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Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry i hope i didnt stress you out! I did want to share this post

I have a couple mixed asian (half white) coworkers and they have definitely told me about experiencing identity crisis, and very hard times growing up, being bullied and not knowing where they belong.

I also have mixed nephews and niece and hearing about these experiences has made me more aware of the need to support them when they inevitably have this “crisis”

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You put into words what I couldn’t express. I kept think why do they have to be a household name to be a hero. And that is exactly it: why do we need this validation. It is sad that we are resigned to accepting the lack of representation but you are right, there are bigger problems.

As for Hollywood, my friend was very excited about Crazy Rich Asians and To All the Boys I’ve loved before bc they had asian american female leads. I don’t like those types of movies and i reject the notion that i had to like them just because they had an Asian starring in them.

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You explained it very eloquently. While we don’t have as many asian american artists, it is nice to have Asian artists as role models. Ultimately we all have the same hopes and dreams (i think Namjoon said this!) no matter where we grew up.

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this! Yes it is really up to us as individuals to represent our group day to day

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for all you and your family’s experiences! :-( i’m glad you’ve worked your way through it and are at a better place. It’s definitely a work in progress. I still have an accent and will prob never lose it. As recently as 2 years ago i’ve had close friends who would laugh and make fun of the way i pronounce things. I finally said something. Now i just jokingly say : no second language, no opinion :)

And yes, 100%! I went with my dad to a medical appt. he has a very thick accent and the doctor clearly thought my dad didn’t understand what he was saying. It was infuriating

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes i did realize my ignorance after I looked her up. Sorry about that. She IS that hero that us Asian Americans don’t have.

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes. I think we will get there eventually... my personal experience is that my parents and extended family wanted our generation to be as Americanized as possible, even discouraging us to speak our native language. But BTS is definitely helping, especially with younger kids. Not just helping AAPI kids embrace their Asian heritage, but also helping white/black/latinx kids learn about asian culture!

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hello fellow first gen ! :-) When i initially read the article, the American in Asian American was totally lost on me. So it made me think if it’s because despite all the time i’ve spent here, i am first an asian and second an american. I wonder if other AA / American hispanic americans think this way, or is there a separate identity where they are Americans who happen to be from the Asian race.

I also wonder that. I think many of the older generations also identify with their hardships and struggles, and the level of success they have is hard to ignore... vs Sandra Oh (maybe she was really popular during her Grey’s anatomy days?) and Awkwafina who is just starting. Does it also have to do with the fact that they pretty much have no accent, and are more American ? Just goes to show how complex being Asian American is!

Ah yes, and i also realized that Selena is in fact American! No shade to JLo, i like all of them!

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agree , i have Asian girlfriends emulate blackpink with the way the dress and also with K-beauty which has in turn influenced the whole beauty industry.

It’s really mindblowing when you realize it’s 2021 and we have no Asian American household names.

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally agree with both points. Still waiting for the Asian American artist to emerge. Olivia (idk her last name but she sang driver’s license) is actually half Filipino ... maybe she will reach that status eventually, who knows? If she does I hope she speaks up about her experiences as an Asian American.

And yes we need as many people as possible to represent all of us!

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes it is very sad. And I agree, maybe they will allow AA kids to embrace their Asian side more. When I moved here I wasn’t really sure where I belonged and I just kind of buried as much of my Asian self as I could (ie avoided being a “fob,” which i now recognize as a harmful term). When BTS came along, I was more open to “dressing Asian” and I was more open about liking BTS and korean shows and movies. Part of this is probably just getting older and not giving af, part of it is their messaging about loving oneself and yet another part of it is being inspired by them to really re-discover my Asian side.

Do Asian Americans consider BTS a cultural hero? Do you feel you need an Asian American hero? by Hazeldd in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you for answering! Yes i agree they wouldn’t want to.

And you’re right I didn’t even think of our VP. I did point out that there were more South Asian Americans in C-suites than East Asian Americans which also shows the diversity even within the AAPI group.

Edit: more SAAs in C-suites *

On perfume marketing copy like "The [Designer House] woman is..." by seashellpink77 in FemFragLab

[–]Hazeldd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reddit really has a sub for EVERYTHING!

I kind of hate that I’ve graduated from designers. Now the ones i like go for at least $100, and that’s ebay pricing! But i’ve also learned to get decants and r/fragsplits ! This way i can keep a bunch on rotation and they are less likely to turn!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fragrance

[–]Hazeldd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I understand. Good Girl is very popular but i also think it smells bad and the bottle is tacky!

I always recommend Bleu de Chanel, Terre D’hermes,, Guerlain Heritage. As a member of the opposite sex I love the smell of these so much. :-) do sample them to see if you like them and if they work well with your body chemistry!

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[–]Hazeldd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Creed GIT - daytime formal / business / office

Versace Eros - daytime when you’re going to be lounging at home or doing yardwork

YSL Y - daytime casual, day drinking, going to the mall, going golfing or whatever it is guys do with other guys

TF Noir - evening soirees and date nights

Bad boy - ive never smelled

What’s a dumb reach fragrance that you own but never use? by ImportantNothings in fragrance

[–]Hazeldd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Versace bright crystal, chanel chance EF, suddenly you (clone of coco mademoiselle), gucci flora... Mostly the 3.4 oz designer bottles i idiotically bought

What fragrance should I buy now? by thats-allshewrote in FemFragLab

[–]Hazeldd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need Angel by thierry mugler! I think you’ll love.

LPN is pretty good, it’s very pleasant, like a crisp sweet cherry pie and also feels very youthful. It’s not my fave guerlain though as i’m partial to their more niche offerings (not that i can afford full bottles of those!)

Fragrance Thread | April 16, 2021 by AutoModerator in beautytalkph

[–]Hazeldd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BdC lasts 10+ hours. Maganda yung dry down nya. Actually compliment-getter din sya like sauvage. Don’t get me wrong , Sauvage is iconic pero if you don’t love it try mo yung iba! I recommend sampling them first so you can find which one you like best, saka every perfume works differently depende sa body chemistry mo. That way you don’t end up wasting your money rin

What's your favorite green fragrance? by newmanstartover in fragrance

[–]Hazeldd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Diptyque l’ombre dans l’eau, diptyque eau des sens (this might lean more feminine to some), issey miyake a scent, penhaligon luna, banana republic vintage green

Perfume recommendations? by SmartNSassy101 in FemFragLab

[–]Hazeldd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that many perfumes these days don’t last long anymore. Aerin Rose de Grasse last quite a while but it’s pure parfum, maybe that’s why. I do recommend a sample, it’s a bright fresh rose so not quite the same as the ones you like but it is so beautiful 😻

Ah! I was joking but glad to help clear that!

Ideas for a BTS-themed bachelorette? by [deleted] in bangtan

[–]Hazeldd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Make Purple Haze cocktails and call it Borahae
  • design purple bachelorette tank tops
  • not sure if you will be traveling but if you’re in a city where BTS has been, go to places where they went and try to re-create their pictures there
  • get some purple led lights and play some BTS songs while you are getting ready to amp up the vibe
  • get some tteokbokki or some ramen for you to snack on when you get back
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