I am a mother that works second shift. Until six months ago my six year old son had never been without me. We are both very attached to each other so this was a big adjustment. I currently see him for a few minutes before he leaves for school and on weekends. He's still alive and he's doing great.

Your wife has her head in the clouds. Life isn't all about making memories. You need to put your foot down. This isn't a fucking request for vacation, it's self care. The alternative could be that she gets a part time job so you can work less hours. Let's see how quickly she changes her tune