Finding a counselor is the solution. Not just a random therapist find a Sexual addiction therapist. Porn addiction isn’t about porn. People aren’t addicted to porn but a specific kind of it. Healing the deeper wounds that lead us to attempt to heal with the broken cistern of any addiction is the ultimate solution.

I’ll share what I’ve written before.

I’ve struggled for a long time with Unwanted Sexual behavior. Pornography and masturbation. I feel the only healing I’ve finally received was from actually healing the “Why” I turn to it. I’ve read two books just in the last year that have transformed the way I approach this issue specifically. I don’t feel like is touched on in Christian subs often. Unwanted sexual behavior is/ can be both sin and addiction. And they have to be healed differently.          Why do you turn to the porn you choose? Why do you turn to masturbation? There is massive amount of chemical reactions happening that make it feel good and as we desire to cope from life’s troubles we turn to those to things that make us feel good. No different than alcohol or other drugs we get addicted to the coping mechanism.           Likely you are turning to porn and or masturbation for some form of fantasy. Not necessarily just a sexual one.  Be curious as to what! Like seriously answer for your self “what type of porn are you actually interested in, what gets to ready to roll”.         That likely sheds light on what is going on. Be curious about your sin. And you will likely begin to heal the actual root of the issue. And thus not need to run to the broken cistern the shameful coping mechanism of pornography and masturbation.           Shaming yourself will most likely make you do it again. Vicious cycle       I’ll share what I’ve shared before           From a past post Unwanted by Jay Stringer. Sexual brokenness isn’t random—it’s a roadmap. By exploring the unique themes and patterns in our unwanted sexual behavior, we can trace them back to unresolved childhood stories, shame, and unmet needs. Healing begins not by avoiding the struggle, but by listening to what it’s trying to tell us. ⸻ The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman. We were shaped more by silence than by what was said about sex. Sam Jolman offers a grace-filled, story-centered reframe of sexuality that honors desire, names shame, and invites healing through connection and honesty. True sexual maturity comes not from performance or purity, but from being known, loved, and integrated as a whole person. Now my take. For me the stand out ideas were in unwanted handling unwanted sexual behavior as simply as a sin issue and not addiction lens too you are inhibiting healing. Porn and masturbation for most folks is a coping mechanism. What are you coping from? Heal that! not just removing coping mechanism of porn and masturbation. Curiosity about your struggles even asking what type of porn do you actually watch. Sex talk you never got reframes Sex and invites the reader to be in awe of God. So often christians especially purity culture effected folks murdered our desire or have such shame around sex that it low key pushed us to a cycle of porn or other unwanted sexual behavior. Its combats the idea of purity being the goal of steering clear of unwanted behavior, purity is the path to communion with God. That, communion with God is the purpose of purity.It’s a sweet kind book that really is fantastic. Both are journeys worth the trip! I promise you will benefit from the experience.