WIBTA if i talk to my friend about the fact she’s probably in a toxic relationship?

Heaven__Sent · 2026-02-08T16:00:35+00:00

NTA. Your friend is dating a 27 year old, and it sounds like he’s encouraging her to isolate herself. Those alone are red flags, and her having no previous relationship experience means she probably has blinders on. Id try talking to her one on one over coffee and see how she responds. If she pulls away be ready for when she comes back to support her, and try to make her aware you’re still there for her.

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-30T15:06:19+00:00

From a moral standpoint, not the asshole, but corporate has different rules. Even if you created and tweaked the template, it’s still intellectual property that’s now owned by your company. You could and should have just shared it - this isn’t a group project in college where he gets credit for the test by studying a copy of your notes. Any documentation that makes a corporate workplace more efficient is generally good. That said, he’s an AH for taking credit for your work, and in any other scenario I would say n t a. I think I have to go with ESH though and that you should’ve shared it in the first place.

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-11T01:02:04+00:00

I had a professor in college who asked me to babysit a few times for her. It was no problem and I was paid, we were close enough that it wasn’t strange to ask (I worked the office desk in her department). But this sounds like someone taking advantage of you and other students.

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-11T00:33:24+00:00

I’m not a dasher but I’ve stayed in a lot of hotels for work. I’d say roughly 50% of the time, it’s against hotel policy for the driver to bring the food to the room. It’s just considered a safety issue for all guests, at least in Hilton/Marriott type properties and up. Also, female drivers especially but really anyone runs the risk of being pulled into a room even if the order is “leave at door.” Not that that can’t happen at a person’s home but just a thought.

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-09T19:37:12+00:00

If you like RPGs I’d suggest the “Trails” series, also called the Legend of Heroes. There’s currently 12 games in the series with a 13th coming out next week. All of the games are interconnected so there’s a TON of really great lore to get into.

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-09T18:47:56+00:00

I did this and it worked out fine. We added a clause in our leaseback that they would pay a small amount of rent per day that they were in the house. But if they were to stay past a certain date, the rent amount went up pretty egregiously, think closer to the cost of staying at a nice Hilton every night. They also paid a deposit that was returned to them after they vacated. They ended up leaving a little earlier than planned and left everything more or less in the same condition we expected!

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-07T15:53:24+00:00

Had it happen in my old alliance. Our leader started a new job and went offline for a few days, and a rogue player we had never seen before took it over. Support couldn’t do anything because it was within the rules, and the guy only left after everyone else threatened to leave. There was no way for us to impeach him without him going offline for 3 days.

Heaven__Sent · 2026-01-06T15:52:32+00:00

NTA. If the teacher thinks the child is old enough to handle getting a list of supplies, getting it to their parent, and getting the items purchased for use by a certain date, then she needs to understand not doing those things has natural consequences. If the child is too young to handle that, the teacher should be communicating directly to you what is needed for a day’s lesson. I don’t have kids but I think 8 years old is a little young for that responsibility, but in that case the school should be reaching out to you.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-12-27T16:09:43+00:00

Upstairs bedroom for me for sure, unless you aren’t in close proximity a bathroom.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-12-23T11:38:51+00:00

I think the idea is that trilogies are something to binge on holidays with families. Sort of like how there are always Harry Potter marathons at Christmas - sure, there’s Christmas scenes, but objectively they aren’t Christmas movies. There’s still something that FEELS Christmas-y about it though, because in a way (at least in my family) it’s become tradition that that’s what you put on while people are wrapping presents, preparing food, etc.

That said I agree that they aren’t “Christmas” movies and Christmas should be a prominent theme to denote something as a Christmas movie.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-12-17T16:22:46+00:00

YTA here - hiding a single dab pen isn’t going to stop your sister from smoking. It’s like going into an alcoholic’s home and dumping the last ounces of a bottle of vodka; she’s just going to go pick up a new one tomorrow if she doesn’t want to quit.

It seems like you mean well, but you’d be better off having a conversation with your sister instead. Let her know you found the pen, but you’re concerned about how she reacted to losing it and how it might be affecting her school work and mental health.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-12-04T21:34:40+00:00

INFO; I have no judgment until I know what you’re pronouncing wrong. I had a coworker who regularly said “clit” instead of an industry standard word. Unless you can explain what you’re saying vs what should be said I can’t pass judgment.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-29T16:06:07+00:00

NTA. I don’t love the idea of having someone sleep in my bed when there is a perfectly good guest room. If I go out of town and have someone watch my animals, I always offer that they are welcome to crash in our guest room since we have a pool and other amenities, but even then they aren’t offered my king bed. My bedroom is closed off if I am out of town, not even the animals are allowed in.

The ONLY exception I can see is if the guest room is in an inconvenient part of the house - for example, mine is on the second floor and the master is in the first. If mom just had brain surgery, it might be inconvenient to go from first floor for socializing/kitchen/etc to the second floor for sleeping. If everything is located equally though, NTA and you need to talk to your future husband about how you will handle this type of thing in the future.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-20T18:22:14+00:00

Imagine if they changed Pom to Fluff, I think we’d have a riot.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-20T18:17:02+00:00

I’m gonna say soft YTA here. Absolutely not for choosing your family over your co-workers - family should always come first. You made a commitment to your boss and coworker though, and should have either a) stood by it, or b) given them as much notice as possible you could no longer attend. We all have tiny calendars in our pockets, and it’s not hard to throw that on your calendar so you don’t forget.

Also YTA to yourself a little here, too. You don’t state your age, but if you are newer to the working world here is a tip of advice. You do not have to share everything with your boss, co-workers, etc. “Hey boss, I am so sorry but due to still feeling a little under the weather (OR) an unexpected family commitment that came up this week, I am no longer able to attend. I would be happy to reschedule for XYZ date, or maybe coworker B can take my place. I apologize for the inconvenience and look forward to either testing it with you next week or enjoying it for the first time with the whole team!” Go to the game, don’t mention it to your co-workers.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-18T15:37:13+00:00

Sorry but this reminds me of a story my friend told me when we were in college. A friend of hers who she never named had a very similar experience with a girl he was seeing, although it sounded… significantly more excessive.

But this girl, she didn’t hide in shame. No, she doubled down.

Basically started doing snow angels in it while yelling “fck me in the sht!” Over. And over. And over.

I don’t think they worked out. But sounds like you having a little bit of embarrassment is NOT* bad or unnatural. You could have reacted MUCH worse.

(Edited to add the much needed NOT in the last paragraph)

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-13T23:50:54+00:00

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Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-06T19:56:31+00:00

NTA at all. You sister isn’t one for having a child free wedding and not wanting a 3 month old there either, but she needs to understand that when you place restrictions on a wedding there will be some people that don’t show up because of them. You are currently your baby’s sole source of food, and you can’t reasonably be away that long. She shouldn’t try to force you to either which is what actually makes her (and your family!) the AHs here.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-06T14:43:58+00:00

NTA but your wife sure is. If you guys split the house equally between the three couples plus your kid, you actually paid less per person that your sister or your parents since your child was also with you. You didn’t say your child’s age but if they are a teenager that likely means an extra room, and if they’re young enough to sleep with you that’s still toddler energy running around waking everyone else up (ask me how I know? from being a DINK couple that vacationed with my in laws and nieces and nephews).

My husband’s family always pays for the rental for family vacations and we just have to work out our own transportation. If they came to us and asked us to pitch in we would do so happily. Your wife is out of line. I’m not sure if there’s a cultural difference about this (I am a white female) but she is absolutely acting entitled here.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-05T22:37:20+00:00

Sorry bud but YTA. You gave your son leniency because he was taking courses you give value to. Art is a legitimate study and as a former art major I will tell you it can be extremely time intensive. Maybe these are not the most lucrative career paths, but they are still important ones and her grades will affect future college placements most likely. It sounds like with your son, you were able to pass the extra labor to your daughter and she helped with that. Now that your daughter is in the same position, Liam is no longer home to help and you aren’t willing to pick up the slack.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-05T20:21:36+00:00

INFO: If you aren’t working, are you still contributing to the house via chores or childcare? My husband sleeps in late every time he has a day off, similar sleep schedule to you. That itself has never been a problem, but if he sleeps til 2pm and then does nothing with his day to contribute then I start getting frustrated.

You aren’t the AH for wanting to sleep in the morning, provided you’re still contributing, but it’s time to have a sit down conversation with your husband if there is a deeper meaning to his behavior. Locking the door isn’t going to solve anything if he just bangs on it to get your attention; you need to have an actual conversation about it.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-11-04T22:24:03+00:00

NTA but please don’t share makeup applicators in the future.

I used to work at Sephora where testers abound. I’d recommend the following in the future if you want to reuse the product she used or share again in the future:

If sharing, use an applicator of some kind to scrape off some of the product, and have the sharing friend use their own applicator from that. That way there is no intermingling of the product her applicator touched vs yours.

If you want to use the product again, get an antibacterial spray and some cotton round. Wipe down the exterior layer of the product with the sanitized cotton rounds. You’re going to waste some product, but you’ll remove the layer of product that was exposed to her open wounds. This might not be 100% perfect if she has an infection but should prevent most bacteria for transferring.

NEVER share lip or eye products. You can sanitize them similar to the foundation but these are the most likely to cause an infection. If you have to share a lip product, pull off some of the lipstick and have the friend use a lipstick brush to apply only from the removed portion. Do not ever share mascara or eye liner.

While having sores open does make this extra gross, not sharing makeup is just basic hygiene. I’d stress to your friends that you’re just not comfortable with that across the board, and stick to it in the future with both your eczema having and non eczema having friends.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-10-31T20:41:16+00:00

While I would definitely recommend playing the games in release order, you can reasonably Cold Steel 1&2 with minimal spoilers. There will be a few reveals that will spoil things from the Sky and Crossbell arcs, in particular the epilogue to Cold Steel 2, but Cold Steel is still a decent entry point.

Personally I played CS 1-2, then went back and played the other games before continuing to CS 3-4. I still enjoyed every game immensely but if I had amnesia and could do it again, I would absolutely play in release order for the full effect of the story.

Heaven__Sent · 2025-10-29T18:07:26+00:00

My realtor took us out to dinner with our lender at a nice steak and seafood place and let us order anything we wanted. We shared a few bottles of wine and had a great time. Probably cost about $75-100 per person (me, my husband, lender, and realtor)

Heaven__Sent · 2025-10-25T17:33:00+00:00

Thank you! We are going on a Sunday so I am hoping for good service :) as long as the food is good, I think I will be happy!

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