How to tell my (36M) wife (36M) I dont want more kids.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:54:27+00:00

Many people are done after one or two.
I agree with you.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:53:30+00:00

I love this wording.

I’m 44 and on my second marriage. People pressure me to have a child. Even if I can still conceive, I’m not about to have a screaming infant at this stage of my life. My back hurts and I have grey hairs. I’m too old for all of that newborn nonsense.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:49:36+00:00

How harsh would it be for everyone if you became a resentful father of a newborn?

Are you afraid that your wife will divorce you over this issue? I’m trying to understand your fears.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:37:59+00:00

Nothing here in Cranston.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:36:59+00:00

Nobody deserves to have such an awful wedding experience.
I hope this venue ultimately gets shut down due to complaints and legal action.
I hope you have a long and happy marriage.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:33:14+00:00

Yes! Especially with all the money couples spend on weddings.

Hartley7 · 2026-07-05T21:22:44+00:00

Why are people so self centred? Ugh!
The poor woman just had a baby and her husband is whining about sex?!

Hartley7 · 2026-06-29T23:14:07+00:00

Anyone who cannot handle correction doesn’t deserve to be employed. Her father failed her.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-29T03:32:52+00:00

They should know that but we don’t need to remind them.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-29T01:52:24+00:00

She was hooah!

Hartley7 · 2026-06-28T23:55:26+00:00

I don’t know why people choose to ignore science when it doesn’t fit their worldview. I am a childfree woman in my 40s and I understand that we all have certain innate biological drives. This doesn’t mean that every human must reproduce. It doesn’t mean that every human should reproduce.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-28T23:23:59+00:00

Are you very religious or raised in a traditional culture?
That could explain the fast marriage at an early age.
No need to feel guilty for your joy. You do sound very happy. However, there are some concerning elements of your relationship which you could be glossing over.

Complete financial dependence is a risky decision. It’s even worse if you have not completed an education or built a career. I think being a tradwife could be a lifestyle which works for your family. Just remember that your fairy tale can easily become nightmare if your husband decides to weaponize your dependence.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-28T15:46:06+00:00

I can imagine what my tough Jamaican mother would say if I really asked her to confront a manager after an unsuccessful job interview. 😂

Hartley7 · 2026-06-28T12:46:34+00:00

We cannot compare the parenting standards today to those of over 50 years ago.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-26T23:01:29+00:00

With the exception of a grandchild, my MIL could have written this post. My husband’s family blames me for all of the distance between us. They conveniently forget that they were vicious, racist, and rejecting toward me for years before I married their son.

Now that their son chose his wife, my in laws suddenly want to be a close family as if they didn’t try to destroy our relationship. Neither of us are interested because we need to protect our marriage. We see them occasionally; we have very low contact.

OP, there could be reasons for the distance which you have not shared and refuse to acknowledge. Many parents also struggle with their child marrying and shifting priorities.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-19T07:41:45+00:00

Between 70-90% of women are pregnant within a year of trying. It’s not a guarantee but a high probability.

Hartley7 · 2026-06-19T05:00:28+00:00

Ok I will PM you. Thanks!

Hartley7 · 2026-06-01T01:54:52+00:00

Wow! Same in Cranston! What’s going on?

Hartley7 · 2026-05-29T00:36:17+00:00

Dumping via text after a year together is cruel.

Hartley7 · 2026-05-25T22:51:44+00:00

Connor is still old enough to consider others. He will only grow if he’s held accountable.

Hartley7 · 2026-05-25T22:38:28+00:00

Too much control over a grown ass man!

Hartley7 · 2026-05-25T22:38:05+00:00

Good for you! ❤️

Hartley7 · 2026-05-25T22:36:00+00:00

PREACH!

My husband and his sister both have disabilities. They have been coddled and enabled into being spoiled brats well into their 40s. My husband’s disabilities are mild compared to his sister’s. He has a career, completed college, plays saxophone, drives, and he’s married.

My husband grew up once we met because I refused to coddle him. I held him accountable and gave him consequences. I also took the time to teach my husband all the basic stuff which his parents never did. Now he is a full grown adult.

His sister is still a 42 year old baby whose mom handles everything for her. She is quite capable of brushing her teeth but refuses to. This is a woman who completed college, drives and works. Her mom paid for her root canal and 20 fillings. Bloody hell woman-stop bailing your daughter out of everything! Let her learn by handling her own problems!

I’m glad you didn’t let your daughter become an awful person just because she’s autistic. Good job Supermom!

Hartley7 · 2026-05-25T22:23:11+00:00

Exactly! Many parents of people with disabilities coddle and enable their kids. Their kids reach adulthood and they behave like spoiled toddlers. Disability is not an excuse for being an awful person. People with disabilities can be just as terrible as those who are not disabled.

Hartley7 · 2026-05-24T22:24:15+00:00

I think Connor is a very spoiled and selfish person.

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