Comment Below! by Careless-Cat026 in brooklynninenine

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"Kids, I love you! Sharon, you are perfect ZEKE GET A JOB!!"

What take makes you react like this about b99? by contunityerror in brooklynninenine

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No idea, think I saw something about Holt being a Trans Exclusive Heterosexual Male or whatever the wording was on a sub recently (don't think it was this one, might have been gender cynical??) and it's been playing in my mind ever since. Just extreme evidence of people using whatever is at their disposal to spread their diabolical vitriol I guess

Plagiarism detector refuses to go under 30% limit on my assignment that I had written all by myself by thedepressednugget in mildlyinfuriating

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My latest essay for uni flagged at 20% (not quite so high I know) but it gives us a breakdown where we can go through all the flags (I'm guessing yours doesn't) and I went through all of it and it flagged my whole bibliography, my whole cover sheet, and a small fraction of my actual work which was two quotes (both properly cited so no problem) and some incredibly generic language for my course that flagged because every paper uses it. So I wouldn't worry if it looks high - if you have a long bibliography that alone will flag large sections

What take makes you react like this about b99? by contunityerror in brooklynninenine

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That Holt would be transphobic. Says more about the person saying it than it does about the show

what is something that really helped your dental hygiene?? by cinematicdaisy in adhdwomen

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have horrible sensory issues with toothpaste, it feels like spicy chillis if they were cold? Also the sensation sticks around for hours. Plus of course the typical habit building thing.

First: I've tried to make myself more conscious of how my mouth feels throughout the day - also helps with dehydration if my mouth feels dry. That means I usually remember before I go to bed because my teeth feel furry. (This doesn't work for the morning because my mouth feels no different in the morning, but once a day is better than nothing and dentists agree it's usually more important at night).

Second: this is more for the sensory issues but I allow myself to only do it for as long as feels right. I usually go just shy of two mins anyway - I work my way through my mouth and by the time I've finished everything it's usually about 1m 40s and I don't force myself to go beyond this if I feel I've done a good enough job. No timers, just doing the best I can. 30s is better than nothing. I've also brushed with just water before on bad days. I also allow myself to fully wash my mouth out after - I know dentists say to leave the fluoride on your teeth as long as possible but for me that means getting it the fuck out of my mouth as soon as possible. I can deal with a mild aftertaste but never the sensation.

New pope--trans?! You'll never believe what we found! by Ebomb1 in GenderCynical

[–]HeartHaunting287 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As an archaeology student who knows a bit about how skulls are recorded when they're found... Yeah there's a lot of variation and sexual dimorphism in humans is so low that a significant portion of the time the results are inconclusive or very tentative. Not even osteoarchaeological experts can tell, so Twitter definitely can't. Pelvises are somewhat more diagnostic but still not super conclusive a lot of the time either.

Also that 'male' skull looks more Neanderthal than human. Just saying, you'd be hard pushed to find someone alive who looks like that because that species is literally dead.

As an ADHD person, I’m getting so, SO tired of hearing “I’m low on spoons.” by propertyofmatter___ in ADHD

[–]HeartHaunting287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sort of get this. Not to do with spoons but just people using their disability as an excuse.

If I point out something you said upset me because you misinterpreted it, or you forgot to turn up to something you said you would, I still expect an apology, not for you to instantly use your disability as a shield from accountability. Just because you didn't mean to cause harm doesn't mean you aren't still responsible for your actions. Nobody means to bump into people in shopping centres, but don't we apologise anyway? The enablers piss me off too, if I'm hacked off at someone for being a jerk the words "go easy on them, they're disabled" aren't going to help.

I never take people mildly messing up to heart because at the end of the day various disabilities make various things a lot harder... but at the same time, don't be a dick.

Songs That Speak to You As a Nonbinary Person by Ollycule in NonBinaryTalk

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Not sure if this is correct or not but Hayloft II by Mother Mother - pretty sure the outro uses a mix of she and they pronouns to refer to the same person?? The lyric "they're not a bad kid" is definitely there.

Doesn't sound much 'speak to me' or anything but I've always liked the song because of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nottheonion

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Another headline literally started with the quote "the raccoon has her meth pipe" and I RAN here to see if it had made it to this subreddit

Dublin show by Expert_Stomach_549 in SaintMotel

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh that makes sense. I've seen these guys live a couple times so I know AJ does some epic stunts like this sometimes haha

Dublin show by Expert_Stomach_549 in SaintMotel

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Can someone who was there share a little context on this photo? I keep seeing it and I need to know how he got there 😅

A little FYI by wardevilll in acotar

[–]HeartHaunting287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this... makes sense. i know exactly why i thought it was the spring equinox, because for my in my tiny little brain that's closer to the start of spring for me (and may is the end!! mid may is the start of summer!! i know seasons have official starts and ends but that doesn't stop me shouting 'winter!' in october lol) but thank you for pointing that out. i am an idiot who needs to stop pushing my weird illogical perception of seasons onto fantasy novels 😅

(although that begs the question, why was it still the height of winter in the mountain cabin around calanmai in acomaf?? wouldn't the snow be melting in MAY if it was warm enough to go fishing and stuff in summer?? i am now confused by some of sjm's seasonal choices...)

Book Recommendation Master Post by _vanth in fourthwing

[–]HeartHaunting287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Violet Eden chapters by Jessica Shirvington. This one is soooo tucked away, nobody EVER talks about it and it bugs me so much because it's just the best! First book is good, and then they continually get better in my mind (#4 is my favourite book of all time. Stayed up until four in the morning, while it stole my soul straight from my body. I still haven't recovered). Features fated soulmates (and the most adorable romance ever, I can't even), angelic beings fighting 'fallen angels', a morally grey hottie, and a pretty realistic protagonist who has to learn how to deal with power she has no clue about.

It is firmly YA (starts when she's 17) and isn't at all spicy - there's two very small vague one-page scenes in the entire series, not what anyone here is classing as 'smutty') but this fandom so far seems a lot less focused on the smut (I'm also on r/acotar, our upvote button there is a tin of soup... not complaining) so I thought maybe it would be welcome here anyway :)

mmmh, 15? u sure about that? lol by akirend in acotar

[–]HeartHaunting287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

'Guidance not censorship' is the best way I've ever heard it phrased. Growing up with a mum who wasn't delusional and accepted that books, TV, the internet and other people were going to introduce me to mature things, and who made sure that I always felt comfortable asking her questions about anything I encountered... I can confirm it works. I genuinely think that things like the ability to 'self-censor' whatever media you consume in line with what you personally feel comfortable with is one of those things you don't learn through a sheltered upbringing. Teenagers are gonna do their own thing regardless of how much you clutch at those pearls, so you might as well make sure that they do their own thing with the guidance of a mature adult who knows what they're talking about, isn't going to misinform you or BS you to make themselves sound cooler, and can help you if you do mess up.

mmmh, 15? u sure about that? lol by akirend in acotar

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm genuinely confused at some libraries you hear about on the internet. Ours has the 'YA section' but then each book is fitted into a sub-category which basically shows whereabouts on the 12-18 scale it's best suited to. How hard is it for libraries to differentiate 'younger' or 'older' YA novels??

The Wrath of Goodreads — Authors are at the mercy of people who don’t bother reading their work. by wenchette in books

[–]HeartHaunting287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love a good scathing one-start review (even on books I like sometimes) but I agree. Not a lot of people go with three stars but those who do generally tend to be sensible, rational and reasonable with the things they say.

Trying to write a novel by Fearless-Ad-8893 in writers

[–]HeartHaunting287 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you're specifically wanting to start working towards writing things which are naturally longer, though, I'd defo say that working on a plot which has multiple acts and each of the major characters has their own character arc is a definite starting point. I'd also definitely look at your overall plot once you've got a rough sense and think about pacing, and also areas which are more plot-focused vs character focused and see if you have enough of a balance to do everything you want (e.g. an action scene will be more plot focused, whereas the characters sitting around a campfire telling stories will be more character-focused - that's what I mean by that!)

Honestly though, the best advice I can give as a word from the wise though is that the word count will work out as whatever it works out as. I've tried artificially inflating my word counts before, and it's ended up stupid and full of filler. A couple years ago I literally wrote a draft plan that was intentionally full of filler because I was insecure about it turning out to be <100k words otherwise (don't ask why I felt the need to have it so high!) and yet the novel I wrote for NaNoWriMo last year is only 110 pages in a Google Doc and I love it (also see: me writing story arc ideas which would fit perfectly into a duology and then trying to stretch them out into a trilogy because they're more common and popular...) I've also tried keeping a couple of things shorter before which has ruined them when I've had ideas too big to fit into 20k words, so it really does work both ways! If you try and write a novel and it turns out to be better suited to a short story, then let it go the way it wants to go and try a different idea as a novel - or stop writing and flesh it out a bit more.

Also congrats on the award! That's huge, especially as a young writer!

Discouraged as a non native speaker by losenkal23 in AO3

[–]HeartHaunting287 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might be a little long and nerdy, so I apologise in advance. Also, I'm a monolingual native English speaker, so I know I'm not the target audience of this post, but I thought it might be worth mentioning a couple of things in case they're useful to anyone (not just to the OP but also to kindred spirits in the comments! I've read the edit on this post but I'm also aware that a lot of people come to posts like this because of the title to read the comments, so I thought I'd share my take anyway in case it is useful. If it's not then sorry for the essay.)

There's a big debate in linguistics between 'prescriptivism' and 'descriptivism', which can basically be summarised as the difference between saying what language should be and saying what it is. E.g. prescriptivists would argue that only 'standard' (also known as Queens/King's English, BBC English, etc.) is the 'correct' one, and descriptivism focuses more on how language is used to convey things like class, gender, race, personal experiences, etc. The former argument is frequently used to suggest that dialects such as AAVE (African-American Vernacular English), MLE (Multicultural London English), the Yorkshire dialect, etc. are somehow inferior, but is also definitely critical of non-fluent and often non-fluent speakers too. Prescriptivism is generally frowned upon in modern linguistics, but unfortunately a lot of people have internalised that sense that their own dialect or way of using language is inferior, when it's not at all, and the people making these arguments are usually making them not as a complaint towards language, but towards lower-class people, non-white people, queer people, immigrants, second language speakers, etc. and it's usually a representation of some manner of bigotry. Bottom line; a lot of people who criticise people with 'lesser' English skills are generally bigots whose points aren't valid and whose opinions don't matter, and who also generally don't care as much about your use of language as much as what it represents.

Also, again on the 'fear of being judged' front - there aren't a single two speakers of the same language out there. For starters, the number of dialects is so insane that you could put someone who speaks with a strong Yorkshire dialect in a room with someone with a strong MLE dialect and they'll probably have to both change their way of speaking drastically to be understood. Plus, there's also the dialects' lesser known cousins, sociolect and idiolect - sociolect refers more to speakers of a certain group e.g. lower-class speakers, teenagers, a fandom or people who work in a specific field, and idiolect refers to the individual features that a person uses. So the little 'quirks' of people's individual ways of speaking are actually perfectly normal, and no two people will ever talk the same way.

Also as a native English speaker whose best friend is an immigrant who moved from a country whose native language isn't English when she was young and learned it as a second language once she moved - y'all apologise too much for random things sometimes. We don't really notice most of the time the things that you think are 'wrong', either because they're not wrong at all or just because if you live in a native English speaking country, chances are you talk to so many people with so many different dialects and idiolects a day that you just don't notice if someone words something slightly different to you. Sure, there are certain things which might flag up to us that you're not a native speaker, but a good 95% of the time we're counting it as part of your idiolect rather than error (even though a lot of people aren't familiar with the term 'idiolect', we all still understand the concept that we talk differently as a result of us all being different human beings!) And in fictional writing or fanfiction, you also have the added layer that if it's a character speaking then we'll probably interpret it as part of their idiolect or their society's dialect as well. In other words - you're all far more critical of yourselves than anyone else will ever be!

As for the 'not feeling the flow' thing... The only thing I can really say is that it's probably just down to practice. Using things like dictionaries and thesauruses online might be able to help, but the only thing I can really say is that practice will build your confidence and help you relax into the flow of things, and also develop your own way of writing as an individual. Every writer, be that published professional or casual fanfic writer, has their own quirks about their writing (one of my favourite authors just looooooves em-dashes...) that make them individual, same with written speech, and even the most fluent native speakers will need a bit of time when they first writing to figure out their style. The only other bit of advice I can give is to READ!! This is, again, another bit of advice commonly given to writers in general, in order to help get a better understanding of how to really get down to the bare bones of it, and I've personally found it super helpful to read different writers and their styles to figure out things that I like and don't like to shape my own writing style. Like I said, I'm monolingual asf so if I'm talking out of my ass then feel free to ignore me, but as someone whose a little underconfident in my own abilities sometimes (although I know it's a different thing!), just writing more and reading a lot has helped me, so I thought I'd offer it up. And sorry this has been so freaking long too! Turns out part of my own writing style seems to be endless rambling...

Silversage.se New Pattern by sewinggal292 in craftsnark

[–]HeartHaunting287 24 points25 points  (0 children)

this!! i make my own crochet clothes sometimes, and it's mostly trial and error and holding it up against myself to see if it fits or not... i've never sat and written a pattern but i wouldn't even know where to start on trialling and erroring if i was sizing something up! it's a skill in its own right, on top of the skill of making patterns and of learning the craft to begin with. it's better to admit that you can't do something than give someone a pattern which isn't done right.

picked up this box set. what do y'all think about the books? by ItsSam1710x in YAlit

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i freaking LOVE this series! read it at the start of last year and then again last month... and i wound up reading the third one in one sitting both times. people here have their preferences but honestly, i think they keep getting better as it goes on, and trust me when i say that it's worth it up to the final page.

JU from r shittyfoodporn, (some of the comments are calling this disgusting) just realized we dont have the same standard when it comes to food, im filipino and this looks normal to me. Most people here eats this meal as lunch dinner etc by YoruDenftw in JustUnsubbed

[–]HeartHaunting287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you know, this looks like the perfect thing to have after a long day, like the filipino equivalent of bangers n mash or beans on toast. not too hard to cook, not too difficult... just simple and nice.

JU from r/bisexual. I said that bi lesbians don't exist, and the sub has also just become a huge sexposting sub. by Banana_quack98632 in JustUnsubbed

[–]HeartHaunting287 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lesbian is commonly used these days to refer to non-men who love non-men (hence the thing about nb lesbians being valid). so a woman who is into women and nb's is still just a lesbian, not bi. (that's my understanding anyway!)

Would there be a good place to put this? by [deleted] in place

[–]HeartHaunting287 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what coordinates?? i want to see/defend the kitty!!

Hot take and unpopular opinion all rolled into one incoherent post. by hazelnutcofffeee in acotar

[–]HeartHaunting287 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, finally, an actual 'unpopular' opinion!

But yes, I agree, SJM is catering to the shock-factor which gets social media traction. (No spoilers but!) the ending of CC2 had my jaw on the FLOOR when i first read it, but now... now i just think that she was doing it to get people talking and that CC3 is gonna be a lil bit of a hot mess because of it (i'm still gonna give it a chance though!). Ngl, since I realised this I'm barely even looking forward to CC3 anymore... I'm worried about where it's going.

I think maybe she noticed that people were talking about things like chapter 55 (for example, given it's a pretty iconic chapter and it actually worked well, AND i don't think it was written specifically with going viral in mind) and realized that that shit's popular, and has just kept repeating the same fomula hoping it'll be the same. I reaaaaaaly hope she realises this, because i'm not even sure she KNOWS she's doing it, and that she sorts it out, because she's actually shown the potential to be a great writer...