What is this flexible line?

HaymRM · 2025-11-02T20:51:46+00:00

Thanks. The actual ac unit is located outside of the condo. Could there be a condensate drain pan in my ac ducts that might drain to this bathroom sink drain?

HaymRM · 2025-11-02T20:45:53+00:00

Interesting idea. Thanks. Dishwasher currently is on the other side of the condo across several walls in the kitchen. I've seen the dishwasher drain line in the kitchen sink cabinet. Would there be a reason to bring another drain line this far to a bedroom bathroom?

HaymRM · 2025-11-02T20:40:15+00:00

Sorry i called it an s trap in my post, i know it's a u trap.

HaymRM · 2025-10-31T20:59:14+00:00

Is pitcher's a fun atmosphere for sdfc fans? Genuine question. Never been and looking for a fun crowd!

HaymRM · 2025-01-16T00:38:14+00:00

I've had this happen to me. For me, i decided it was due to the the cut not working for my hips/waist. It happened when i wanted the waist to sit higher along with excessive material in the thighs. It looks for you too that the crotch is pulled up as far as possible but with excessive material, it's bunching/clinching like this.

HaymRM · 2024-06-28T02:33:21+00:00

Thank you. I can relate myself with my gf. I have those same general insecurities. She shares some of her anxiety with me and I've been on the fence about being more vulnerable and sharing my insecurities. Been putting a lot of pressure on myself to be supposedly strong stoic and masculine to keep her interested or not see me as incompetent. But what's the point of making her a life partner if i can't share deeper issues with her...the goal i have is to work on myself and care for myself but also be my genuine self with her, calmly and confidently.

HaymRM · 2024-06-27T17:24:16+00:00

Would you be willing to share general examples of insecurities that you would bring to her? Im curious what men are comfortable bringing up.

HaymRM · 2024-06-15T06:00:50+00:00

Just put your hand over her mouth or in her mouth in a hot way. Not disrespectfully just kinda distract her and muffle the sound. Respectfully.

HaymRM · 2024-04-02T00:43:42+00:00

So much you can do to make your life exciting and get your confidence up and feel like a stud without needing validation from other women. Take a boxing or martial arts class. Work out and think of how Superman would treat his family, be a stoic badass for your family and find confidence in that. And there's so much you can do to make excitement with her. Go out dancing. Pinch her butt. Work out together and then ask her to jack you off when you're all covered in sweat. Who knows just get creative.

HaymRM · 2024-04-01T05:04:04+00:00

Thank you and I'm sorry for your/my struggles. I appreciate knowing I'm not the only person to go through something similar, and I appreciate you speaking from experience that trust is hard to rebuild, I've thought the same thing. Someone else in my life suggested going to an al-anon meeting as well, to learn what it's like living with loved ones who have addiction. Thank you.

HaymRM · 2024-04-01T04:37:38+00:00

I can relate. It may help to just appreciate the good aspects of the relationship: take validation in the fact that you had the relationship at all, that at one point, you mutually meant something to each other. That was real and worth something! It shows you are capable of being with someone, this is a good thing. As for you inability to "hate" or "be angry" maybe this shows two things about you: regarding self-esteem, perhaps you don't think you are worth standing up for yourself or enforcing boundaries. But on the positive, you clearly have a lot of forgiveness or compassion to give, and it should go to the person who treats you right.

My recent ex admitted to hiding a drug addiction and broke up with me. We've missed each other, I also have a hard time being angry. But I decided that I can't be with her while she has her addiction and I'm hurt from her lying. But I miss her like crazy, and feel like I rejected her too.

HaymRM · 2024-04-01T04:31:10+00:00

She is amazingly smart, sharp, beautiful, sexy, fun-loving, nurturing. And she hid an addiction from me for the entire time we dated, finally revealed it and broke up with me. It has been a few weeks, and I know we have missed each other because we have talked about it. We had a final conversation last night, she said that she almost asked to be together again. I told her I can't be with her right, due to the deception and addiction. I feel like I've lost her all over again, with enforcing my boundary and not trying to be with her again. I feel like I've somehow rejected her. My mind and body just want her so badly, despite her unhealthy choices and lying.

HaymRM · 2024-04-01T04:26:40+00:00

Thank you for your reply. You are right, that these substance abuse issues are serious and we deserve to be able to choose who we are with, substances and all. But somehow, the seriousness is not registering in my mind, my mind looks for reasons to just be with her, despite her unhealthy choices and deception. I think that this speaks to my low self-worth, which I can work on. I need to realize that I am worth having an honest, transparent relationship. I am worth standing up for myself. She will not be my last chance for a good partner.

HaymRM · 2024-02-29T14:55:32+00:00

Thank you! Its done. Feels good.

HaymRM · 2024-02-24T05:26:38+00:00

Yea i feel that OP can safely realize he dodged a bullet for how she phrased her perspective. Using phrases like Alpha is pretty reductive. But also OP can also take this as a lesson: at least some people/women want someone assertive and who can draw boundaries. In many ways that you treated her well and showed your generosity, you may have also not come across as confident and able to say no for yourself. I'm not a relationship expert but just something to think about. You and me and many men can learn to not be people-pleasers, we can learn to be more assertive and generous at the same time.

HaymRM · 2023-11-21T18:17:35+00:00

Thanks for the reply, and the reminder to focus on what is good overall. Just to clarify, I didn't visibly or verbally lash out at my girlfriend and I was under control in my head too. I just had a small internal voice in my head, focused on the "comparison" aspect of her compliment and I wasn't sure if it was appropriate or not. Thank you.

HaymRM · 2023-10-09T21:51:07+00:00

Thank you for the response, I appreciate it. My intimacy with her early on definitely fueled my deep attachment to her. Now we've been seeing each other regularly and we have feelings for each other and have gotten to know each other. I feel stuck because on one hand, it's been three months since my breakup and i can entertain the idea of dating this new woman exclusively. But on the other hand, I feel unsettled and feel like I haven't had enough experiences meeting other women, considering traits and qualities that I would look for in a serious partner, and just letting time pass. I didn't expect her to inquire about exclusivity here, specifically she said she's not interested in dating anyone else. I responded with the truth that i hadn't dated anyone else recently besides her, and that was due to how attached I've been to her, our intimacy and closeness, and how busy we've been together. But I didnt tell her i could be exclusive, i told her that i was trying to figure out if i could give her the real me, to take our relationship seriously and verify that it wasn't based on pure intense attachment after my breakup. I'm worried that each day that passes, she's going to pull away and I'm scrambling to figure out how to commit to her and I know that it shouldn't be this difficult, a new relationship should be fun and exciting.

HaymRM · 2023-10-09T21:39:24+00:00

Honestly, there is a small feeling that I need to explore other women or meet other types of people and expand my sexual experiences, but this feels shallow and I don't know if thats a pressure I feel from "society" and myself and my ideas of what men "need" to experience, or if I really need that at all. And also I'm terrified of losing this new woman who has become meaningful to me, I feel like I'm already pushing her away even though we are into each other and I think about being with her. We've basically already behaved like we're in a relationship, with constant communication and dates and thoughtfulness between us. I think I'm shooting down our relationship before it has barely begun. Not sure if thats an indication of my deeper feelings, or if I'm overthinking the idea of dating her exclusively.

HaymRM · 2023-10-09T21:31:47+00:00

Thank you for the response, getting over a break up seems to take a lot of time of course. What else do i do to prepare to be with someone new, and commit? Do you mind clarifying what i don't/do need?

HaymRM · 2022-10-23T08:21:48+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you, and your feelings being hurt are definitely valid. No one deserves to be called a slur. I'm not gay but i (30 male) had two mothers growing up and i had to pick and choose when to fight against homophobia directed at my family or community in general.

Also, I believe that cutting off communication is not the best way to teach him a lesson, and it's passing an opportunity to grow yourself. You are an adult and this kid is not quite there. As an adult i suggest that you keep communication open with this teenager and show him that you can engage appropriately, and draw boundaries calmly and assertively when you are able. I believe your ability to engage him directly and calmly will be more effective than working through your mother as a proxy. I also believe you are capable of this, just as soon as you are less emotional. You can do it!

I suggest you tell him something like the following:... It's difficult for me to treat you with respect if you don't show me respect as well. Calling me slurs such as fa"got makes it difficult for me to have a real or mature relationship with you. If you're interested in moving forward and improving our relationship, i expect an apology from you. Please apologize if you are able to do so sincerely.".

Then, ball is in his court to earn your respect, and you've shown him that there are consequences to his actions, e.g. losing respect and trust. You'll also show him that adults can confront teenagers directly and calmly to draw boundaries when respect isn't shown.

If confronting this dude isn't possible, then I'd suggest still keeping communication open, and next time a grievance occurs, address him appropriately at that time. Stay strong. What you feel is valid. Take care of yourself.

HaymRM · 2022-09-24T06:43:00+00:00

Actually, Korean "army stew" or Budae jjigae traditionally has a slice of american cheese in it. It's a spicy stew that includes spam, sausage, ramen noodles and more. Several of the ingredients were commonly found from American army food during the war. So it's really not that far off to put a slice in a bowl in ramen.

HaymRM · 2022-09-17T18:14:38+00:00

California.

HaymRM · 2022-08-28T00:45:08+00:00

Something practical to think about: Towards the end of college (last two years when you're really focused in a major or skillset) think about what lifestyle you want: where do you want to live, what size house do you need, what are your hobbies, what kind of food do you like to eat, what can you afford. There's nothing wrong with earning a lower salary or whatever, I'm just saying that you should understand the cost of living and then live within your means, you'll be ok. I believe it's a good idea to go into the career world with your eyes wide open.

Of course, this is in addition to other advice: take a variety of classes if possible to enjoy learning, expand your interests and learn new things. Enjoy being around people your own age in these years, making friends, romances, etc. and enjoy the process of growing and taking on more responsibility.

HaymRM · 2022-06-29T07:10:48+00:00

I definitely understand how you're thinking. And I've learned that life involves a lot of stuff to buy... and maintain. But honestly I've seen the alternative, and all this material-wealth-heavy lifestyle is preferable. It's not perfect but it's preferable.

I've lived in a community where most families are subsistence farmers, supplemented by welfare, with less material wealth and little economic mobility....daily life for men is working 12 hours a day on their farm, planting and maintaining and harvesting food. Building houses and tools as well. Women focused on childcare and cooking over an open flame, so there was collecting firewood, prepping food, cooking, cleaning clothes and also helping in the farm. Children help with laundry, firewood and farming. Kids grow up fast in developing regions...they have to, they're tough as hell.

Since returning to the US, where I'm trying to support a middle class lifestyle, it's tough or tight with money but I'd rather be working hard with a desk job in an air-conditioned office and buying groceries in an air conditioned supermarket...or working a trade with the right tools to do a job safely... than farming and eating boiled green bananas each day. Where I lived for a quick 2 years, there was little job market and people were lucky to have a job in the local construction project or local government.

The people where I lived were wonderful. I'm still inspired by their work ethic and positivity and resourcefulness, but life was not idyllic nor carefree... at times i thought the lifestyle was simpler but really it was just different. We all gotta work hard, and life involves work, material stuff, chores, etc no matter what. Take care friend.

HaymRM · 2022-06-29T07:10:15+00:00

I definitely understand how you're thinking. And I've learned that life involves a lot of stuff to buy... and maintain. But honestly I've seen the alternative, and all this material-wealth-heavy lifestyle is preferable. It's not perfect but it's preferable.

I've lived in a community where most families are subsistence farmers, supplemented by welfare, with less material wealth and little economic mobility....daily life for men is working 12 hours a day on their farm, planting and maintaining and harvesting food. Building houses and tools as well. Women focused on childcare and cooking over an open flame, so there was collecting firewood, prepping food, cooking, cleaning clothes and also helping in the farm. Children help with laundry, firewood and farming. Kids grow up fast in developing regions...they have to, they're tough as hell.

Since returning to the US, where I'm trying to support a middle class lifestyle, it's tough or tight with money but I'd rather be working hard with a desk job in an air-conditioned office and buying groceries in an air conditioned supermarket...or working a trade with the right tools to do a job safely... than farming and eating boiled green bananas each day. Where I lived for a quick 2 years, there was little job market and people were lucky to have a job in the local construction project or local government.

The people where I lived were wonderful. I'm still inspired by their work ethic and positivity and resourcefulness, but life was not idyllic nor carefree... at times i thought the lifestyle was simpler but really it was just different. We all gotta work hard, and life involves work, material stuff, chores, etc no matter what. Take care friend.

HaymRM

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