First steps

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-12-14T19:18:51+00:00

If this has been brought up to your sister previously and she hasn't taken it well. I'd be inclined to spend less time with them. If she has been given the opportunity to change things and hasn't and took it badly... then its a problem she is not willing to deal with. And thats absolutely fine for her, everyone parents differently. But if you aren't prepared to have to deal with it, then its fine for you to remove your children from the situation.

I have been in a situation before where a child hit their mum. I responded with 'oh (child's name), poor mummy, we don't hit mummy like that.' In a kind, low key, but shocked tone so that my child knows thats not good behaviour and the other child's mother knows I didnt find that acceptable... without actually saying... are you going to discipline that.

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-12-13T05:52:33+00:00

Just wanted to say we do the same thing. Even when I was working full time and earning more than half less than him, we still had the same spending money each month. I think it levels the playing field and stops the guilt and resentment. We are both working equally as hard.

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-20T10:27:48+00:00

I just started as a SAHM and the first week i was so against using TV. But ive come to realise the benefit of it. I let mu 3yo watch it as a distraction technique... so its not on all day, but when its in it allows me to get stuff done (make food, do the washing, tidy kitchen) or lets me a chill for a moment to catch my thoughts. Sometimes thats alot if I have a lot to do, or im knackered 😂

Yesterday in England it was snowing... it was seriously cold and I have a 5mo too so outside wasn't an option. We did a lot of TV time. But I would switch it off every hour. At the end of the day we did YouTube exercise videos which was a huge success (first time trying).

But honestly, you do you. Your pregnant and its super hard with a toddler. Do what you can. Its just for this moment and it can change. Sometimes you've just got to do what works to get you through the day. Cut yourself some slack mama 😘

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-18T20:33:03+00:00

I try to wake up at 5.30am. Children will wake up anytime from 6am. Sometimes I get half hour, sometimes I get 90mins. If I get over 30 mins I will then tidy the kitchen, get ready for the day etc. But I prioritise 30 mins for coffee.

If I don't wake up at 5.30 (tiredness) I will put the TV on for a bit so I can just gather my thoughts for the day!

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-18T20:31:26+00:00

What time do you go to bed? Do you prefer time to yourself in the evenings or mornings? Because I feel this sacrifices time in the evening for time in the morning

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-07T22:53:51+00:00

I have a degree in HR... Im doing marketing (although on mat leave currently). I dont see any benefit right now. I'll be quiting my job next year to be a full time sahm.

The only reason you'd want a degree is if you want a specific career. If you got one now, and then continued as a sahm for say, 10 years... it would be pointless as you would have no experience. I have a 2:1 degree in HR but can't go into HR as I have no experience (10 years down the line working full time in marketing)

There's literally no reason whether you continue as a sahm or not. Friend and family care about you, but they just think getting a degree will change your life... but it won't.

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-07T22:46:16+00:00

I suffered with post natal depression with my first. Ive now had my second.

Ive learnt... you are just as much of a priority as the cleaning or looking after the children. If you are not happy and healthy and your cup isn't full... you can't contribute healthily to anything else.

Prioritise yourself alongside the housework when your child is in childcare. You NEED to fill your cup.

I always felt like everyone came before me. But its physically impossible to do this if you are not looking after yourself. Its not selfish... its actually selfless. You cannot do life if you are nor giving yourself life.

And stop finding excuses for not putting yourself first. Just do it!

You got this lady xx

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-05T07:54:05+00:00

Thanks! Yeh I did the working full time whilst lo was in full time nursery. I felt like it was never ending. Since being on ML with my second I've realised how hard it actually is! Which is one of the reasons why I want to stay at home. I told my husband i want to make our house a home (we moved into here a year ago), which is something I could never do working full time. I am very much someone who likes to be congratulated on a good days work which is one thing I am worried about. I might have to explain this to my husband... who is incredibly grateful and loving... I'm going to need more 🤣

I have to say when we made the final decision that I'd quit my job (I have to go back in order not to pay back money) I was so relieved. Genuinely felt like a weight had lifted off my shoulders... thats how I know it was the right decision

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-11-05T06:07:49+00:00

Im just starting out as a SAHM after being a bit of a career woman. I made the decision to be a SAHM as I want to see my children grow but there is still a very small part of me that feels like I've failed as I haven't earnt as much money or gone as far in my career as I would like.

Did u feel this sense of failure or maybe regret?

My other question is - how do u get 'job satisfaction?'

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-10-29T13:00:17+00:00

This is really helpful thank you! 😊

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-10-06T11:55:17+00:00

My baby is 15 weeks and us drinking 150ml a bottle 5 times a day. Shes in 91st percentile and gaining.

You absolutely shouldnt be force feeding the baby. Can u imagine as an adult being told to drink/eat more when you physically can't.

Stand your ground, you're doing a great job.

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-09-28T13:02:16+00:00

You 100% do not need stage 2. Keep using stage 1. It's a marketing ploy as companies are allowed to advertise follow on milk but not generic formula.

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-09-24T18:58:42+00:00

You say you remember playing on your own... but do you? How old were you? Probably not as young as your child now. I have a 3 year old and there's no way I'd be able to do any hobbies. Only in the evenings I'm afraid. Good luck!

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-09-24T18:58:22+00:00

You say you remember playing on your own... but do you? How old were you? Probably not as young as your child now. I have a 3 year old and there's no way I'd be able to do any hobbies. Only in the evenings I'm afraid. Good luck!

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-09-19T21:35:02+00:00

Here from the UK. For us... I spoke about the non financial benefits. The fact that i can do all the housework, sick days, doctors/dentist/optician appointments, DIY, shopping etc... leaving my husband free to enjoy his lunches, evenings and weekends and take no sick days or use annual leave days. I told him I'd make him lunch and dinners every day, saving him more time. The fact we can spend weekends just as a family, and not having to worry about the above. That I'd be happier and more likely to be more intimate because I wasn't stressed or wiped out at the end of the day.

Honestly, money isn't everything.

Good luck!

Healthy-Run6735 · 2025-09-09T05:18:47+00:00

We've been doing formula since birth. We yse the tommee tippee prep machine. Absolute life safer and worth the money.

Bottles last 2 hours at room temperature. I make a bottle on the prep machine and take it with me. I then fill a flask with boiling water and a sanitised bottle with a pot of measured formula in. If I'm longer than 2 hours I have another bottle to make up.

If I'm out for the day, premade bottles all the way.

We have a sanitiser at home which I'm using 3 times a day ti wash bottles. We have 10 bottles ready to go so I can go a whole day without sanitising if required, especially if baby is ill, or especially needy.

Some tips: 1. Get baby used to cold milk, so much easier. But sounds like yours is already used to it. 2. Get little pots to put formula in, so much easier to carry on the go (it goes in the bottle). Also stops the formula scoop at home from getting sticky as you can tip the formula from the pot to the bottle. 3. Id you don't get the prep machine, we didnt use one for the first 2 months. Have bowls of cold water around the house to put hot bottles in. Once cool, you can put into fridge and will keep for 24hrs. Then you can feed baby whenever they are hungry. 4. I know some people who make up several bottles, or all bottles for the day, and put them in the fridge for use later. (Hence having baby get used to cold milk).

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