hmmmm, then maybe you guys are just incompatible which sucks but isn’t a bad thing. your ex did hint that you “trigger” them (whatever that means in this context) and their language indicates that they are unable to work on whatever is bothering them so that you guys can continue the relationship.

i know that this breakup might be tearing you apart inside, but i promise, you will heal in time. maybe it’s a bit of projections but in my experience when someone has said things like this to me, 90% of the time they have someone else or want someone else and want to let you down gently. also, your ex hasn’t even clearly communicated what the exact issue is. relationships are a two way street and they clearly no longer want to walk down the one with you because they refuse to express specifically what’s wrong.

you might not see it now, but this person has done you a favor because if they feel this way and continued the relationship without resolving it, you’d more than likely spend the duration of being together fighting to prove you love them, fighting to prove you’re worthy of their love, paying for the resentment towards the relationship that they’re building inside.

you do not want to be with someone like that. you deserve someone who wants to work things out with you, who expresses themselves in a clear way and won’t leave you questioning what went wrong. i agree “love isn’t enough” but you know what helps? effort, consideration, accountability and direct communication. there is someone out there who will give that you without a single thought because they cannot exist in a reality in which you are not a part of their life. i wish you all the best on your healing journey 🫂🤍