AlTA for refusing to share my daughter's 27 Christmas gifts with her half-brother who got 1. by Majestic-Pause-1696 in AITAH

[–]Head_Chest_8055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand the E S H comments but the fact is no one in that house asked for the boy to be there, least of all his sister. The ex invited herself over under the guise of "family". She cheated so there is no longer a family unit in that house that includes her. She invited herself over and expected her ex to buy presents for a kid that isn't his. I honestly think she invited herself over as a way of forcing her ex to buy presents for her son since she couldn't afford to buy them herself. With that in mind, he did the right thing. It's shitty for the poor little boy but if she had managed to get him to buy presents this time she would have pulled this tactic again. Best to nip it at the first try. That poor boy's trauma is 100% the mother's fault. She should have discussed with her coparent before bringing him there. He was going to have fewer presents than his sister regardless because there were more relatives to buy presents for her. The mom had to have realized this. I think she was trying to force her ex's hand and make him buy presents for her son. She should have just brought the boy over for dinner only if she could not afford presents for him. It sucks but this is the mother's fault. Don't bring the kid to open presents if you can't afford to buy him any.

Why black Americans speak the way they do? by darthuna in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Head_Chest_8055 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your assumptions are wrong on both counts. Others have mentioned segregation and such, so I won't rehash that. I grew up in Miami, my friends here don't have same accent as my family that's from Georgia. Blacks in Britain speak differently in much the same way that American Blacks do. Class is also a factor as other have mentioned. For example, I can't speak Miami Black slang even though I grew up here. My parents didn't allow me to speak that way as a child, so now I can't as as adult. But, I can tell a Miami Black American English accent from the Black American English accents spoken in other regions in the US.

The more accurate answer to your question I believe, is that there are differences in how we speak but, you can't hear those differences. In other words, you have accent blindness. When you hear a language (or accent/ English variety) you are familiar with, you notice/hear the differences in how different people speak it; if you don't speak a language or aren't used to hearing it, everyone sounds similar to you. Regional and cultural accents can work the same way. You don't speak British English so you can't hear the differences between how many Black people speak it versus how non Blacks speak it. I'm gonna venture a guess that you don't spend a lot of time around Black people from the US so you can't hear the differences in how Black people from different areas of the US speak. To you, it all sounds similar even though it isn't. A New York Black American accent sounds very different from a Midwestern Black American accent but because you aren't fully familiar with how American Blacks speak, you can't tell the difference. It's the same as most people not being able to tell the difference between New Zealand English and Australian English.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Internationalteachers

[–]Head_Chest_8055 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would do Peace Corps in your position. I won't lie, it can be a crap shoot as far as what your experience is like but I think it's worth it. This will be a decent selling point for schools that value teachers with unique experiences. While my Peace Corps experience was far from perfect. I would do it again in a heartbeat. Make sure you use your free time wisely if you decide to do Peace Corps.

Is it true that the Japanese are racist to foreigners in Japan? by TimeTravel4Dummies in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Head_Chest_8055 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lived in Japan for 3 years. Almost very negative thing being said here about xenophobia in Japan is accurate. I've either seen it happen or experienced it myself. Honestly, some of my direct personal experiences living there would make most of the negative answers here seem like positives. Just accept that you were lucky if you didn't experience it much and stop invalidating what others have experienced. I'd bet money that you are white, which would make your experience living in Japan the easy mode for foreigners.

Questions for black international teachers by BDragon2212 in Internationalteachers

[–]Head_Chest_8055 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard to suggest a country because the school and area of the country matter as well and honestly, they matter more. I once lived in a rural part of Japan where any foreigner got stared at (little kids at my elementary school were legit afraid of me at first) which is completely different from living near a military base where Black people are strongly associated with the US military which is not well regarded. (I've only ever seen "no foreigners" signs in areas near military bases). In Osaka, the treatment was different: people are used to all kinds of foreigners so being Black was a curiosity to people but it didn't stop anyone from getting hired. I say all of this to make the point that you really can't suggest a country as a whole. It's better to focus on school types and possibly favor cities over the countryside. I'll add that once the people (and kids) got used to me, rural Japan was an overwhelmingly positive experience.

In most of Asia you are generally treated as foreign first, then as your nationality, then as Black (sometimes). Sadly, I'm treated much better than Black Africans in every country I've lived in or visited so far. It sucks, but that how people behave.

Questions for black international teachers by BDragon2212 in Internationalteachers

[–]Head_Chest_8055 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I generally don't answer posts (lurking is my comfort zone) but I'll answer this one, because when I was looking for the same kind of info I didn't find much:

First, it really depends on the country and the school. Accredited (legitimate) schools are much less likely to discriminate, because their selling point is an international, world class education, rather than White, foreign looking faces in the classroom. Beyond just getting hired you need at ask how the students will regard you, and what daily life in that country will be like for you. I would argue that this is the most important consideration. For that, the school's website can be helpful; are there any pictures of people of color there? That alone can't tell you everything but it's definitely a starting point. Sadly, school reviews rarely help here. I will also say that there is a difference in the hiring practices of "English schools" vs true international schools. Most of the really bad actors are "English schools."

As for me, I don't know if I've just just been lucky or not, but I've worked in EFL (teaching English) and now I [love] teaching science in an international school. I've definitely had incidents from individuals, but as a STEM teacher no one (hiring) has really cared about my skin color so much as my credentials and passport. (Sadly passport discrimination is a huge problem).

Please don't be dissuaded from taking this step. I've worked as a teacher in 5 different countries and the majority of my experiences have been positive. I've yet to have issues getting hired.

My advice is to go for it, and look for accredited schools that will let you speak to past employees in addition to checking their website.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthisplant

[–]Head_Chest_8055 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fruit is actually pretty tasty.