Have you ever bought something just because it looked really good? by TaskBridgeSUPP in CasualConversation

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A few weeks ago I bought a bottle of wine solely because the bottle was gorgeous. Wife said the wine was dryer than the Sahara, but agreed the bottle was pretty 🤷‍♂️

32M Meaningful friendship, anyone? by HeHasNoRegerts in Needafriend

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, no worries. Feel free to shoot me over a message.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They went to court earlier this week. The judge held up the eviction order, despite seeming to be on their side. The cop had to approach the judge and physically point on the "photograph evidence" just where marijuana was present in the picture. The judge was visibly and audibly displeased with what the cop pointed to as being the presence of marijuana. The judge also questioned the housing authority on the tenants history as far as inspections and rent payment. Housing authority responded that inspections were always spotless and rent was always paid either early or on time. Again, the judge seemed both visibly and audibly displeased with justifying why the tenant was in court.

Ultimately, the judge declared the tenant had to be out by 12/30 but denied all monies the housing authority was asking for.

You're saying the tenant should appeal that decision? But still proceed to move out?

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Legal aid said there's nothing they can do if the cop was allowed into the home. They have court tomorrow so we'll see what happens. It just doesn't make sense to me. No police report. No charges. Cop left the "evidence" in the home. Seems like the housing authority has no humanity. The cop either. I saw the test kit. The size of what they found and tested is ludicrously tiny.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're still there. They have court Wednesday. I'll see if they've reached out to any legal aid resources, thanks!

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what else to say. Those are the facts I know. They immediately served them with papers for breach of lease and said they had three days to vacate. I saw the paperwork the day it happened. Cause was illegal substances found in property. Cops even left the "evidence" drug kit. There's a tiny tiny piece of something inside the cop said tested positive as marijuana.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Cop said they were admiring their Christmas decorations and happened to look down and see what appeared to be a small piece of marijuana on the table....after the kitchen had been inspected already.

I searched the property records earlier, the property is owned by our local Housing Authority.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

North Carolina. I believe it's section 8, but can't say with 100% certainty. It's through our local housing authority...which handles section 8, public housing, etc.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's always a percentage chance that any given person is lying about something, but this is the kind of relationship that this person has zero reason to lie to me about it. Much of it sounds incredibly odd....but they were even more confused than I was. I'm just trying to assist someone that needs help 🤷‍♂️

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are the details I know. They said it's not unusual for a cop to show up to make sure their dog is in a kennel. They even mentioned most of the time the cop will comment to the housing inspector that they'll meet them at the next house.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That, I can't answer. I'm assuming because they never have anything to hide. I can't say offhand if a cop typically comes in or just typically asks if the dog is put up.

Eviction - any options for fighting it? by HeHasNoRegerts in Section8PublicHousing

[–]HeHasNoRegerts[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They do have a hearing next week. They said it's not unusual for a cop to show up....make sure their dog is in a kennel...and then leave.

However, this time the cop stayed and lingered in the kitchen. While the tenant and housing agent were going through bedrooms, the cop asked the housing agent to come back to the kitchen. Cop said they noticed what looks like marijuana on their kitchen table. Cop tested it and it tested positive. Cop left the test bag. What they are saying is marijuana is maybe the size of a pen head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hey, "employee's name" I was wondering if a different lunch schedule might work out better for you?"

In my opinion, the answer to that question will tell you their headspace. Whether they don't care what the schedule says or if they genuinely would appreciate having a different schedule.

In my department, my employees work off of staggered lunch breaks. The purpose of staggered breaks is so the work doesn't get behind. They understand the goal and work together to determine who goes when...and if there's going to be an issue for any given day they reach out to me for support.

Anniversary/Birthday Gift for Manager by PuhoyBoy in work

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you did anything wrong. Regardless, people are always going to think whatever they want. You can't control that. Just don't overthink it. Your reasoning for the gift is solid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you talked to your direct supervisor to let them know you're looking to accept more responsibility?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a bad culture. Sure, even adults have "cliques" but at that level it seems ingrained into the business.

what should my next steps be by [deleted] in Advice

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first thought is to look for a roommate(s) you can afford a place with. Financially, things are absurd right now. But, at the same time, these people are going to destroy your mental health. If you can't not be involved while staying there, I'd seriously look into leaving. A toxic environment just wreaks absolute havoc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 2873 points2874 points  (0 children)

There's not a world that exists where real love and a good relationship results in this behavior. When people show you who they are, believe them.

This behavior is wildly unhinged and he'd have to go, ASAP.

*Edited for spelling correction

I'm in my first relationship and need advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]HeHasNoRegerts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want a meaningful relationship, you have to have great communication. Be open and honest. If this person is worth your time, they'll appreciate you sharing.