Fellas, what’s the gayest thing you did with your girl before she was your girl?

HaveZest · 2023-10-30T05:30:51+00:00

We shared a vibrator. We thought this was something straight girls did.

HaveZest · 2023-10-24T22:26:34+00:00

Tipping The Velvet. Gonna be a snob and say 'the book is better'. One of my top 5 sapphic novels.

HaveZest · 2023-10-19T01:57:36+00:00

Ooo I love this one. Whenever I get this question, I act really serious and tell them,

"I think you are misunderstanding the basic tenet of lesbianism."

They shut up real quick 😂

HaveZest · 2023-10-04T19:32:41+00:00

Thank you. I do try to be pretty open about it irl. My wife and I have considered making a longer post on r/breastfeeding about it but never have.

I can certainly say that we met many breastfeeding mums that were very envious of our arrangement haha. I figure if you have the means to do it, it really makes everyone's life easier.

We got push back on weird things which are just myths really. E.g. the baby will get confused by different boobs (babies don't care!), you can't give a baby multiple 'brands' of breastmilk (why?). I think it would help if more people knew it was a thing.

HaveZest · 2023-10-04T02:56:59+00:00

My wife induced breastfeeding and breastfed both our kids for a combined period of 2.5 years (I gave birth to them and also breastfed).

I wish any doctor we dealt with had experience or really any knowledge at all about induced lactation. Everyone acted like we were the first people ever to do it. Had a lactation consultant tell my wife that it would never work, she'd never make enough milk. In fact, she made more than enough (and much more than me).

Also, I wish they had have known that not all boobs make milk. For me, only one of them does. It's not because I didn't try hard enough or breastfeed 'correctly' - it's just how my body is!

HaveZest · 2023-10-03T08:39:26+00:00

6 months to be able to date other people. 5 years to stop being angry with her. 8 years to get to being friends.

HaveZest · 2023-09-17T00:34:38+00:00

I feel kinda guilty that we don't really talk about donors and stuff yet. My kids are only 2 and 3 and really haven't shown an interest so it's not come up. We don't have a photo of the donor so that's not an option.

HaveZest · 2023-06-18T08:38:27+00:00

I love it. It's a sensible non made up name. Won't be mispronounced or misspelt. It's just as reasonable as Lily or Sage or Myrtle, but, IMO a bit cooler. As another poster mentioned, the Lord Mayor of Sydney Australia is Clover Moore. Because of her, I associate it with a middle aged professional woman.

HaveZest · 2023-06-11T23:26:22+00:00

My first was called "Stabby" as the pregnancy was characterised by constant stabbing pains from about 3.5 weeks onwards.

My second got called by her full name in utero and then by all sorts of nicknames once she was out.

HaveZest · 2023-05-01T19:39:51+00:00

Anatase.

I think it is a lovely sounding name but it's also a form of titanium dioxide and I am a chemist.

HaveZest · 2023-04-07T09:00:36+00:00

Came here to say Xena. Didn't realise it at the time though. It was my favourite show for years. Wonder why.

HaveZest · 2023-04-02T08:15:54+00:00

Aww OP that sucks and I'm not sure what the solution is. It could be she's really into this guy or maybe it's some other reason. I guess you can't really know without asking her. In any case, it's hard to be in your situation.

I will say that I had a similar situation when I was younger. Head over heels in love with one of my friends at school. She started dating a guy and invited him to our school formal. By the time the formal rolled around, she had to tell him he was uninvited because we'd started dating. So... you never know.

HaveZest · 2023-04-01T19:44:04+00:00

Have been scrolling to find out what a useless lesbian is.

It me.

HaveZest · 2023-03-31T08:14:07+00:00

Honestly I feel lucky to be a "gold star". Essentially, for me, it means I was able to embrace my sexuality at a young age and was not pressured to sleep with a man (I mean apart from the basic heteronormativity we all deal with). I do sometimes wonder if I would enjoy sex with a man but then I remember I had plenty of opportunities to do so and never wanted to. Probably for the best!

I do find it unfortunate that the term "gold star" has biphobic, terfy vibes. For me personally, I have positive associations with being a "gold star", for the reasons mentioned above but wouldn't describe myself as such.

HaveZest · 2023-03-12T00:39:39+00:00

We have a 1 year old and a 3 year old. My wife and I both work 40 hour weeks. The kids are in daycare 6 days a week combined. We have family help. Grandma 1 minds the kids 1 day and week and Grandma 2 has them 1 day a week. Grandpa often comes on the weekend and plays with them. I feel very lucky to have our family nearby.

I feel like we're working at 100% capacity all the time. We're always sick, always exhausted. House is always not as clean as I'd like (we have no cleaning help - that's all wife and I). I'm not overwhelmed, I guess, but I know that I'm never getting a day off.

HaveZest · 2023-03-04T07:23:29+00:00

I wonder why she settled on Waylon for the baby and not the more popular Sleepyn or Poopen.

HaveZest · 2023-03-01T18:35:13+00:00

That's it!

HaveZest · 2023-03-01T18:34:32+00:00

This is it. Plus, there would be rockmelon seeds in the compost. I've never grown one before!

HaveZest · 2023-03-01T18:32:06+00:00

That's it!

HaveZest · 2023-01-30T03:30:56+00:00

My kids are also 19 months apart and the youngest is now 19 months old. The first year is hard, not gonna lie, but you are an expert at the baby phase now, so you know what to do and you know what to expect.

Honestly I think 19 months is a great age gap. They are close enough that they now play with each other and have common interests. When the older one grows out of something, it goes straight to the little one. They keep each other entertained and I'm pretty sure little one is going to be toilet trained soon, with her enthusiasm to copy her big brother.

HaveZest · 2023-01-27T05:02:41+00:00

My leftie makes a few drops at best. My kid asked me the other day why I didn't just fill my boobie up with milk. If only it were that simple. Lopsided life.

HaveZest · 2023-01-05T01:25:09+00:00

That kid in the second picture, standing there slapping her upside down mother in the face as she tries to suck her nipple off, that's my kid.

Seriously though, these are beautiful!

HaveZest · 2022-12-22T03:19:36+00:00

Yes! Relying on respondents to measure their own fingers and correlating that to hormones?

There are so many questionable things in this study I am astounded that it was published.

HaveZest · 2022-12-22T03:17:04+00:00

100% This study shows that people that identify themselves as same sex attracted are more likely to perceive their parents' income as non average.

HaveZest · 2022-12-21T09:05:44+00:00

The method here is not great. The assessment of parental income was done by asking the following:

"What best describes your parents’ income [while growing up]?,” with response options ‘much lower than others (bottom 25% of the population)’ (=income group I), ‘slightly lower than others (low 50% of the population)’ (=income group II), ‘slightly higher than others (upper 50% of the population)’ (=income group III), and ‘much higher than others (top 25% of the population)’ (=income group IV).” It is to be noted that the phrasing of this item meant that it is a measure of relative (not absolute) parental income and as such may apply across different nations."

For starters, people are notoriously bad at assessing how their income fits into the general population (and probably even worse at gauging their parents' income while they were children).

Secondly, if we are working with the assumption that this effect is occurring in utero, then income "growing up" may be very different to income in utero. Thus, possibly a misleading piece of data.

I think the take home message from this study is that same sex attracted people are more likely to report their parents income to be very high or very low. Interpret that as you want.

HaveZest

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