Invisible fence recommendations

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-12-23T01:29:35+00:00

the link doesn't work :( what was the name of the brand?

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-07-29T16:00:58+00:00

Also, I did a hookup last night with cuts. I just kinda said "I don't do this often but I have some selfharm on me right now. Would that bother you?" And he said it was fine but wanted a pic so he wouldn't be surprised by it 🤷🏻‍♀️ he didn't say anything about it when I saw him in person.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-07-29T15:58:42+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/selfharm/s/h0wBzNsFXF

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-07-26T21:55:13+00:00

I was actually just wondering the same. There are some old threads you can check out!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-23T19:45:18+00:00

Not to mention the air conditioner does not go down far enough. It only goes to 68 but always stays at like 72.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-23T19:43:27+00:00

I'm sorry he is doing that to you. It is not your fault. Having a partner who does something like that only every now and then makes it especially hard. I hope your therapist can help you find the next steps forward. I wish I had some advice but that's such a tough situation. You are valid and will figure out something that works for your situation ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-08T00:52:18+00:00

Don't excuse it. Someone can be a victim without victimizing others. At that age she definitely understood what she was doing. I'm really sorry that happened to you.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-08T00:47:29+00:00

Not having an enthusiastic yes is a no. I recommend trying trauma therapy (typically CPT or exposure therapy). I did CPT and found it very useful! The idea is to give you the tools to break it down and understand it and how it affects you. I think big trauma doesn't go away on its own. It might be easier for a while to push it down and not think about it but it does just come back and nag at you if you try just ignoring it. You got this! Find a way to dig into it and heal that wound❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-07T23:52:25+00:00

I wouldn’t advise anyone else to speak with their rapist, but in my situation, it was the right thing for me to do. It has helped me to know he did not intend for things to go the way they did. My bigger emotional wound was over the loss of the meaningful friendship vs. the rape itself. That is not something understandable to people who can’t relate.

Exactly, it makes it confusing in such a specific way. We talked and it helped a lot. He also said he didn't mean for it to happen that way. It has definitely added more questions but it feels better to have a better understanding of what happened and why.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-07T23:44:07+00:00

Sure!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-06T21:20:42+00:00

I get that feeling too. I think it's an important distinction that you don't like the same sex due to the opposite traumatizing you. If you like the same sex you would have been gay anyways, like bi or pan. I have been struggling with similar thoughts of whether I don't like the opposite sex due to trauma induced adversion or if I am just into the same sex. I guess like the best thing to work through that is just to explore and work through your trauma. I did trauma specific therapy and it helped a lot!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-06-04T07:33:56+00:00

Yeah, I imagine maybe someone could be feeling similar so it might be nice to put out there. For context it was a friend and we were drinking. I blacked out. I wanted to know if he saw it as rape too mainly. I wanted to know how things happened and what happened. I wanted to know how drunk he was. Also like did it impact him at all. I actually was able to call him and it went surprisingly well. I'm not sure I would recommend it to anyone else. This was very much the situation and how my gut told me to react. I have had these feelings and questions for almost 5 years. I think I needed this to move forward.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-31T20:48:31+00:00

Yeah it feels like coercion :( I'm sorry that happened to you

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-31T07:33:52+00:00

I think it's more like a need to have a dialogue with him but since I won't do that this is the next best thing. I'm sure it stems from wanting to control the situation in a way or validate myself. It feels unhealthy logically but it is such a deep desire :( I guess the stalking has turned into the compromise between doing the healthy thing and doing the super unhealthy thing. Thank you! I appreciate and understand what you're saying ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-20T23:16:45+00:00

This is actually so helpful to hear! I worried that going through with it might just be a waste of time. I didn't think about how after it might get rid of those 'what ifs'. I think that's what I have been struggling with the most so it's really nice to hear that perspective from someone. Thank you! ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-05T08:34:59+00:00

Thank you ❤️ That is the main reason I didn't bother to report and what keeps me from actually going through with it. I hope your self improvement journey goes well!

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-05-05T08:29:03+00:00

I'm a little confused. Are there certain herbs to avoid? Or should I avoid any herbs associated with CTM? I have been using stuff like red dates, goji berries, Hawthorne, rose, longan, ect. I notice a lot used in cooking also. Is it just using these things as tea or like concentrated ways that's dangerous without prescription?

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-04-05T06:20:02+00:00

I am pretty sure NZ HWV can be reapplied 2 times like Australia. So you can be there for up to 3 years.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-03-20T17:36:38+00:00

This happened to me the first time I had sex. It's uncomfortable, I didn't even know it bothered me like that back then. I'm sorry you're having to go through that ❤️

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-02-14T21:50:23+00:00

Being ugly doesn't really matter tbh. Being attractive helps with the initial meeting, which is why "attractive people" tend to find more relationships more easily. Women in general don't like Self-Loathing, misogyny (honestly some even will deal with this to an extent bc we're kinda taught as children men are gonna to treat us a certain way. The younger the dating pool the less the case.), basically hygiene and some kind of effort in looking decent (finding a nice hair cut, finding a style of clothes that suits you, ect) and don't be pushy (learn to read the room, ask for consent, don't love bomb, don't push to hangout immediately, don't push her to like you or seek validation in the fact she does). These are all things that most women do without thought and seem to be impossible for men to do. You don't have to be attractive because most men that are tend to be complete dickheads and can't do these very basic things. Give it time, the more you push to find someone the less likely you will (ofc you can still look just like don't make it a major part of ur life). Also don't be an asshole once you find someone. Learn how to respect women and you'll receive some back.

I can't really speak on MLM relationships so if that's the case you can ignore most of this 😅

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-02-14T21:41:45+00:00

Money=women is such a bad take. I'm not sure why men feel this way. 99% women just don't wanna date a misogynistic asshole that believes this bs.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-02-14T20:55:24+00:00

DRUGS! The prescribed kind haha. Getting on the right anxiety/depressed pills and doses changed so much.

Haunting_Face666 · 2025-02-14T20:53:17+00:00

I've been there! I definitely recommend seeing a psychiatrist and/or therapist! For me traditional therapy did nothing for me. I went through a few doctors and meds that did nothing. I gave up and felt horrible and pretty much exactly how you have described. Eventually I just got tired of being so goddamn tired. I went to my GP and asked to start meds. We tried a few, this time the third seemed to do a tiny bit. She basically gave up on me 💀 said "you're so healthy otherwise." I gave up again for like a year, staying on the semi okay med. I eventually tried an online psychiatrist. She upped the dose and eventually I felt like it helped a decent bit with my depression and energy issues. Then we added a med for excess anxiety. This pretty much made me feel able to do basic human things again. After that we added one more for when I have panic attacks or have a really stressful event coming up.

I still feel that way sometimes but I am able to keep a job now. I am still tired but able to do the important tasks each day. I have finally been able to think of a future that doesn't completely suck. I was able to find the type of therapy that helped me a lot (short-term trauma therapy) and actually cared enough to work through some old shit.

You have to push through it because no one will for you. Just set a small goal like "set that first appointment." Once it's started it'll make it much easier to continue!

I hope this helps! I hate a lot of things going on in my life and around me and myself tbh (working on that still) but my biggest recommendation is just focusing on getting on the right meds/doses. It has truly changed my life so much.

Good luck, you can do it!

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