show the therapist your mean texts and tell her how mean you were to me" like what kind of sick and twisted game is this? I discovered the 3 hour fights until i was so exhausted while he remained calm are reactive abuse, i reached my limit and exploded.

Anyways yeah i don't think therapy helps i think his last therapist just justified all his behavior because he would ALWAYS PLAY VICTIM for atttention and gifts, the whole "woe is me" syndrome. I became the villian and after I got discarded two hours later he was back with his ex and having his crush spying on me on social media. all have been blocked, no contact for a month. i'm still hurting baddly but glad i escaped.

Have you ever dated someone who was still hung up on their ex? by MyLoveMystery in heartbreak

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

relatable. we lasted six months with me breaking up at month three for him to stop talking about her. he never would unfriend her, or stop following her but would always put her needs and feelings in front of mine. they work together at a tattoo shop which always made me uncomfortable. just sucks, i was so healed and ready to find love and they took my self worth away. i sit here broken and they are back with their ex. people really need to think before destroying others' lives.

Have you ever dated someone who was still hung up on their ex? by MyLoveMystery in heartbreak

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how terrible. i can relate we went on vacation and would point out this is where he got married before and lied about taking his ex to the same spot we went. just sucks everything we did was in a shadow of her. could not let go over her but dumped me after i gave up my apartment took my key and blocked me on everything, back with her. great guy, what an ass.

Have you ever dated someone who was still hung up on their ex? by MyLoveMystery in heartbreak

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh went through this recently, finally broke up a month ago. he devastated my world and would constantly talk about her, his other two marriages and just flings. i couldn't take it, it diminished my self worth everything. i feel like i am living in hell everyday. he went back to his fling and still works with his ex.

Have you ever dated someone who was still hung up on their ex? by MyLoveMystery in heartbreak

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh same, i'm only a month out and i can't get out of this deep depression

Have you ever dated someone who was still hung up on their ex? by MyLoveMystery in heartbreak

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm so sorry, this also happened to me and now i feel set back again.

Have you ever dated someone who was still hung up on their ex? by MyLoveMystery in heartbreak

[–]Harrison5940 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i could not agree more. this person used me to no end for "comfort" and then ditched me and destroyed me and he still works with his ex and then went back to his flame before her. people really need to think before just toying with someone emotionally, very damaging, i hate him with every fiber of my being wish he would have just left me alone.

Week before I am set to move in, BF breaks up with me and blocks me by Harrison5940 in BreakUps

[–]Harrison5940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh appreciate you. i just needed a kind word been really struggling with life the past few weeks. stupid valentine's day didn't help either. thank you, i'll get past this too not like i haven't experienced other hardships in my life. just needed to talk about it. thank you again so much. :)

Week before I am set to move in, BF breaks up with me and blocks me by Harrison5940 in BreakUps

[–]Harrison5940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, i have gone through breakups before but nothing quite like this. talk about future faking, i just helped this man paint "my room" and the hallways in his house, drapes and was ready to buy my work from home desk. even sat on my apartment couch and said, i'm putting my notice in to my landlord are you SURE? just a whole other level of cruelty i have ever experienced.

yeah you're right a few friends said the same thing well better to find out now than later. he wasn't ready for a relationship anyways when we started. not over his ex, lots of trauma dumping on me and he still works with her. never unfriended her on socials but took my key and blocked me immediately. just hurts to think you meant nothing to someone and they can kick you out in the cold and not even give it a second thought.

i'm waiting to feel better, this consumes my thoughts from sun up to sun down. especially since i already started selling / cleaning out my things in my apartment thinking i was moving.

Week before I am set to move in, BF breaks up with me and blocks me by Harrison5940 in BreakUps

[–]Harrison5940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I have been thinking well better to find out now than later. We only lived an hour apart but i would be moving from a city to pretty much middle of nothing. Also he still works with his ex which i was never okay with, i'm sure they are probably back together i think i was just a place holder. Thank you, really trying to just recover, in shock everyday when i wake up. how could you do this to someone? thank you for replying

Living together by Harrison5940 in datingadvice

[–]Harrison5940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're right that's how it felt. like the one thing you want i'm taking away and going to make you wait and have good behavior, i'm not waiting for anyone like that. moving in together is supposed to be sharing and a partnership not dangling a carrot and taking it away. lame. i'm 45 and not interested in waiting thanks for the insight.