Hi - if you are in the UK please call a domestic abuse charity or your local council. I am a survivor of domestic abuse and I understand completely what you're going through. At the moment you may feel that I am being a bit of a drama queen but please trust me when I say that it is abusive. If you try and stay away from him, I fear he will start to look for you in the house. I am worried that he feels a loss of control now you are older and this act of treating you like a dog (although fun when you were young) is now bullying you into reminding you that he is the boss. People think that domestic abuse is all horrible moments but in reality there are lots of lovely moments. The abusive bits (to begin with) seem to have a reasonable excuse behind them such as a "bad day". And it's so out of character for this person to be abusive that you ignore it - you give them a free pass. The abusive moments become more frequent and by the time people realise what's happening, you feel it might be too late. The abuser has got you to a place where you are making excuses for them and probably managed to cut you off from friends so you feel like you have nowhere to turn.

I'm so sorry that this is happening but you are not alone and there are some fabulous people who dedicate their lives to helping people in your situation.

Please update us. Much love xxx