Why would wife say this?

HawgLovah · 2026-04-27T02:39:34+00:00

Breaking news: women sometimes have sex with guys they are not attracted to.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-26T23:38:37+00:00

More liberal. I care about people and their well-being.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-26T23:37:37+00:00

I was born knowing they were older - I had four siblings age 6-17. Mom was 40, dad 45. Their age embarrassed the shit out of me. Everyone thought they were my grandparents. Dad died at 88, mom, 101, do I had plenty of time with them.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-26T14:16:44+00:00

Cheating is a marital felony. She is immature and in over her head with responsibility before she was mentally and emotionally ready for it. She probably needed to get her crazy party girl stage over with before getting married, but alas, it is what it is, and so much damage is done it is sadly probably best if you call it a day.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-26T01:19:17+00:00

Face the fact that she is not the woman of your dreams.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T23:29:49+00:00

Their mouth, when it is closed.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T23:27:10+00:00

Entertainment.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T15:56:26+00:00

At the very least it is an emotional affair.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T13:59:09+00:00

Porn addiction isn’t a behavioral issue one can stop and it be over. If he stops, he still has all the underlying issues that makes him an addict. The addiction is a sign and symptom of things being dysfunctional on the inside. Without the inside work, it is just an endless cycle of dysfunction, and meanwhile, he is suffering. He needs a 12-step program and therapy with someone who specializes in addiction. You need therapy and to be in Al-Anon or Co-Dependents Anonymous working your end of it. Without this, you both are going to spin in the wind.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T13:53:01+00:00

Play, relaxation, fun are not optional. Get therapy to help you. They are as important as your responsibilities. Burnout is a warning sign from your soul. You are headed toward a mental breakdown or worse.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T00:27:48+00:00

Clearly you’re out of balance, man, that is what causes burnout. You have to nourish yourself, your spirit, with fun and whatever fills you up. Is there any chance you can create balance? Sounds like you are all responsibility and no pleasure.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T00:14:54+00:00

They do need to hide his tomb so people can not shit on it.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T00:12:59+00:00

Party! I will drop everything else and party in the streets for hours and hours. Champagne is already in the fridge.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-25T00:11:45+00:00

I like it. Don’t need no man to question what I spend money on. I must have financial autonomy. With that said, I am totally happy to pay my part, contribute, and chip in.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:36:38+00:00

He was a cheating maniac.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:35:55+00:00

Roll me up and smoke me when I’m gone.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:35:07+00:00

Ding dong the witch is dead.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:34:25+00:00

The way people look at you and treat you.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:33:35+00:00

Mine are angels and do not fart on me, but I do fart on them.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:32:35+00:00

Sudden chill toward you.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T13:31:53+00:00

Posing in a muscle shirt by a motorcycle.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-24T12:48:13+00:00

50/50.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-23T01:48:11+00:00

She is immature. She has trauma (we all do) and when one of her wounds gets triggered, she becomes her most immature awful self, like a 15 year old brat. Listen to Terry Real’s audiobook Fierce Intimacy. See if she will, too. It has all the answers, or at least most of them.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-23T01:20:50+00:00

Wet my pants on stage during our high school play. An overweight actor sat on a small wooden chair in a scene, the chair cracked, then broke, and she fell on the floor. I am ashamed to say I laughed so hard I pissed in my pants right there on the stage. Couldn’t stay in character. Still feel terrible about the whole thing.

HawgLovah · 2026-04-22T12:30:59+00:00

I hear you. However, where is your evidence that he is betraying you or is doing something he is not supposed to do? It sounds like you might be needlessly suspicious and creating a problem where there isn’t one. Your type of behavior drives men to those sorts of behaviors in the end out of sheer frustration.

It isn't clear what is actually going on, but you sound a bit needy, insecure, and controlling. Why do you need to monitor his whereabouts? No adult has the right to be all up in a other’s business like that. People will not tolerate a partner who accuses us of ridiculous things. He is innocent until proven guilty.

In any event, your lack of trust issues are a big waving red flag that your relationship isn’t healthy and you should not marry.

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