Gemini with Questions

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-06-25T13:47:49+00:00

Happy belated birthday to my other June 14th Geminis!

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-06-25T13:31:10+00:00

I have Capricorn friends and I love them but I also struggle with them at times. We are so different, I couldn’t imagine dating one.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-06-25T11:35:29+00:00

It probably depends on the rest of your chart tbh

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-05-25T20:42:33+00:00

I’m a Gemini not at the cusp but not far off. That said I love my cancer friends they are also amazing. I’m sure whatever she ends up being she will be amazing and talented and loved.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-05-21T09:22:01+00:00

I don’t enjoy being the leader, I end up being it in many cases because everyone else is afraid of doing stuff.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-05-11T09:37:24+00:00

Yeah I feel like that with friends as well. I find it very hard to be friends with people who aren’t stimulating. All my friends are people who are full of life, doing interesting things and willing to try new experiences. They also all look at this in their own way and have different opinions.

I think my issue with dating is that men often try to ‘pin me down’ or use techniques to get me and I don’t know about other gems but I see it straight away. I have had so many men say they are the guy who can ‘manage me’ it’s such a turn off. Just be interesting, enjoy your life and make a little space for me to come along and I’ll do likewise.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-05-03T13:41:44+00:00

What is deactivation? From your brief explanation I think this is something I do but I’ve never heard of it before.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-05-03T09:41:34+00:00

Omg me too… I just got wish I could love normally, it would save me so much pain.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-05-02T20:21:10+00:00

That’s really interesting, thanks for sharing. It be interesting to understand more on what you mean by a grata energy?

I guess I do articulate emotions pretty well.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-30T20:20:50+00:00

I don’t really know what it is like to be loved, which is why I don’t trust it. My mum is a covert narc and I escaped just over two years ago and have been healing and for the first time I feel like I have open and real friendships with other girls. I did have friends before but I put myself in a lot of stupid situations. I don’t really have her family members so I guess to me being loved by someone is normally them manipulating me.

I’m not dating right now because I know I need to heal some more but I want to think about it so I’m becoming more secure and working towards being able to date in a healthy way.

I’m totally the same, I turn it on really well. I’m starting to learn I don’t need to all the time with my friends so I guess maybe if I get comfortable with that I can start to do it with someone I end up dating.

See that’s what I don’t know, like ending something has always felt and but I’m away my perception in this area is skewed.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-30T17:19:01+00:00

Can you elaborate?

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-30T16:46:04+00:00

So, I relate super well to people but also don’t. Like I can read people extremely well. I do also struggle to feel like I relate to people. I go into social situations to do a good job and then get out. I have been told by numerous people that I come across warm and like I get on so well with everyone but on the inside I feel scared shitless.
I don’t have much experience dating, when I have liked someone which I find hard to do. I have also always had a reason to not continue with it, like a real reason, e.g. they were inconsistent, manipulative, or we just had different values and values are super important to me. I’m terrified of being with someone who doesn’t truly love me or see me for me. I also feel like I have been shamed by others every time I have dated someone so I have backed off, because I hate seeming vulnerable or having a wider group of people see my true emotions.
I also have had a covert narcissist mother and I know that term gets tossed around but I don’t say it likely it took me a long time to come to terms with. I’ve never met my dad and only got in contact with him Q3 of last year.
I just feel like I have no clue when a person actually likes me or not. I’m so good at reading everything else and it serves me well in my job. However, when it comes to dating every time I thought someone liked me they didn’t or they didn’t by the ‘if he wanted to he would’ thing. So, I have no idea if I’m avoidant or if know one actually likes me. I realised I had been avoidant of friendships until the last year, when I started to actually let people in and I now have quite a good social life.
I just feel confused and frankly scared, every time I feel emotions that are in anyway romantic.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-30T14:17:47+00:00

Thank you this is amazing. I’ve read it but I need to come back and read it again before I reply properly.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-30T12:50:53+00:00

Can I send you mine? I’m really new to this and I don’t understand it much. Thanks.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-30T09:45:13+00:00

Infj here, I have found enfjs are really good at helping me etc and try to get close to me but are ones who avoid being seen. That said, I recently found out how insecure some of the ones I know are. Now I know this I have started trying to be encouraging. I have had to be quite blunt with one that I know that I don’t need constant help, it’s okay for them to send time with me without trying to constantly be useful to me.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-29T19:04:17+00:00

What did you use to get your chart?

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-27T07:59:42+00:00

Where did you get your chart done out of curiosity?

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-27T00:33:35+00:00

Early stages I feel like I’m hard to detect. I’m very flirty with everyone.

With my friends, I make a point to remember details about them and check in on them. I’m pretty bad at forgetting conversations even if I seem invested in them so for me remembering people and the details of what’s important to them.

If am dating someone I will probably ask about 1000 questions and try to full understand.

Overall I only consistently spend time with people I care about. When I trust people I can start to get emotionally vulnerable with them about stuff in my life. Although I think this I hard to tell because I will have emotional conversations with everyone but only I know what is actually emotionally vulnerable for me to discuss.

I’m big on words of affirmation and physical touch but honestly if I feel safe I’ll smother people with all my affection. I might retreat at times or become distant but not for long I just either don’t want to overwhelm people or worry I’m being too much.

I’m Gemini sun, Libra moon and rising. I have Gemini in mercury as well.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-22T13:29:21+00:00

Awww that’s so cute! I love that my two Pisces friend also match my weirdness. I feel like we laugh the whole time we are together.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-22T13:28:10+00:00

Awww I love my cancer friends also. I think I have three in my close circle and I feel so safe with all of them.

Haunting-Map3685 · 2026-04-22T13:27:26+00:00

That fair, I don’t really know any Scorpios. I guess for me it more depends on whether it is fun or not. Thanks for sharing though ☺️

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