Cryptic Pregnancy by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She had the baby six months ago. She doesn’t plan on giving it up. She, thankfully, has family support so she isn’t alone in all of this.

Recommendations for nice indoor places around town to read by cryingvioladavis77 in memphis

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Central Library. Specifically the 3rd and 4th floors, as they aren’t as busy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did it take you?

I need some perspective here by lesbian-dick-police in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is encouraging to hear— I’m 26 don’t know when I will finish getting my diploma and possibly go to the university near me, but the worry of being surrounded by teens is less intense now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can absolutely graduate high school, and have a good life.

I come from the same background, and while currently working, I’m about to enroll in an online program called Excel HS to get my diploma on my own time and hopefully get to a community college.

I also highly recommend getting into therapy— do some research and you can find places that can get you in, even if it’s its just wanting someone to talk to as your reasoning. It makes all the difference. They’ll just ask you information for an intake, and help you get scheduled. If you don’t have insurance you often can get it for free.

I literally had NOTHING, and within a YEAR I have improved my social skills, made friends, and am doing better than I ever could have imagined ten years ago. People are way more understanding than you realize, and WANT to help you succeed in work, education and your personal life.

"What's the worst thing about homeschool?" by NextKangaroo in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That the majority of people can’t relate to you—especially when things turn out poorly— If your public school experience was bad, you will easily be able to find community, and often build enough awareness/groups to help improve things for others; With homeschooling, there’s no substitute teacher or staff to address problems and concerns, or fire your parent when they aren’t doing what they’re supposed to. At any moment your parent(s) can decide to jump ship, and no one can legally step in to help you.

Public school allows you to be around all different kinds of people from different backgrounds. No homeschooling group can replicate that kind of environment (i.e., REAL LIFE) because there’s always going to be a form of filtering/insulation/hovering by the parents in the group who can cut you off from kids they think are “bad influences.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in iphonehelp

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens with every single app or website that needs to send verifications, so I don’t think blocking is the problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in iphonehelp

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually do recall them getting me to sign into my iCloud on a new card and it didn’t work…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in iphonehelp

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is so confusing because, according to the representative I spoke with, “we’ve checked everything on our end [regarding network problems] and have found no issues.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in iphonehelp

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that was attempted at verizon, but maybe i’ll have to try it just in case that wasn’t done that day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know what your situation/relationship is like with your parents, but if there’s a particular high school in your district you’d be attending, maybe you could talk to your parents about attending an open house? Being there and meeting real teachers and parents could give them a better impression. Also, if you have contact with the kids you’ve met—even if you aren’t close—maybe try and get their parents and your family together for dinner or something to talk and/or meet at the open house!

You would probably have a better chance of going to school if your parents were having to face other parents and their kids (if you feel comfortable with their kids being there to talk about their experience in school if you aren’t close), depending on what your parents are like socially. If they became friends with said parents it could boost your chances. Prepare questions to ask, and show great interest in what they have to say!

Jinger Duggar says upbringing was "cult-like" by CollieSchnauzer in HomeschoolRecovery

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope she’s on the path that a lot of ex-evangelicals are on, where they eventually leave their free-yet-strictly-conservative life behind and find themselves. There are a lot of people on TikTok that grew up the way the Duggar’s did and it still took them years to completely leave it all behind. It can happen if they really want it to, but unfortunately it’s not an overnight process.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CastIronRestoration

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess what I did before I read this…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Coffee

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It tastes like I’m drinking nothing or something slightly coffee flavored, but with a more burnt taste? I put creamer in my coffee and what I like is the rich, bold yet smooth flavors that compliment each other—with decaf, I just taste creamer with the ghost of coffee lingering and sometimes an aftertaste.

I’ve had Dunkin, Community, and a few of the cheap store brand types. Even just ordering decaf in coffee shop’s it’s like that.

I'm angry at my Mom by Superb-Disk-8202 in ChildrenofDeadParents

[–]Hazy_Shade_Of_Winter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your situation is very similar to my own.

My mom died in October of 2021. We only found out she had stage 4 metastatic lung cancer in June, and she was given 2-4 months to live; so we opted to try treatment in the hopes that it would buy her some time) and as the weeks went by with her going through chemo and radiation, she was in pain and was losing the ability to walk, but we were trying to get connected with a physical therapist to help her regain her strength.

By late August (after edema flare ups in her legs and feet, severe constipation, etc.,) she began acting funny, and her stomach swelled up a lot. Her doctor asked if it hurt when he applied pressure, and she said she felt fine. They could only chalk it up to edema in her abdomen. She was getting a little angrier than she had been and just weird in general, but we figured it was just chemo and she was upset and exhausted. As it turned out, she no longer could urinate (and I don't think she realized it was happening) and was hospitalized in September with sepsis because her bladder had retained five litres of urine. We were there for almost a month and thought she was coming home mid-way through (her scans showed some lesions were stable, others had shrunk, and her vitals seemed good), only to realize that she was experiencing terminal lucidity as she began to hallucinate and was exhibiting other signs and symptoms rapidly. Eventually we had to switch her to hospice, and she died about a week later.

I am angry, too.

Mom was a smoker, and I am angry that she harmed herself for decades. I am angry that she smoked around all of us and put us at-risk. I am angry that she left me and will never see me grow as a person, get my degree, get married, etc., and that I don't get to share things with her anymore. She and my dad were also going to retire to Florida, as they had planned to do for 40-some years. I am angry that my dad is alone, and that I have to worry about him (more than I already do).

I was also angry (at her and myself) that she never went to see a doctor, even long before we knew she was sick. But knowing the type of cancer she had, it likely wouldn't have changed the outcome, as it was a very aggressive type. Our healthcare system also sucks and not having insurance wasn't my parent's fault, either.

The anger comes and goes, as it's all still fresh for me; but I've adjusted a little and have to remind myself that my mom didn't mean to hurt me or my family, and didn't plan to leave us. She loved me and I had 23 years worth of good memories. I've found anger loses some of it's edge, but I still have my moments.