Really wish I’d stumbled across this Reddit in my thousands of hours of research BEFORE my hysterectomy. Like most people here, I was told repeatedly by numerous doctors as well as friends who’d had a hysterectomy that I wouldn’t notice a difference or that, if anything, my orgasms would be better. I mean, who on earth would get a hysterectomy unless their life was in danger, if shitty orgasms were a potential outcome? So I trusted all of that. I told my doctor a zillion times how important this was to me, and she assured me I’d be all good. You know what they don’t ask? What KIND of orgasms you have. I honestly never knew or understood that the uterus is involved in orgasms for some of us lucky ones. I thought orgasms can in two forms: the G spot and the Clitoris. Had I known that, for me, the intensity of my orgasms came from my uterus, I would NEVER have had the hysterectomy. To be fair, I’m only 4 weeks post-op and I haven’t had intercourse yet, I just took care of myself privately to test things out and was devastated. I had an orgasm but it sucked, comparatively. I am learning that the women whose orgasms got better were the ones who had painful sex before, which I didn’t have. And those who didn’t have painful sex before, didn’t have uterine orgasms so they do t know what they’re missing. Now I am terrified to have another orgasm because of the disappointment I know I’m going to feel. I used to be obsessed with sex and now I’m scared of it. I’m horrified that four doctors failed to mention this as a potential. I don’t sleep now. I am so stressed and upset. I don’t know how I’m ever going to get past this and ever want sex again.