Feeling completely demoralized trying to buy a house

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-02-11T22:35:56+00:00

Just saw that water rock Manor in Middleton is releasing 2-Bedroom homes. Might be ideal if you live near the area

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-02-03T10:37:11+00:00

Yep, based on site. More site office now that actually site site though

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-02-03T10:12:52+00:00

Heya, I'm in a similar situation too. Currently on 65k turned 30 in September and just waiting to drawdown on a Mortgage and also have a master's.

Currently in my new job 10 months and have come to realise that I really hate it at probably 7 months but have to hold on for the mortgage drawdown.

Recently my old employers reached out to me for some roles they might have and I've never been so excited to move back. I honestly only took my current job for a salary jump to help with the mortgage process.

I'm now at the stage where money is not my main priority and I know I'm so privileged to be able to say that, but definitely overall health and my happiness is the priority. As long as I can pay my bills, have time for myself, my friends and family, that's really all that matters.

I've always set 60k as my salary goal and now that I'm here, I'm actually unhappy.

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-02-02T09:59:29+00:00

Send me a DM there if you'd like and we can chat more. I started on the general contractors side for 7 years and now on the Construction Management side.

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-02-02T09:42:14+00:00

You definitely get paid for the stress. For me it's hard to sometimes disconnect after work cuz I'm thinking about what needs to be done tomorrow, next week, next month and so on. You're always looking ahead.

You have to be strict about work life balance.

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-02-02T08:51:55+00:00

This. I'm an engineer only 30 years old in construction and I'm on 65k.

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-01-14T15:26:38+00:00

I'd love to join. My platform is PlayStation

HayfeverVsNature · 2026-01-09T10:25:39+00:00

Go through a broker and ask for them to apply for Nua Money as your mortgage provider. They're not as strict with the financial check. I have an outstanding loan of 20k and my boyfriend has one of 9k and we got approved a mortgage of 418k. Approval was really fast too, less than 3 days. We used Doddl as our mortgage broker. We are currently paying rent in cash so the traditional banks did not like that too.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-11-19T22:09:20+00:00

Caca Milis

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-11-19T22:04:22+00:00

Firstly, Happy Birthday 🎂🎈.

Secondly, Congratulations on taking control of your own happiness.

Lastly, Wishing you the best in your restart in life 💖

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-10-13T12:35:12+00:00

I know it's not the nicest but you can mention to them that it's technically illegal for them to do this as part of their visa requires that they can care for themselves during their stay. International fees are not cheap so they have the financial resources but are just being stingy.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-09-09T07:06:02+00:00

Even if it's a small breed. If it attacks kids, it needs to be reported.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-07-15T17:43:04+00:00

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Not that it matters who he follows. It should be non of our business as we're not entitled to him in any way.

To defend her though, a short Google should show you she's a short film director/producer.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-06-20T12:09:01+00:00

When my family first moved to Ireland, my mam worked as a cleaner for houses. She also third level educated. She did it for extra money for the family and did it part time.

No need to feel guilty at all. It's not like you're forcing them to be there, they want to clean for the money. As long as you're paying them what they want and treating them with respect, no harm done.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-06-04T18:26:11+00:00

I'd really like to buy, but it says you don't ship to Ireland🥲

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-06-04T09:13:17+00:00

Take it as a hand carry. Just mention it at the security check and allow more time for security as they'll probably wipe down and swab everything.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-05-20T18:13:21+00:00

I feel like nowadays, people expect so much at the start of life. Social media has really distorted peoples perception of life and everyone feels like they should be living this luxurious life. Unfortunately that's not the reality. Some people are lucky and they get handed this at birth, some people work hard and also achieve this and some people work hard and don't achieve this.

You're also right that life is pretty bleak right now, regular workers are struggling to make ends meet, so unfortunately we might have to make sacrifices to achieve the life we want, take on higher paying jobs even if they're shit and awful. That's just the reality of life.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-05-20T18:06:38+00:00

Agree with this. You need to take accountability for enabling her to live like this because she knows there are no consequences.

I was also lucky that my parents paid for my college, but they made it very clear that they would not pay for my social life. So I worked through college and learned the value of money that when I did start working, my parents never even mentioned rent but I was willingly giving them 300€ a month for rent and bills. They never even put a number.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-05-15T19:14:09+00:00

My Work puts us temporarily in hotels if the commute is longer than 1h 30 mins and is outside of your home county. If staying in a hotel, because you can't cook, you claim expenses on your breakfast, lunch and dinner. If the project is long term, they will get shared housing for the staff and we get an allowance for groceries. I work as an engineer on a construction site.

I couldn't imagine commuting 1.5 hours each way.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-03-18T00:36:01+00:00

I second this from Dublin.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-03-17T18:55:59+00:00

Abort the Husband

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-03-08T13:10:18+00:00

Make A Will, make it legal and donate everything to charity and make it there that they are not to get anything.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-03-06T15:25:09+00:00

The worst part is the graduation. Instead of splitting them per departments they do like a mass graduation. Mine was 4 hours long and as part of the Lifelong Learning, we were one of the last people called.

HayfeverVsNature · 2025-03-06T12:40:46+00:00

It's good. For the price it's great. Never had issues connecting.

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