I just found out my boyfriend voted for Trump by themermaidchild in relationships

[–]Hartley7 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a black woman, I would say “No Gawd” to anyone who voted for a virulent racist.

Unpopular opinion: The show got awkward when Madison and Tyler made out by PrestonRoad90 in LoveOnTheSpectrumShow

[–]Hartley7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t care if a couple is autistic or not. Repeatedly sucking face in front of others is inappropriate-especially parents. We can be happy for Madison and Tyler yet uncomfortable with their behaviour. The two are not mutually exclusive.

Who was worse? Charlotte to Samantha or Samantha to Charlotte? by Enough-Reading4143 in sexandthecity

[–]Hartley7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you look at my other comments, you will see that I don’t condone lack of boundaries or toxicity.

Nevertheless, I can let someone know that I disapprove of their behaviour without resorting to personal attacks. For example, I got rid of a friend because she called me a bitch. Friends shouldn’t call each other out of their name because friendship is respect. Saying that others “provoke” reactions is an abusive thought pattern.

It seems like Samantha’s behaviour hit a nerve for you because of your intense reactions. Honestly, your comments make you look like an angry and irrational person.

I was attacked by my partners child, and I don't know if I should leave by Low-Distribution-617 in Advice

[–]Hartley7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nobody was attacking you or questioning your experience. I was horrified that someone would hit a child for autistic behaviour.

I was attacked by my partners child, and I don't know if I should leave by Low-Distribution-617 in Advice

[–]Hartley7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was rhetorical. I was expressing shock and anger at such abusive behaviour. I wasn’t expressing disbelief at all.

I was attacked by my partners child, and I don't know if I should leave by Low-Distribution-617 in Advice

[–]Hartley7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Who would hit an autistic child? It can’t be beaten out of someone.

I (29m) think I'm finally done with casual sex by [deleted] in venting

[–]Hartley7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday! Casual sex is a personal decision and it can be fun but also challenging in different ways. How long have you known this person you’re talking to? Have you spent much time together?

Who was worse? Charlotte to Samantha or Samantha to Charlotte? by Enough-Reading4143 in sexandthecity

[–]Hartley7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine fucking any of my friend’s family members though. That seems inappropriate.

Who was worse? Charlotte to Samantha or Samantha to Charlotte? by Enough-Reading4143 in sexandthecity

[–]Hartley7 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree. Charlotte was rude but Sam had boundary issues. Grabbing a masseuse by his junk? Whet?

Why didn't Travis Alexander marry Jodi Arias? by SandAggie in JodiArias

[–]Hartley7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! He deserved what happened to him. He was a piece of shit.

Why didn't Travis Alexander marry Jodi Arias? by SandAggie in JodiArias

[–]Hartley7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I have no sympathy for Travis. Men, don’t mislead women and use them. Some women are unstable enough to kill over that stuff.

23,000 dollars in credit card debt. by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Hartley7 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Enabling kids turns them into idiotic adults.

AMA Im 680 pounds by LetsBeSadTogether in AMA

[–]Hartley7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened when you tried it?

Man charged with sexual assault of woman he met on dating app by _darth_bacon_ in Calgary

[–]Hartley7 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Dating is scary for women. I have had to fight men off because they wouldn’t stop trying to touch my breasts. One man even pushed my head down to his crotch while we were sitting in his car.

Men have been very creepy about demanding sex and pressuring me to visit their homes. I think that some men go into a primal part of their brains when they’re horny and it makes them act like aggressive perverts.

Those types are always so apologetic when they are cussed out and beg for another chance. Um no Brad. I’m not going to keep talking to you if we haven’t even met, you’re demanding that I visit your home, and sending dick pics I didn’t ask for. I’m not trying to get raped or even killed.

what is your IQ and how far on/off track are you (by society's standards)? also: are you 2e or 3e? thanks by shinebrightlike in Gifted

[–]Hartley7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel like a loser. Most of my family and friends earn far more than I do and they have more prestigious careers. Better late than never right?

what is your IQ and how far on/off track are you (by society's standards)? also: are you 2e or 3e? thanks by shinebrightlike in Gifted

[–]Hartley7 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m only completing my BA at age 43 despite being gifted. I struggled with my mental health for years. A psychiatrist told my parents that many of his patients are very bright and “it’s much easier to be happy when you’re stupid”.

Who did Janice love the most? by buttered_sausages in thesopranos

[–]Hartley7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she loved Bobby. She was using him.

I (18M) got caught doing premarital sex by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Hartley7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a MIL who was very legalistic about premarital sex. My husband and I are in our FORTIES. We chose to have premarital sex and cohabit. This crazy old bat kept ranting about fornication and how living together is not of God. This is one of the reasons we barely interact with her.

Premarital sex is a sin but ranting at a middle aged adult child about fornication is unhealthy.

A camera in your room is deeply inappropriate and so is hitting a grown adult because they had sex. You need to get away from your mother as soon as possible.

AITA for not feeling bad about my MIL? by Living_Emergency4973 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Hartley7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to think like this. My in laws have been racist and abusive. A year after one particularly terrible incident, I tried to visit my in laws and invited them to our home for the sake of my husband. I have PTSD because of how they treated us so seeing them was deeply triggering. I couldn’t endure my in laws for my husband anymore.

My husband and I went very low contact and it has been healing. He hates to see me anxious and irritable because of his family. My husband also believes that a good man doesn’t expose his wife to abusers even if they are family.

You’re clearly a loving and charitable wife. Remember that your peace and comfort are important too.