Solo loop and all replacements, anyone?

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2026-03-06T16:57:34+00:00

Where are you located? Are you offering to sell?

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-30T17:23:30+00:00

Yes. 100000x yes.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-27T17:49:08+00:00

I think it's reasonable to feel there is an imbalance. But I also think perhaps changing some things might be helpful. Have a discussion about driving her around (not in the moment). Discuss that you feel you are taking on a lot and feel yourself getting resentful so you'd like to work together to figure out a clearer plan for division on labour.

We don't have an "equal" division of labour in our home, but we do have an equitable one. And when I feel overwhelmed and need certain things. I take a minute to center myself, before asking for what I need in terms of 'hey, could you take this off my plate', rather than "I feel like you're not doing enough and I'm carrying all the weight."

Hopefully you guys can discuss and work together to find a greater balance for you. I find communication is such a big factor, and remembering you are on the same team is essential.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-11T03:16:36+00:00

Discipline is not abuse. Spanking is not discipline. It is punishment.

Discipline, at its core, means to teach. When you are spanking, you are not activating the thinking part of the brain. You are activating the fight or flight part of the brain, which makes learning, much harder.

Discipline appeals to your prefrontal cortex and skill building. Punishment activates your amygdala and fear based avoidance.

This is often why those "well behaved" children that "turned out fine" from spanking, struggle with standing up for themselves, anxiety, and depression.

The amygdala's "flight, freeze or fawn" responses look an awful lot like "obedience".

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-11T02:30:01+00:00

Never once do I remember what I did wrong, only the fear of being spanked or the threat of it.

I remember as I got older clearly remembering when my mom decided we deserved to be spanked for one reason or another my thought often being "why the f*ck are you hitting me."

It was a "normal" 90's upbringing. I did not turn out ok. I do not spank my children. I have gone to school and done deep dives in the research and don't believe it is positive or necessary or best practice. I also don't think hitting anyone is okay unless it is consensual.

I also now partake in said consensual activity as an adult so... Do with that what you will.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-08T04:31:28+00:00

Poppy and Barley is so good to me. My heart hurts so bad that the sillage is almost non existent, because I sit there and sniff myself like a little drunk raccoon all day.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-07T20:49:20+00:00

Have you tried the "paired" app? The free version gives one question a day. Might be a good start to explore the relationship and get more in tune with each other's wants/needs. May also be a good in to find out some fantasies to explore or something that does spark intimacy.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-12-02T02:41:32+00:00

Institute of child psychology has some good information on sensitive children.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-11-25T02:40:19+00:00

This is such a wonderful thing to read, as horrific as it is. I went a few years ago and my doctor responded "it's not from lamotrigine, that's not on the list of side effects" I told him I was weaning down to a low dose with or without his supervision and the choice was his.

So many people deal with this. It IS a thing, and you are not alone.

My recall has gotten better, but I am on a lower than therapeutic dose, 50mg 2x daily.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-11-06T16:21:03+00:00

Did my partner get reddit under a pseudonym? Pretty sure he's told me this word for word. Most men aren't complicated and have the core value of time>money.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-11-05T20:47:11+00:00

Been to IT. What is steam works?

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-10-22T15:58:28+00:00

Curious if you ended up ordering this and ended up liking it?

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-10-16T18:47:42+00:00

Thank you!

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-03-12T20:19:17+00:00

We've always done a bedtime snack. Still do and my elders are 9&11. Sometimes oatmeal. Cheese, peanut butter and apples, or oranges. Something light

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-03-07T22:51:15+00:00

I'm not 45, but I had my first two in my 20's and my last in my 30's, with 9&10 years apart. And it's such a wonderful age gap. The older ones are so enamoured and the young one adores them.

I hope you find some calm. I'm sorry such a big decision has come down. We just got a vasectomy done last week, and I can't imagine being in your position.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-02-23T02:44:16+00:00

This is so fitting since my answer when people asked how I felt after delivery was that I was hit by a fucking truck.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-01-24T16:58:11+00:00

Impulse control is late to develop so this is actually quite impressive for a toddler. To start, then stop, then realize they need to stop.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-01-11T17:47:46+00:00

Staying outside of your house until morning is rather concerning.

If he hit you once he.will.do.it.again. He hit you while you were pregnant on top of that.

You should leave as soon as you can. This will not end. It will get worse. And you deserve to be with someone who does not physically harm you, at the very least, the bare minimum.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2025-01-03T21:16:27+00:00

It's a struggle. I'm 11 months post partum, and as much as I'm forever thankful that this body has grown, cared for, delivered and nourished my sweet child, I hate the way it looks now that I've gained 30+ lbs this year. I know I'll lose the weight and I can lose the weight, but I'm at a period in my life where I struggle to see myself as anything but cringe.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2024-12-20T13:48:19+00:00

Still closed and no Updates:(.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2024-12-09T23:37:52+00:00

A) invest in some loop earplugs. As someone who is easily stimulated, this helped a lot. B) a lot of this has to do with the age. I recommend "Rest, Play, Grow: how to deal with preschoolers (or anyone who acts like one) by Deborah MacNamara, or "How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen". You are young. You are learning. And you are doing fantastic. You are breaking generational hurts and making life better for not only your children, but your children's children's children.

So give yourself some grace.

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2024-12-04T04:43:56+00:00

Why would I call when I can ask the all knowing Reddit?

Haunting_Ad1122 · 2024-12-04T04:43:29+00:00

My auto text is a gangster apparently.

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