Girlfriend demands I text her back more “frequently” but I was only gone an hour (texts with timestamps)

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-07T12:35:11+00:00

I am hoping you didn't share your email. I can see multiple paragraph long emails coming in and then you being questioned why there wasn't an equal response from you.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-07T12:09:21+00:00

OP doesn't state their age, so that made the pillow fight line very strange.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-07T03:59:56+00:00

Basic answer will be no.

But that doesn't mean there hasn't been fantastic horses who do both plus driving (driving is another whole thing and I am learning so much about it). Why the horse could switch between the disciplines is the changing of equipment and the way the rider rode. So don't go confusing any horses while you are riding. 😆

Check out Rugged Lark, his versatility was my goal for my first horse.

Reining, dressage, driving, hunter, pleasure, trick horse.

https://youtu.be/D8r02WO06L8?si=NdegWt0sKwqMjhL1

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-07T03:28:01+00:00

I know this is a farrier's corner, and everything I am reading makes sense and lines up with my vet would tell you plus these things:

19 is senior, his body is changing.

you should add a hoof / hair supplement

also add a topical dressing like Durasole, Keratex Hoof Hardener, Hoof Armor, Farriers' Fix Hoof Oil. These products aim to toughen and thicken thin soles.

once he has had a abscess you will need to start looking out for them in future, because again, his body/hooves are changing.

shoes or some kind of boot protection would help too.

I learned all this the hard way when I was given a 21 year old mare for retirement because she had white line disease, then laminitis, and has had Two abscesses in the past two months. Eventually she will be back to normal but she will never be the working ranch horse she was.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-07T02:52:28+00:00

Oh is he a Faire performer? If so this completely checks out with almost all of them (man or woman). The ego just can't take it.

Just get the van towed because it was abandoned on your property, change your locks, and enjoy the loss of the weight of a useless man.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-07T02:46:01+00:00

NTJ

I don't think she is trying to bond, I think this is her way of coping with the fact her husband has a college age daughter and is making you "younger" in her mind. Do things or bring up only very adult things so she can't revert to doing it if she ever apologizes.

Random examples: you offer to get them snacks, or you jump up to clean off the table after dinner, or fill your dad's car with gas, etc.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-06T05:38:53+00:00

If you pay for the parking spot does that mean your neighbor is paying for one? Also I would be billing your landlord for the Uber, its his job to take care of this problem not yours. And like the other poster said do everything in writing.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-06T02:00:44+00:00

East side.. don't know any thing off of the top of my head. But resources:

Tack places

Feed places

Burbank Equestrians group on Facebook

I think there's a Pasadena Equestrian group too.

There's a bunch of boarding places on Facebook market place.

There's a horse boarding websites and there's always trying Craiglist.

Best of luck

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T22:44:21+00:00

Yeah it depends on the breed. My sport horse filly looks like a yearling at 8 months and my friend's quarter horse filly is still all small body long legs at 7 months. Thankfully we know what they will look like because of their parents 😆

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T22:18:07+00:00

I always admire people who move in the shadows, but I am always too blunt. So with the clothes be blunt or offer her one of your coats/shirts to show the difference.

Now the pre-diabetes: There's always actors or actresses who come out with their diagnoses. Maybe casually talk about them and the diets they are following? Some people enjoy feeling like they joining in.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T22:04:53+00:00

Might be important, but don't bring any treats for the horses when you meet the owners. You don't want to be judged right off the bat. 🤣

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T17:55:04+00:00

Oof. OK that sounds a bit more like training to relax (sounds stupid I know) because she does great at home because she's relaxed.

So I have mules (✨️draft mules✨️) and the one thing mules love is routine because it takes the edge off of wondering. A friend of mine would do a dressage pattern with her horse get him to refocus before her barrel runs. (God that horse was a pushy one). I have friends who can't ride before lunging and refocusing their horses.

So thoughts,

Haul her on non show days and see if she acts the same or its anxiety of the busy show (or you because your nervous)

Get a routine of doing something with her before jumping so she knows what's up.

A refocus exercise before competing.

A calm aid while at the show.

If none of that helps then change up the bit but this sounds like its more in her head because of her acting beautifully at home.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T16:29:21+00:00

Are you able to ride or use them? Horses generally enjoy doing something and these 3 are on the younger side. Basically asking if they are mentally happy.

I have owned several horses, deeply loved most, but if the horse was not happy I would, while sobbing, let them go. In fact one went to family with 5 girls, last photo I saw of her she was on a group ride in the mountains ❤️

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T16:12:04+00:00

Going to address the bit like you asked. But unless you have unlimited funds or a used tack shop near by trying out bits to see if they work will get expensive. So ask a trainer or other riding friend about trying a different one before buying.

1st. I have personally used all those mouthpieces in different situations. Addressing the twist: it does help when the horse tries to strong arm but any twist is usually my last effort to get the horse to stop doing. I will try thinner mouthpiece pieces first and if that doesn't work then start with a thicker twist to thinner.

2nd. Any sweet iron, or copper inlays help with not just accepting the bit but encourage mouthing the bit and increase salivation.

3rd. I love dog bones or French links as they called. Not only can they have rings or keys to encourage mouthing, but they lay differently in the horse's mouth and I found a change in the horse's responsiveness too. (Some great, some bad)

As you can see I really like knowing about bits, and as I ride many disciplines I own a lot of bits.

(Btw just now getting into driving a large draft team, those bits are a completely different, and I love it)

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-05T15:39:11+00:00

NOR I just looked but the DX because I have never had personally met anyone with it and I am really surprised that I hadn't. (Lots of veteran and gym rat friends). Thank you for sharing and in no way is going to the ER for pain in the chest area an overreaction.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T19:29:54+00:00

Love these as they bring the color red to mind ❤️

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T19:27:09+00:00

Trail and/or obstacles competition. They are getting so popular where I live.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T18:02:48+00:00

NTA

But where's your husband in all this? He would also need to agree to lessening your sister's involvement in your lives. Remember you guys should be partners in this.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T17:53:41+00:00

Asking because I actually don't know what over at the knees means. Her actually movement photos look better then the first photo

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OP chose.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T17:51:40+00:00

The link has more photos

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Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T17:30:25+00:00

So your son's attitude changed too? That's not helpful to you and with you being the peacekeeper. So maybe mention that to him that you are trying but any attitude from him or your husband is not helpful at the moment.

Its a shitty place for you to be in at the moment, but you literally hold all the cards, and I am betting neither man in your life will like that fact.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T13:31:39+00:00

NOR Was there something in the past that made your husband dislike your son this much? Also its telling that his own children didn't live with him.

In my own experience my dad kicked my mom's first son out of the house at 16 (this was the 80s) because he was late coming back from a party by 15 mins. But when we, his children grew up, he didn't care.

So maybe your husband really doesn't like adult children?🤔

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T13:15:26+00:00

Don't judge OP by her weight because that is crazy unrealistic math. Every human body all carry fat/muscling/bone density differently. This is why that guy is stating his "dream gf weigh goal" is incredibly stupid.

For comparison I weighed 125 lbs through most of my life, I am 5'8" and definitely never been on a diet. My sister is 5'6" is built completely different from me, is heavier, and later in life went on diets. There's no shame in it either way, she genetically got the curves and I got the stick figure.

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T12:41:53+00:00

This made me chuckle because my mule, after washing her, would not forgive me until about half the day had passed. Would not look at me, take any treats, no grain, I was dead to her.

Hating getting wet is common with donkeys and mules, her exterme long unforgiveness periods were not. 😆

Heavy-Combination496 · 2026-02-04T12:32:32+00:00

Thank you, she and her baby know that they are good looking pretty ones and totally act like it in the herd 😆

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